You're on the right path You're balancing it all out without holding anything in or forcing anything. You're aware of your value, your ability to connect and love, while being aware that you still have feelings for this specific person and would like to have a chance with them again. You're gaining a really healthy perspective on it all and most importantly, you're actually allowing yourself to be happy.;...it'll still take time, time for you to grow and develop as a person and shift your perspective more and more from lack and fear to openness and love. You're not totally there yet because you still have a lot of focus and attention on her, but when you train yourself to at least give you and your life more focus and attention ,you will be on an even more greater path. 

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I've gotten exs I've wanted back by two ways, one was just actually moving on, which was before I knew anything about LOA and just followed my mum's old advice of crying it out and then cutting contact and going out with friends and letting it go but being ok with it. It would take a while, up to months or even a year, and they would come back when I was either very involved with someone else or coming out of another break up. The other way was when I followed ex back programs, which are similar to LOA teachings, and just lived life, went out, looked good, did one or two little tricks to get their attention but acted as if I had moved on and was totally ok with the break up. 
The one problem, which is a big one, was keeping them and/or being happy with them again. Problem is, when you start to move on and then find yourself back in the relationship again, you come across odd problems where you find that you've actually changed a bit and you don't 'fit' in with the relationship like you used to. The time when you decided to move on or at least pretend to, you actually become independent and when you start having fun alone, you kind of lose that attachment to the feeling that being with this one person is the only way you could have fun. That's good and it even brings them back, but then after the initial 'so happy to be back, this is the best feeling in the world!' you start to look at this person differently, like you realise that you met them, fell in love and they left you, but you actually managed to laugh again after all of that and without them. It's weird because it's not like you take them for granted, but it's like you feel more ok with yourself to the extent that you kind of want to do more things without them and you kind of think of them a little negatively for leaving you. The things that were annoying about them but didn't bug you so much before, start to actually bug you. You look at them and think 'did you always get this loud at parties?' 'have you always been narrow minded about this subject?' 'are you going to be stuck in your traditional views of this thing?' This might have happened over time, but the fact that they also left you, just seems to make it worse. 'You can't form an opinion on anything political but you still left me?' You start to feel like you can actually do better, especially when they treat with you with any form of negativity or neglect or accidental disrespect. They might snap at you in the morning because they're grumpy and you think in your mind 'I could actually do well without you, I don't need this'. 
The fact that you actually healed a little from them will cause little rifts, but in a way that actually is ok and good because it actually means you grew a little, even though it was without them. They might tease you over something you used to do or say and you get irritated because you don't do that anymore, but they're not used to this new you. They might still expect behaviours from you which you changed, they might be even annoyed slightly that you grew and changed and bettered yourself. 
Of course, people do have relationships where they get back and stay back but for that to happen, both parties really need to grow and evolve in the mean time in ways that can still compliment each other. You might find that you're over petty jealousies and stupid fights, but they're not. These are little things you really have to think about when you do get back together with your person because sometimes we can just be so fixated on just getting them back that we don't think about the afterwards, except in a fairytale, ride into the sunset way. Thinking about the afterwards is important so that you don't have to go through the pain of a break up again or the frustration of feeling like you wasted your time.