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I'm lost now :/
Hey guys, I don't know what to think anymore so I thought I can turn to this lovely forum for some help. So small background story, I'm trying to attract a specific person, he showed signs of interest, I ended up confessing we were on good terms and what not. We're still friends and we talk everyday, but my best friend talked to my guy to get out some information on how he feels and if he has any feelings for anyone. He liked this girl (let's call her K) for a long time and he got over her. But my friend said that they started to talk again and that obviously bothered me :/ So he might still have feelings for her and when I discovered this I felt weak and stupid and I felt like I was wasting my time so I cried. I cried and I felt bad but a bit better after crying. But this conversation that my best friend had with him was around 2 weeks before I confessed and she never told me. And my guy and K are kinda on and off with each other. So honestly I don't know what to think or feel. I honestly feel like I should just not care and let go cus I'm sick of trying so hard and wasting my time. Even though I still want to be with him, I just I don't know. I'll still talk to him as a friend but I don't know what else I should do/think/feel. Can anyone please give me some advice? I don't feel any negative emotions by the way I feel the same how I always feel which is neutral or calm or happy regardless but this does bother me. Ugh I'm just so tired of this >_< !!! Another side note btw: my guy and I talked one night and he said he lowkey likes me (lowkey meaning secretly or there is some attraction there) after I confessed he asked me what did I think about what he said about him liking me that night. And he said he honestly didn't know why he said that. Then he said but maybe I do or maybe I don't who knows? And when I told my friends this they were kinda bothered by what he said. Also today I went to his game because he invited me to watch him play (pretty sure as a friend though pfft ;( ) and yeah advice guys? Thanks soooo much.
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Re: I'm lost now :/
There are two guys from my past right now I have kinda feelings towards. I would love to be with both of them (not at the same time of course ;D ), but I still can fall for someone new. I tell you this, because I want to make clear that you can like someone and still like someone else and be with someone else. It means nothing. It has nothing to do with you, so focus on that what you want. I don't know how old you are and I myself am pretty young, so I can only guess, but I think, when you are maybe 60 or so, you will look back and there are a few people you still kinda love. When I got together with my now ex, I still had feelings for my the ex before. So what? I stayed with my now ex, eventhough I had this feelings for the other guy.
And this was completely LoA unrelated advice, so think about what LoA can do for you.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Re: I'm lost now :/
Sanshi wrote:
There are two guys from my past right now I have kinda feelings towards. I would love to be with both of them (not at the same time of course ;D ), but I still can fall for someone new. I tell you this, because I want to make clear that you can like someone and still like someone else and be with someone else. It means nothing. It has nothing to do with you, so focus on that what you want. I don't know how old you are and I myself am pretty young, so I can only guess, but I think, when you are maybe 60 or so, you will look back and there are a few people you still kinda love. When I got together with my now ex, I still had feelings for my the ex before. So what? I stayed with my now ex, eventhough I had this feelings for the other guy.
And this was completely LoA unrelated advice, so think about what LoA can do for you.
Thank you for the advice Sanshi 💙 And I guess I understand, I can look back and think of people and I still do love them in some way. I really don't wanna give up believe me but sometimes I just think "will it be worth it? Am I just wasting my time?" But then after I just forget about those thoughts and don't really care. My friends told me to just keep talking to him and my friends boyfriend told me that the relationship between me and him will get there and for some reason his advice stuck to me. Deep down I still know we'll be together and if we don't that's cool. I just really like him, we've all been there right? Haha ;)
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Re: I'm lost now :/
but sometimes I just think "will it be worth it? Am I just wasting my time?"
What makes you think that way? The right way of applying LoA is to do everything to be happy. How can that be a waste of time? It sounds as if you would try to effort your way to your desire and that simply never works. You can't speed up the process by visualsing more, doing RS more and so on and not being happy. You can attract him by not thinking about him at all and being incredible happy, no matter what the reason is. But it doesn't work the other way around. Thinking about him and doing techniques while feeling less than good won't bring the desired results.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Re: I'm lost now :/
but sometimes I just think "will it be worth it? Am I just wasting my time?"
What makes you think that way? The right way of applying LoA is to do everything to be happy. How can that be a waste of time? It sounds as if you would try to effort your way to your desire and that simply never works. You can't speed up the process by visualsing more, doing RS more and so on and not being happy. You can attract him by not thinking about him at all and being incredible happy, no matter what the reason is. But it doesn't work the other way around. Thinking about him and doing techniques while feeling less than good won't bring the desired results.
Honestly I'm always happy, there is rarely a time where I am upset. But every time something seems to be going well with him, I find out something that's the complete opposite of what I want or desire. And then I'm just like "whyyyyy Universe >____< "
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Re: I'm lost now :/
but sometimes I just think "will it be worth it? Am I just wasting my time?"
You can't speed up the process by visualsing more, doing RS more and so on and not being happy.
I don't really visualize or try any techniques that often. I just let it unfold but sometimes it unfolds in such bad ways that go against my desire.
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