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Hi everyone I've been a lurker on the forum here for awhile now and have been trying to get my guy back. We broke up last summer and I've been able to manifest him several times (this is like the sixth time now) but he is always disappearing. A few months ago, he dated someone for a bit but broke up with her and a few weeks later we met up again....but he's back to not talking to me once again. He has a lot of emotional problems and everytime he comes back he blames it on his depression and his need to be "alone" for awhile. We act like a couple when we are together even though he sometimes refers to me as being a "friend" but it just seems like he's in denial about his feelings and pushes me away when things start to get serious. The last time he came back I was determined that he was going to stay this time and I felt really good about it and then he moved to a different apartment and is back to not talking to me again. It seems like a vicious cycle of on and off, and I just want it to stay on for good. I feel frustrated at this point and I want to get somewhere but I feel stuck in this cycle and I'm having a hard getting my spirits back up again. 
I'd appreciate any advice, thank you!!
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You focus on what is and when you focus on what is, you get more of what is. It's not so surprising that you feel stuck, because you create the same scenario again and again. What would you prefer to create? Tell us your new story.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Sanshi wrote:
You focus on what is and when you focus on what is, you get more of what is. It's not so surprising that you feel stuck, because you create the same scenario again and again. What would you prefer to create? Tell us your new story.
I want to create a loving relationship with him in which he is completely devoted and crazy about me. We do so many things together like taking walks, seeing new things together, going to fun places, and things like eating and cuddling with each other. We make each other feel warm and cozy and he always checks in to see how my day is going and wish me love. We get to see each other a lot and there are no outside circumstances that keep us away from each other. He consistently stays with me because I make him the feel like happiest man in the world. 
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You focus on what is and when you focus on what is, you get more of what is. It's not so surprising that you feel stuck, because you create the same scenario again and again. What would you prefer to create? Tell us your new story.
I want to create a loving relationship with him in which he is completely devoted and crazy about me. We do so many things together like taking walks, seeing new things together, going to fun places, and things like eating and cuddling with each other. We make each other feel warm and cozy and he always checks in to see how my day is going and wish me love. We get to see each other a lot and there are no outside circumstances that keep us away from each other. He consistently stays with me because I make him the feel like happiest man in the world.
That sounds much better. If you can start to think about this story more and more and make it your primary focus (not the primary focus of your life, but related to your guy) and when you can manage to get into the feeling place of it, you are much closer to your desire.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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You focus on what is and when you focus on what is, you get more of what is. It's not so surprising that you feel stuck, because you create the same scenario again and again. What would you prefer to create? Tell us your new story.
I want to create a loving relationship with him in which he is completely devoted and crazy about me. We do so many things together like taking walks, seeing new things together, going to fun places, and things like eating and cuddling with each other. We make each other feel warm and cozy and he always checks in to see how my day is going and wish me love. We get to see each other a lot and there are no outside circumstances that keep us away from each other. He consistently stays with me because I make him the feel like happiest man in the world.
That sounds much better. If you can start to think about this story more and more and make it your primary focus (not the primary focus of your life, but related to your guy) and when you can manage to get into the feeling place of it, you are much closer to your desire.
Thanks Sanshi, I really appreciate it. I was wondering if you could talk some sense to me...a few days ago I saw him tag a girl alone in his apartment on Facebook and now I've been so paranoid lately and I'm having a difficult time taking control of my anxiety about it. I keep thinking why hasn't he invited me to his new place yet but has other girls come over instead? I've been subtly worried about it since he stopped talking again so no doubt it brought it on but then I'm worried something I don't want will manifest and I'll be as upset as I was the first time he dated someone. I keep thinking nothing could come between he and the girl he tagged because she goes to school two hours away...I still get worried though, lol.
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remember sweetie your words become things so speak of him as you want the situation speak of him as loving and well even if it to yourself When he comes back dont reach back and anticipate what he has done before enjoy the moment with him be happy at night project more happiness in your visualizations
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Thank you so much for the reminders everyone! I just hope my past thoughts (that I was really anxious) about don't manifest like the last time he dated someone . I remember I had worried some and then I stopped worrying then boom he was dating someone else. I hope it's not going to repeat that. :/
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