Veronica's Law of Attraction Forum » Thinking maybe.. A bid farewell..

ShootingStar · 7/17/2016 3:36 pm

I'm basically saying what the others have said after me, not that he's not the one, but he isn't here right now and if you're going to beat the drum of him when he's not here then nothing will happen but frustration! Abraham says it all the time if you listen carefully to her. And when you very first attracted him (when you met him) were you thinking about how much you wanted him before that? No! You didn't even know he existed and while you weren't hung up on him specifically, there he came! Before you met him, you probably just desired aspects of him and the feeling he would give you and he came along and that's how you want to be again it's about getting back to that place and that place you didn't even know his name but something inside of you pulled him to you and he to you and you weren't worried or sad about him not being there because he had never been there if you can get there, you can really genuinely get him

Little Red Robin · 7/17/2016 3:40 pm

After you turned the 5th "better"guy down, the universe is fed up and gives you your guy.

This made me laugh out loud Sanshi, funny! Thanks!

ShootingStar · 7/17/2016 3:40 pm

And when you can get to the place where you're genuinely not hung up over him, he will know it energetically and be interested. You'll still want him, but his absence won't make you so sad anymore. Time and time again people have returned and its generally been after the other person has let go (I.e learned to live happily, grieved and put the past behind them, is fresh and in an energetically good place again) and it will happen

Little Red Robin · 7/17/2016 3:48 pm

ShootingStar wrote:
And when you can get to the place where you're genuinely not hung up over him, he will know it energetically and be interested. You'll still want him, but his absence won't make you so sad anymore. Time and time again people have returned and its generally been after the other person has let go (I.e learned to live happily, grieved and put the past behind them, is fresh and in an energetically good place again) and it will happen

yes, yes, yes!

iinikkii · 7/18/2016 12:31 pm

Thank you everyone for your willingness to talk to me. Yesterday I read all of the responses, thought about them, and afterwards just tried to have a good day. Tried to not think about him so much, just focused on having a good day. I'm not real sure what I'm going to do. I know I'm my heart that THIS is for sure what I truly want. So.. I gues I just gotta see what happens. All of yalls encouragement is very much appreciated.

I plan to come back on here later today with more specific responses. Hope you all have a really really good day!

iinikkii · 7/18/2016 5:54 pm

wolf wrote:
iinikkii wrote:
Sanshi wrote:
Just found a Abe audio that could be interesting for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hk03ND3yJps
I had a listen.. So here it goes.. I have not been listening to Abe as much, only because she seems to talk in riddles. (IMO) so then I get frustrated cause I wish they would JUST SAY WHAT THE HECK THEY ARE SAYING. Lol. So it seems i need someone to word it in a way that I can understand. I've never been good at reading between the lines, or beating around the bush. So I listened to the video.. Somewhat got what she was saying, but not really. Lol
I'll put my two cents in by how I understand this clip.
Of course, if you are not in the vicinity of understanding then you are not going to understand.
There are Abe clips that go through my one ear and out the other sometimes when my vibration is not where it's got to be to understand. And then one day I'll end up on the clip again and that time I'm like "Yes! Spot on! Exactly!".

So, when they says "Focus on what it is about that person that rings your bells",
they're saying to focus on the essence of the person.
What's an essence?
It's what something feels like.
So here they are saying what is it about this person that makes you feel like you want them and not anybody else.
Is it because with them, you feel good?
With them, you feel playful?
With them, you feel like it's fun?
With them, you feel like it's easy?

Notice how I'm underlining FEEL and then writing in italics the QUALITIES (good, playful, fun, easy) which you would perhaps like your relationship to be like?
And now they are saying to take "with them" out of the equation, NOT because you can't have them, this specific person, but because in the beginning stages when you focus on THEM and not on the QUALITIES that you're looking for in a fulfilling relationship, then what happens?
"But where are THEY?"
"What if THEY don't want to come?"
"When will THEY contact me?"
"Why haven't THEY come yet?"
and now you're introducing resistance. And since resistance is the only thing keeping you away from achieving whatever you are wanting, you're not wishing to introduce it to this equation.

This is why they say to focus on what you want this relationship to feel like to you,
what is it about this person that feels so good to you that you think with them this relationship is going to feel like that?

Again, nowhere are they saying you cannot have person X,
they are just saying that when your focus is on what feels good about this person,
you leave person X out of the equation and therefore have no resistance.
The reason why person X will still turn up even when you don't focus on them specifically,
is because they are the physical embodiment of what you want your relationship to feel like,
in other words, they are the person who'll provide those feelings that you are wanting.
It's just that when you focus on them firsthand, you get those doubts and questions which your thread is all about.

