Thanks for your reply. It's gotten worse - she texted me this morning to tell me it was a date and she has started seeing someone.
I'm devastated and don't know what to do. It feels like the opposite of what I was trying to manifest is what happened. Should I just give up? And why did she go out of her way to tell me?
I don't know if I can get this to work for me as every time I try the exact opposite of what I want is happening. I love her and I want to be with her. I'm not sure if I can turn this around though.
Any tips on what I can do? Should I give up or keep going and trust that this is just part of the journey and that my visualisations and RS will work?

wolf wrote:

wizzo810 wrote:

Question is - should I reply to her text?
I can't bring myself to reply saying I'm happy for her because I'm not.

Well, your guidance system is right now telling you what you should do.
You ask that question, now how does the thought of replying to her feel to you?
Feels bad? Don't reply.
Feels good? Reply.

Definitely don't reply that you are happy because you feel bad doing so,
your guidance system is telling you that's not the way to go.

If I were you and felt bad replying anything at all, I simply wouldn't do it.
And don't worry about what she's going to think of it, it's none of your business,
your only business is your alignment aka you feeling good.

wizzo810 wrote:

she told me two months ago she didn't want to date anyone because she was planning on moving abroad next year.

Isn't that just further proof that circumstances change all the time?
That people change their minds all the time?
Even if she's hooked on that other one for now, give it a month or so knowing she's yours,
and I bet she'll come and tell you the other one was too this and too that and that YOU are what she really wants.

I could kiss you for your entire reply but the last bit especially! I'm going to put that as my phone screensaver I think! Thank you!

wolf wrote:

Since you don't know why she's telling you stuff like that,
why not assume something you'd like about it?
I had something similar happen and at first I was really hurt for about two days,
that was when I picked myself up and chose to assume something pleasing to me
and so I assumed that I was told that because I had just previously told the person
that I had been hanging out with a friend and had stuff going on well for myself,
therefore I assumed that she just wanted to show that she'd been doing well too
and to see my reaction about it.

That worked for some time, after a while I decided to rewrite the past,
it's a technique where you take a scene of your past and view it like a movie,
except you feel as if you are someone else and not the one who this thing happened to.
Then you break it into scenes (like scene A, scene B etc)
and you write what you would have LIKED happening instead,
after you're done, you keep replaying that scenario in your head until every single time
you think of the memory, your rewritten scenes are what come up.
You have to accept that as something that actually happened even though it feels strange.

So in my case, I just rewrote the memory in a way that we kept having a pleasant conversation
and I was told sweet things, nothing unpleasant.
And if you ask what's up with it now, I haven't seen any evidence of my love seeing someone,
and I assume that she isn't because she's with me after all ;)
She's asked me instead about MY dating, if it's me who's seeing somebody 
And in my head you would only ask something like that if you had some kind of interest in the person,
otherwise why would you care at all to know.
That's something I assume and I feel very nice assuming those things.

After this rewriting scenes technique, it took a while,
but in my own opinion, I've been seeing evidence contrary to what was "previously going on"
if you know what I mean.
Like all this asking me about dating and wanting to talk to me and whatever,
and my person used to have a little message on their profile
that previously also suggested that something was going on,
but funnily enough, the first time we spoke after my rewriting, she deleted that message, too.

You get back to positivity after you realise again that you are an infinitely powerful creator
and this is nothing but a hiccup right now.
Besides, you know you are the best partner for her anyway, so just look at this situation for a second
and laugh because you know that your alignment will trump everything.
View this as a positive thing, it's yet another experience for her
where she can realise even more how YOU are better.

😀🤔

 

Last edited by Eve210 (8/04/2016 4:08 pm)

Thanks everyone. Really helpful! All of my friends and family are telling me to give up on her, that she's hurt me too many times. Would you give up? I so want to be with her but can't take any more hurt 😢