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Some of you may have seen my recent post about accidentally attracting back and ex from years ago, he came on to me really strongly a week ago while I was out with my friends and broke up with his girlfriend the next day pretty much over it. I had to tell him two days ago that I'm not interested in him anymore because he kept messaging me. The night he came on to me, he told me some really personal things about his girlfriend that were highly inappropriate about the way she's really insecure and needy and clingy and he wants out of the relationship with her because it's not healthy. I chatted to him about vibes and being in a good place and I basically agreed with him and said that it did seem like she had serious insecurity issues and that it wasn't a healthy relationship and she could do with time to see that she's good by herself and also the way he was flirting with me, it was obvious that his mind was no longer on her.Β
Anyway, cut long story short, yesterday I found out that he's been trying to get back with her and I did the controversial thing by letting her know that he was acting very unfaithful the other night and that he had been sending me numerous messages wanting to see me and I just didn't feel comfortable with keeping it from her if they were getting back together because his actions very overt, he really wanted to see me and wanted to kiss me and even brought up our sexual history a lot and said how amazing it was (it actually wasn't haha but he thought so). OK so sticking on the vibe subject; I tried to be gentle but honest with her and just say that I thought it was important for her to know that he had been acting in this way and that it was far from respectful of her and that she seems like a nice girl but the things he was telling me, well his heart is not in love with this girl and that she can definitely find something better. The guy only wants to get back with her now because I rejected him, so it's just him fearing being alone.Β
Instead of being understanding or semi-grateful I was honest or even expressing anger towards him, she expressed anger towards ME ! She started calling me a liar and a **** stirrer and delusional ! It was really insane ! I ended up just sending her some screenshots of his messages to me and leaving it at that. But I realised that this girl is SO insecure that she actually cannot see him doing anything wrong and if he does, she will blame it on someone else and she will stay with him! He mentioned that she's insecure enough that she said she'd do anything to stay with him. Meanwhile, he doesn't even find her attractive and he's actively searching for someone else who will take him but he is going back to her because she makes him feel safe and he's afraid of being alone, he just doesn't have the courage to be alone even for a day!Β
So we have here, two very very low vibes who are attached to each other, creating a dynamic of paranoia, distrust, frustration and dependency. Low vibes can be strong though, that girl's vibe is stable but low, she literally cannot see that she can do better and that she is being badly treated. At least his is reaching a little more out of the relationship as he is looking for better but he's also totally uncomfortable being alone. Yet , they call it 'love'. I have to admit, there was a time I was in low vibes in a relationship, taking **** and living in fear. I know she won't break up with him, and he will go on trying to look for something better while sticking it out with her for a while.Β
It's just interesting to really notice these things now that I know about law of attraction, it really is true. The most important part is too is that he actually DID attempt to leave her for me but I had no interest in him. It took literally 2 hours for him to want to make a serious move by leaving her and trying to go out with me, I did nothing at all , barely even spoke to him that night! But high vibes will attract people who want to be in a high vibration. She was there that night and was in a very low , needy vibration. Another reason why it's always important to remember that just because someone has a title of your boyfriend, doesn't mean they're stuck to you for life now, they're not and they can break loose if they aren't happy with the situation.Β
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Hahaha. (It actually wasn't haha but he thought so). ShootingStar don't burst his bubble now.
There is a column I loved to read that no longer exist. It was written by an older lady who dropped a bunch of wisdom in it. One of the topics she tackled was should you tell a friend that her man is cheating on her. And I loved her answer. You tell or don't tell depending on the woman's personality. If she is the type who will get mad at you for blowing the whistle and end your friendship, then keep your mouth close.
And I have seen it happen many times. The woman gets mad at the messenger not on the man who is doing her wrong.
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Some of you may have seen my recent post about accidentally attracting back and ex from years ago, he came on to me really strongly a week ago while I was out with my friends and broke up with his girlfriend the next day pretty much over it. I had to tell him two days ago that I'm not interested in him anymore because he kept messaging me. The night he came on to me, he told me some really personal things about his girlfriend that were highly inappropriate about the way she's really insecure and needy and clingy and he wants out of the relationship with her because it's not healthy. I chatted to him about vibes and being in a good place and I basically agreed with him and said that it did seem like she had serious insecurity issues and that it wasn't a healthy relationship and she could do with time to see that she's good by herself and also the way he was flirting with me, it was obvious that his mind was no longer on her.Β
Anyway, cut long story short, yesterday I found out that he's been trying to get back with her and I did the controversial thing by letting her know that he was acting very unfaithful the other night and that he had been sending me numerous messages wanting to see me and I just didn't feel comfortable with keeping it from her if they were getting back together because his actions very overt, he really wanted to see me and wanted to kiss me and even brought up our sexual history a lot and said how amazing it was (it actually wasn't haha but he thought so). OK so sticking on the vibe subject; I tried to be gentle but honest with her and just say that I thought it was important for her to know that he had been acting in this way and that it was far from respectful of her and that she seems like a nice girl but the things he was telling me, well his heart is not in love with this girl and that she can definitely find something better. The guy only wants to get back with her now because I rejected him, so it's just him fearing being alone.Β
Instead of being understanding or semi-grateful I was honest or even expressing anger towards him, she expressed anger towards ME ! She started calling me a liar and a **** stirrer and delusional ! It was really insane ! I ended up just sending her some screenshots of his messages to me and leaving it at that. But I realised that this girl is SO insecure that she actually cannot see him doing anything wrong and if he does, she will blame it on someone else and she will stay with him! He mentioned that she's insecure enough that she said she'd do anything to stay with him. Meanwhile, he doesn't even find her attractive and he's actively searching for someone else who will take him but he is going back to her because she makes him feel safe and he's afraid of being alone, he just doesn't have the courage to be alone even for a day!Β
So we have here, two very very low vibes who are attached to each other, creating a dynamic of paranoia, distrust, frustration and dependency. Low vibes can be strong though, that girl's vibe is stable but low, she literally cannot see that she can do better and that she is being badly treated. At least his is reaching a little more out of the relationship as he is looking for better but he's also totally uncomfortable being alone. Yet , they call it 'love'. I have to admit, there was a time I was in low vibes in a relationship, taking **** and living in fear. I know she won't break up with him, and he will go on trying to look for something better while sticking it out with her for a while.Β
It's just interesting to really notice these things now that I know about law of attraction, it really is true. The most important part is too is that he actually DID attempt to leave her for me but I had no interest in him. It took literally 2 hours for him to want to make a serious move by leaving her and trying to go out with me, I did nothing at all , barely even spoke to him that night! But high vibes will attract people who want to be in a high vibration. She was there that night and was in a very low , needy vibration. Another reason why it's always important to remember that just because someone has a title of your boyfriend, doesn't mean they're stuck to you for life now, they're not and they can break loose if they aren't happy with the situation.Β
Β Same kinda thing happened with me. I lost a friend due to telling her about her fucked up boyfriend that he was planning on leaving her and now she's not talking to me! Oh well at least I did what I thought was best and I know from my perspective I would want someone telling me what's going onππ
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Luckily the girl isn't a friend I don't know her at all except that she is his girlfriend. But I do think I would want to know all the details if I were her, so I treated her as I would want to be treated.Β
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