Try it. Try focusing on what you want your relationship to feel like. Try to just feel the feelings that you would feel in this relationship. If images of person X come to mind, that's alright, just focus on what it feels like for you to be around them.

You might find that you feel Relief when you think about what your relationship feels like to you.
Because in doing so, you are no longer stuck on "Where is person X?",
instead you might feel relieved because the feelings of a relationship are more believable to you.
In other words, you believe that you COULD feel those feelings in a fulfilling relationship.

There are some terms in the clip which might be tripping you up here:
'specifics' - that's what we just discussed. Person X = specifics.
As in name: John, personality: fun, nice, cool, age: 25, and so it goes.
'vibrational essence' - what something feels like.
Essence is not specific, essence is not "John, aged 25, etc",
essence is just feelings, essence is "I want this because IT FEELS like THIS, THIS, THIS (different feelings)".
Essence is "Given I had that right now, I would feel like this this this".

I'm just trying to find many different ways to express one thing to you. Maybe something clicks.
They say that focusing on the essence equals more speed to your desire manifesting.
Why is that?
Because when you think "My relationship feels fun", you're not at the same time going to be like
"But where's fun? What's that? Where can I find this fun?", you KNOW what fun feels like.
Fun is not something that is difficult for you to understand.
Therefore, when you think those what-my-relationship-feels-like thoughts and feel the feelings,
you don't introduce resistance because feelings are not hard for you to understand.

So now Abraham go "Once you have identified the essence, it's not going to matter what package it comes in"
and here they are saying it can be person X or someone else with all those qualities you were looking for.
Aaaand that's the part nobody wants hear, isn't it?
But here you've got to remember that 99.9% of the cases are person X coming anyway,
and Abraham are STILL NOT SAYING that it cannot be person X.
They're just saying all this to get your attention off of person X because person X = specifics,
specifics in EARLY stages = resistance.

The reason I'm saying "early stages" is because typically when you start this journey,
thinking about specifics trips you up, you get all of those doubts and questions,
and you feel bad.

But there also comes a stage where you CAN come to focusing on person X, too,
that's later down the road when you've gotten to a point where you can readily believe that all this is possible.
THEN thinking of person X no longer makes you feel bad. You no longer ask those questions I wrote you above,
there is no time element, instead you feel good thinking about them, you feel good imagining about them.

But in order to get to this stage, it's more beneficial to you to get to the essence first and foremost.
Because when you are driving from point A to point C, you really cannot skip point B in the middle.
I'm just saying you cannot start the journey and jump right to the end of it at the same time,
it just doesn't work like that.

The last part of this clip, the pickiness.
"When you get more specific than you are vibrationally able to allow, it gets out of balance",
here they're describing where you are right now.
You've gone too specific too soon, and now you feel bad because you're not able to allow it in just yet.

The golden rule goes like this:
the better you feel = the more specific you should get
the worse you feel = the more GENERAL (as in think about the feelings, the essence) you should get

Because when you get specific (John, age 25, occupation lawyer) while you feel bad (you have doubts),
you introduce resistance and you slow the manifestation down.
Going general makes you feel better in this case and speeds up the manifestation.

Now, when you get specific while you feel good (you truly believe it's possible and even inevitable),
you don't introduce resistance, now you can freely think about person X, too,
because in this vibrational place, you don't get those questions that I wrote to you above,
and your manifestation speeds up again.

"Be picky about more general things" = care about what your relationship should feel like.
In thinking about that and feeling those feelings, you begin to feel better, feel good even.
With time, you'll begin to feel REALLY good and high-flying.
And then, "let your inspiration lead you to specifics", specifics being John, age 25, etc.
Because from that vibrational place, thinking about person X feels good to you,
and when you feel good, there is no resistance.

As much as you right now may have started to dislike my "feel better",
I hope something here clicks with you.

Thank you wolf for breaking this down for me. I do see that I have been way too specific from the get go.

When I sit and contemplate what if feels like to be with him.. I sometimes have a hard time putting it into very many words.

It feels like coming home. And I just wanna go home.. Ya know?

Will probably ponder on your response for a little while, so thank you for explaining this for me!

iinikkii · 7/18/2016 6:08 pm

Sanshi wrote:
iinikkii wrote:
Sanshi..

