Stop talking about what you don't want. Stop focusing on what you don't want. What is it what you DO want? Talk about that instead and feel good about the idea of it.

You just told us your old story, so you do talk about it.
How do you feel while visualising? Wonderful?
 

Tumom wrote:

Are you saying that by telling my story I'm saying what I don't want?
Wow , I really didn't know that .. So I'm delaying my own manifestation ?

Yes, of course. That the story happened is not a bad thing by itself. You know now very clearly that you have the desire to be in contact with him and you wouldn't be THAT clear about it, if it hadn't happen. But now that you know this, there is no point in repeating it, because you recreate it by doing so. Tell it how you prefer it.
Yes, you are always the only factor that holds your manifestation apart from you.

I found a nice Abraham quote that's very fitting here: The challenge launches the rocket [of desire], but when the rocket has been launched don't hang around in the challenge anymore, because then it turns into resistance."

Tumom wrote:

Forgive my misunderstanding , I'm new to LOA . How can I correct my thinking to manifestation ? I'm at a loss right now .

Don't worry, we are so used to tell our story everyone that it can be hard to hold it back. I still complain about all kind of things to my mother and sometimes I even enjoy it a little. ;D
The problem with LoA is that it's kind of paradoxical (or I don't understand it fully yet, that could very well be the case). If you want/need something badly, you hold it apart, because you feel its absence. If you think that something would nice to have and forget about it, it comes fast. So I think the trick is to care less about it. Relax, lean back and do everything that makes you feel good. How are you feeling on a daily basis? Try to improve that feeling just a little and then a little more and then a little more. Take small steps. And what thoughts are you thinking about your friend? How do they feel? If they don't feel that great, try to find thoughts that feel a little better. Don't do it for the manifestation, but because it feels better. Don't make the mistake to try to force anything. It won't work. The more relaxed you are about it, the less you care about the outcome the easier it will come to you.

Tumom wrote:

I think I'm having the issues because I lack the conversations we used to have .

But you can't feel the lack of conversations and attract conversations. That's impossible. You have to feel it first.