Cherished wrote:

To be honest, it feels natural. When you work on your own appreciation and self love you begin to expect people to reach out. You begin to expect the best for yourself. And that's what happens. So it's not really a surprise. It's basically the next logical step, really.,

I know this post us older but glad I found it again.

After the up and downs, I realized that the hit and cold treatment and his lower vibes were seriously messing up my progress.

After the weekend and our kids party I felt worn out honestly having to hold my high vibes while he carried on.

And on the 4th if July which is my FAVORITE HOLIDAY, we spent all of 15 minutes together. Me dropping our kid off, speaking a few words and nothing more.

About 9 I got a happy 4th text and didn't reply.

His mom called in curiosity and told her they had a long conversation about him and myself. She said he specifically told her he still lives me BUT I get on his nerves st times. Usually I'd be annoyed I just responded well at least we agree!

She opened up and told me that men "friend zone" women they live all the time. Whether as back up, they aren't sure what they want, they truly miss you or just want sec conveniently .

She suggested NOT allowing that friend zone to happen and in silence reclaim my status.


I loved her point of view because she apparently went through that with his father.

He did block me about 3 months ago and found his way...but now I feel the need to limit contact with him.

What he says versus what he does proves his commitment right?

I ask because if I think about it he hasn't made much efforts to rekindle but keep me around and now I see how it appears I'm confused because I'm being friend zoned.

Today is day one of limited contact. We have a kid so I can't close off all contact. But how do you guys feel about being friend zoned and no contact pushing you out of it.

With my vibes being different, I'm already working out, finding a part time and blessed stressed. But my manifesting of events with him have been tough. Almost like the universe telling ME you may want him but HE is not ready and YIU aren't either. Also feeling like he has got to respect me more and not shake that thinking.

Last night my mind raced whether he did fireworks with someone else or not and I spoke them away as much as I can and determined this will be the last year I will see them alone.

Thanks for letting me vent guys.

Also am I on the right track or sound like I'm low giving. I can't really determine. Mind you he calls everyday so I know it'll be odd to not be his emotional support.

Great post. Thanks. The more aligned I am to myself, the more he appears to be in my vicinity. It's just about not obsessing about it not happening enough after that point.

that was really good needed to hear that

THIS POST IS BLOODY BRILLIANT...I have done the begging texts...the angry texts and the passive aggressive texts which I thought has ballsed up my chances of getting him back but I believe in the LOA and I know that regardless of my mistakes I can and will get him back.

Should I delete his number?? Having it there in my phone book is tempting me. 

To anyone wondering, it doesn't matter how long you are in no contact for, it could be days, weeks, months or even years - you CAN always still get your ex back