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How did I attract this??
Some years ago on holiday with my friend, on our last night, we met four guys and I really liked one of them, whose name was Tony and was incredibly cute. We only had drinks with them for a few hours and we then went back home the next day, but I really, really couldn't stop thinking about Tony and when I got home tracked him down to his home town 95 miles away and actually decided to show up. It was rather a radical thing to do but I felt it was right. When I got there, I ended up spending the weekend with his friend (nothing romantic or sexual going on there, he put me up for the weekend and we went out and about) but Tony was nowhere to be seen.
I later found out that he freaked when he knew I was in town, and that was because he had one ex wife, a dead girl he had wanted to go out with and who he was still hung up on and the next door neighbour was pregnant with his baby! Years later, I connected with him through Facebook and we corresponded for a while, and I knew he wasn't for me (notwithstanding the many women) - my initial attraction to him was only physical.
Now, what I wanted then, was a proper relationship with a guy that I was compatible with, whom I could both love as a person AND fancy. I didn't want a player who called every woman "babe" and had women all over the place. So how did I attract what I clearly didn't want?
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Re: How did I attract this??
Hmmm ..... I'd just come out of a rotten relationship when the guy was the first to break it off even though I wanted to but didn't have the bottle or couldn't be bothered to myself for fear of the future, probably.
I don't and didn't hang around with players as that sort of person isn't on my personal radar.
Interesting answers that raise more questions for me.
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Re: How did I attract this??
No, I had never heard of LOA, vibrations or anything to do with it back then. I just wanted to move on from the bad relationship I suppose. I'd tried to make it work with the other guy but it just was never, ever going to in a million years. I'd wanted out for a long time, guess my pride was hurt because he ended it - how dare he!!!
I felt rubbish about myself and rejected, I suppose.
And no, I think it is a good idea to let it lie now, but I found it interesting to look back at things as I do believe we can learn from the past to a certain extent. Our past is what made us and I don't believe it can all just be ignored - though obviously not dwelled or focused on as you say.
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Re: How did I attract this??
Makes perfect sense to me - I attracted a commitment phobe player after the break up of my long term relationship years ago!
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Re: How did I attract this??
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But do you really want to go on to find "the root of the problem" from this past thing
and with doing that, make that vibration active again?
It doesn't serve the intentions you have now.
It's never a good thing to go on to find out what the problem is/was
because in doing that, you activate the vibration of this problem,
and now your attention is on this problem, and anything you give attention to has to become more in your experience AND now momentum gets going this Unwanted way again...
do you really wanna go further into this?
My life experience has shown me otherwise than this. Whenever I ignored my problems and kept running away from them, they just got bigger and bigger. When I focused directly on my problems with pure awareness and a positive attitude, it became much easier to see the root causes and when I was more aware of them (not ignoring them), it was easier to find solutions for them.
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