Offline
So it has been a couple of months with my love back in my life. Things were going great but recently I feel like I'm losing all of this amazing momentum we built when we reconnected. Recently, I found two pictures on his cell phone and he said that they were from his friend and at the time I let it go. Recently, we have been fighting and these insecure thoughts surrounding these pictures has resurfaced causing major trust issues. Am I supposed to let it go? I never really felt that he was not faithful and I still deep down do not believe he is. So how do I release these memories and get back to our amazing relationship especially since we are leaving for an amazing two week vacation. I don't want this to ruin that.Β
Thank you <3
Offline
By shifting your focus to what I want. It's easy to dwell on the things that are negative, because we are so used to it. But you can make the conscious decision to focus on that what you like in your life, you can remember what is and was great about your relationship and you can make an effort to shift your thoughts every time you think about the pictures.
And why the hell do you look at his phone? Sounds as if you had already trust issues before.
Offline
Thank you for your answer! We are both in University and it is almost time for us to go back to school so my love was showing me his schedule on his phone and then I saw them. I agree with if you need to look at your spouses phone then you do have trust issues absolutely! I also believe that when you get back together with an ex that you have to commit to trusting and having faith which is something that I have never had to do before so I find that difficult!Β
Offline
Alycat1110 wrote:
Thank you for your answer! We are both in University and it is almost time for us to go back to school so my love was showing me his schedule on his phone and then I saw them. I agree with if you need to look at your spouses phone then you do have trust issues absolutely! I also believe that when you get back together with an ex that you have to commit to trusting and having faith which is something that I have never had to do before so I find that difficult!Β
Glad to hear that it just was an accident.
Yes, of course. It's surely not an easy thing to do, but with a little practice, you can focus on things you prefer. That's something really worth learning, not only in the relationship sector. I myself are still in the process of getting better in it, but it helps sooo much. It's not only that you avoid negative manifestations, you will feel so much better. You don't have to think about things you don't like. Allow yourself to think about things you do like.