Your success so far is pretty good ;)

When I do self-appreciation/self-esteem affirmations, beautiful girls tend to give me more eye contact and a guy on another forum says the same thing.

For #1, I would try to detach myself a bit from D for a little bit and take any action I can to soothe that anxiety and then focus on the affirmations since they seem to be working very well.

For #2, I don't think it's the Universe/God judging you for talking to D, I think it's really you judging yourself for talking to D and projecting it onto God/Universe. It's easy and comforting to think of God and the Universe as external entities that grant our wishes and judge us according to our progress....but all of that is also within us. I personally believe that God is everywhere and is the energy of unconditional love, it is outside of us, but also within. When we think God or for that matter anyone else is judging us....I think it's really just us judging ourselves alone.

But God and Universe aside, I think guilt stems from fear and this could be a fear of moving on from B, a fear of letting go of B, a fear of being attracted to others....some kind of fear...it's OK to feel scared since every journey is gonna have new moments that take us out of our comfort zone, but we can't let fear stop us from making life awesome which is what the journey is all about. What matters most is the perspective you give it and right now it seems that you're painting a negative perspective onto it. Self-knowledge is good so I think it helps to explore where this fear/guilt comes from and that'll make it easier for you to deal with it.

Would love to hear from Em, Sanshi, Wolf, definitely Cherished, Sam.. And yes you too shooting star

Really just anyone who thinks they may can steer me in the right direction

It's absolutely no coincidence that exs are renowned for coming back into people's lives at moments when people have gotten engaged or have met the real loves of their lives or at least, met someone who is as good as their ex in most ways. It's happened in my family a lot ! It's because the person has started to give their energetic attention to a new person and to themselves but ultimately, away from their ex. That is vibrationally noticeable to the ex who sense a deep loss or a regret and comes back just when it's too late. If you are dead certain B is who you want no matter what, then you are actually pushing him away energetically. If you start to shake that up and start to think, 'maybe someone just like B!' then he starts to feel the loss. Then when he comes along, he doesn't feel pressured or smothered and wants to chase you  

Why are you afraid of letting go? Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems that you still try to control the circumstances. Of course not in an active way by reaching out or stuff like this, but on a mental level. You have been in this for a few months now and if what you did until now would work, your guy were already with you. So why not trying a new approach? Why not give up the struggle and decide to just feel good for a little while? Why not giving it a chance to prove to you that this is enough to attract your guy? If you feel uncomfortable with it, you can go back to what you did before every time. So you have nothing to lose, right? You can be absolutely sure that the universe won't forget what you want. The universe didn't even care about how many guys you have. So the universe isn't seing any contradiction in you being interested in D and at the same time wanting B.

I try my best to put it into words, even though LoA gets really paradoxial for me right now and maybe my reply will reflect that.
I will start with my experience. A few months ago, I was completely obsessed with my ex. I couldn't think about something else for more than a few minutes and then he was back in my head again. I didn't want to feel better, I wanted him. But it made me crazy and one day, I decided to give up on the thoughts about. Don't get me wrong, I still wanted him, but I knew that thinking about him nonstop wasn't healthy. So I decided to stop it one day. I hadn't cried for months, but the evening I decided to let go of the thoughts about him, I cried again. It felt like breaking up again and I was miserable. Why did I feel this way? Because holding on to the thoughts about him gave me the feeling of still having a little control and him still being a part of my life. I was afraid of letting go, because I didn't fully believe that someone/something would catch me. Before that, I tried to believe that we would be together, I did RS, visualisation and stuff. All this gave me a sense of control. I "did" something to get him back. But the deeper my understanding of LoA gets the more I see that we can't make something happen with our action, even when it is mental action. When I look back at all my manifestations, they always showed up, when I didn't try to make it happen.
Another thing I thought of when I read your post is the following: Before you have learned about LoA, your thought process was different than now. You thought that you don't have the power to change something. Of course, you can try to talk to the person and convince them to want a relationship, you can send flowers or you can hope that one day, they realise that they miss you and come back. But you didn't have the feeling of control. So you had to be okay with the situation at some point, because you simply couldn't change it. So you had let go mentally. It's natural that after a while, you don't think so much about your ex anymore, if you don't know about LoA. But now, you learn about LoA and you think you found a way to make it happen. But in the beginning, using LoA is just another form of taking action. Yesterday, you sent flowers, today you try LoA. It's the same action approach. You still do something to make it happen. Do you know what I mean? I think that's the best description I can give of what I meant with controlling the circumstances mentally. The person who don't know anything about LoA is kind of in a better position, because it's easier for them to let go mentally. I think that's the reason why many people can attract an ex back without knowing about LoA. They still have some hope and positive thoughts about the person, but they don't hold on to the thoughts and don't try to make something happen.

I really understand you. I think we all were there. In the beginning, I thought stuff like "Okay, I will feel better in order to attract him back". I knew that this doesn't work, but it was the way I felt and I couldn't change it in that moment. It takes time, but I think it's natural that we find our way back to just wanting to be happy. And I'm happy to see you making progress, because I think it's a huge step forward to make being happy more important than anything else. Of course you deserve to be happy.

I read your Fred thread overthere in the Abe forum and I think there is very much valuable information there. I'm still working on my own vibration and I'm not quite where I want to be yet, but the more I learn and experience the more I think that what Abraham teaches is really true. They (the forum people and also Abe of course) don't say that you should be happy so that you won't notice the absence of your guy or that you will find another guy. They say that you should be happy, because that's the only way to your specific guy. And when you are honest, have you ever managed to stay mostly in joy and love for a month or more? Do you know what it can change? Yes, it sounds way too easy and sometimes when my vibration is a little lower than usual, I doubt that concept, too. But it doesn't hurt trying, does it? If you see that your guy isn't there after you were very happy for months, you still won, because you were incredible happy for months. You said you don't care how long it takes, so you are not in a rush. You can try it out. And if you don't see any evidence after a whole while of being happy, you can still go back to thinking about him much more. I really think that's worth it. Not for the guy, but for the experience. And I'm sure, the guy will come as well.