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- Genius
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A little story
I know you aren't really suppose to look into the past when it comes to things like this, but I decided to tell a little story on how horrible I was..
I was pretty obsessed with my love... when we first got together, I quickly thought she'd be the girl I would marry,, if a year ago today someone told me that we'd be broken up... I would probably be devastated, I know what you guys are dealing with, I mean I was HORRIBLE the last few weeks of the relationship and the first month or so of the breakup..
I remember there would be times on a weekend, where I wouldn't be able to talk to my love.. and I would basically have a anxiety breakdown, and remember. this was maybe once or twice a week... either friday/saturday or saturday/sunday.. I mean I would have a complete breakdown, for not being able to talk for maybe a NIGHT sometimes
I remember a time... where her phone messed up.. so we weren't able to talk for a day.. and I was going CRAZY... like I was furious/fuming... I was acting like that one day was a life sentence in prison for a crime I didn't do..
When you think about it... when we're THIS obsessed about our loves... it's all built on insecurity... I mean GOOD relationships, sometimes you go a day or a few hours without talking, and with that time apart, it gives you time too much the person and they miss you too... but when we want to cling to them 24/7... this means that we don't feel we are valuable enough without them...
Once you start feeling like you aren't valuable enough ALONE.. and you let insecurities get into you, the relationship is OVER... no and's, if's,but's about it once you lose yourself in a relationship.... there's no coming back...
The person we're dating... didn't date us to be our main priority in our life.. ahead of school,work,family,ourselves,etc... they begun dating us, because at one point... they knew we had the ambition to do something in life, and it matched with what they wanted to do... trust me... they want a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife... they don't want to be our babysitter and our only motivating factor in life.
- Sanshi
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Re: A little story
I believe that every relationship will fail, when we make our happiness dependent on the other person. Maybe sometimes it needs a little more time to ruin things, sometimes it happens quicker, but it will always happen. So, now is a very good time to fix that by learning how to be happy on our own. It's so easy to fall back in old patterns in the next relationship, so we should use our time as singles wisely.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
- JustAGirl
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Re: A little story
I think we're all guilty of over analysing the relationships we had. No one is 100% right or wrong, whatever behaviour was demonstrated, to a certain extent, the other person in the relationship allowed it.
I would say that my ex could treat me pretty badly at times, but i've learned, this is my fault for allowing it. The break from him has made me much stronger.
You now recognise the 'errors' of your ways, so next time round or when you and your past love get back together, you'll see these behaviours and stop them.
What we fear always comes to the surface, so if we stop the fear, we have nothing to worry about which changes our outlook on the relationship.
Hope this helps.
Veronica Isles LOA coach veronicaislescoaching.com