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I feel stuck
I literally feel stuck . I feel stuck and upset and confused.
I know that i shouldn't focus on what's going on around me and instead focus on my end goal, but it has been difficult as of lately. I have always been a person who finds it difficult to write down feelings so I'm really sorry if this isn't expressed as well as I'd like.
my person and I are in contact, lately we have been talking nearly everyday. I had decided that maybe letting go was better and as soon I made that conscious decision i felt a very clingy vibe off of him. His ex gf has been a huge block honestly because i found out they still talk / flirt. ( I definitely created that )
but today he brought up that I had basically ruined a date with him and some girl because my friends left things in his car that made the girl not want to see him. And then later said " it's fine though i had more fun yesterday so i don't care "
It really bothered me that he was making plans with other girls. I made a status that consisted of a poem and he messaged me asking why i was sad and I said because of boy problems and he kept asking me what boy. He's been telling me that he only wants to be friends and stuff and then also tells me that the age difference bothers him ( it's lliterally 3 and a half years ) I don't know how to go at this anymore.
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Re: I feel stuck
I keep reacting and not creating.
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Thread Starter- jenn
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Re: I feel stuck
wolf wrote:
But listen to yourself: I'm sad, I'm bothered, I'm confused.
At one point you're gonna have to grab yourself by the collar
and say to yourself that enough is enough and I will now focus on the amazing ME that I am.
You already know that what he does/says doesn't matter because everything's constantly changing.
So how are you going to feel better about this situation right now?
That's the real question here, there's got to be a way and there is.
Remember that the only reason those things are so much in your face
is because you're continuously giving attention to them.
You know you've got to stop that but how to go about this?
Well, since the momentum is going, you're not going to be able to do it all at once.
It's like the Abraham analogy that if the train is going 100 mph that way,
you really don't want to make it immediately go 100 mph the opposite way
because that's hard on the contents of the train.
Instead you want to slow down, change direction and speed up again.
Perhaps in your case that means taking days to be alone with yourself,
meaning no talking with this guy whatsoever.
Finding things to do for yourself that feel better to you than being in the center of this situation.
Circumstances don't create materialised things, only state of being creates materialised things.
So you've got to find some way to feel better right now before anything's changed,
because that is the only way anything will ever change.
Then, once you've accomplished that, you will see for a while that the same people are still present
doing and asking the same things of you, but if you respond the same way you previously did,
you have not changed.
In other words, it's just an echo presented to you once again so you could confirm you really want a change, but you've got to respond differently, respond in a way that you know it's just an echo,
otherwise you have not changed.
Thank you so much wolf that was perfectly worded into a way that i could understand. I meditated last night and this morning to feel more at peace with myself. can you give me an example of how i could stop giving less attention to the current ssituation?
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Re: I feel stuck
Today I felt a lot better! I visited old friends and it was really ggreat
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