I really am ready to just feel good and be happy. When I say it's too much, I'm refering to constantly "working" on this is wearing me out. I guess the reason it has and is taking me so long to WANT to "get on another subject" i.e: relax, let it be.. Is because I've always looked at that as me "giving up" .. And all my life I've considered myself a "fighter", as in I don't give up. Never in my life have I ever GIVEN UP. So I guess maybe it hurts my "complex" to do so (as rediculous as that may sound). I've always thought "well if i give up then how will this happen" almost like the saying " if you want something done, you gotta do it yourself". So yah, that's been me. But maybe all of y'all are right? Well.. Not maybe, you are right. last time I got him back, I had no knowledge of loa. NONE. And I fought it with everything in me. I tried and tried and tried. And eventually I "gave up" trying. I still wanted him very much so. But I did give up, went on about my business and just tried to be happy regardless. I didn't date anyone, only bc I hadn't met anyone that "rang my bells" in the way that I like. But I did have interest. I got happy, did me, felt good, looked good, started doing crafts (which I LOVE to do crafts) actually it was after I had "given up" last time that I even discovered that I really really enjoy doing crafts. ( Like DIY crafts Pinterest style). I just started feeling good and I just somehow new we would get back together.. But I wasn't worried about it. And then after a little bit of time after I "gave up" and just started worrying about ME and MY life.. He came. And it was DELICIOUS!

I think this time I don't know if I necessarily just KNOW he will come back. I think initially I felt that way, but after pushing and pushing I think I may have lost that KNOWING part. And that trips me up somehow. Maybe because I've been taught ( or interpreted what I've been taught) that I have to BELIEVE 100% before I can let go, otherwise it won't happen. but even when I say that it sounds screwy to me. ( I will say tho.. I know he loved me. I KNOW he did)

I know that inevidibly you all have your own lives and I'm not yalls problem to deal with. But I take more from all of y'all then you know. Sometimes I just read the responses over and over. Sometimes i just kinda let what is being said to me soak in more. So i do apologize if I come off ungrateful, because I very much so am grateful for the even existence of this forum and all of you whom are apart. I was DEPRESSED when I first come here.. And if nothing else ( which isn't the case, but just elaborating a bit) something about this place really helped me to pull myself out of depression, which at that point and time I couldn't see any way out of it. And actually from hindsight it was rather easy and really didn't take tootling after coming here thank was feeling better physically, and actually living my life. So I am very grateful. Even when it's "tough love" it's love nonetheless
I completely understand why you see it as giving up. I wouldn't think that I'm an ambitious person, but if something is really important to me, I'm very tenacious and fight for it until I get it (and trust me, I get it. ;) ). So getting off the subject has felt wrong to me too for a long time. In fact, if you would have ask me 2 weeks ago or maybe even 1 week ago... I wasn't ready to give up on the thoughts about him. The problem is that this behavior/thinking is a leftover of our old world view. I understand why you are afraid of giving up the thoughts about him (not the desire), but we have focused on our guys for a whole while now and nothing has happened yet, let's try something else just for a while. You can get back to the thoughts about him whenever you want. Give him a little time to screw up his current relationship and concentrate on yourself, because you are SO worth it to be happy. <3

I love doing crafts, too. Let's talk about that. Why do you like it? What do you enjoy the most? What is your master piece you are the most proud of? What's your next/current project?

I know that's not the same thing and a specific person seems (!) to be harder to attract, but I will share it anyway: I attracted a university place last year and EVERYTHING fell into place perfectly. In Germany, it's hard to get a university place for psychology and you need really good grades which I haven't. But I was lucky (or loay) and other rules applied to me, because I already had a Bachelor. At first, I didn't believe that I would get a place, because every university had only 1-3 places for people who already had a final degree, but somehow my ex believed I would get a place and slowly I started to believe it too, but I still had doubts once in a while. To make a long story short, I didn't only get a university place, but one in the city I wanted to go most. It wasn't that I fully believed all the time, it was more that I thought "if it doesn't work out this year, I can try again next" and I was very passionate about it and every time I thought about studying psychology, it felt sooo good. I was relatively relaxed even though my whole future depended on it..lol. So I think it isn't that you need to believe always 100%, maybe it's more the mindset "if it doesn't work out today, it can still work out tomorrow, so I'm in no rush". In my case, it worked out miraculously the very first time.

Btw, I really like the vibe of your post. It's completely different than the vibe of many others of your posts and I'm enjoying replying right now much more than usual. So keep it up. You did it once, you can do it again, that's for sure. And don't beat up on yourself, because you find it difficult to let it go for a while. It's not an easy thing to do. The whole LoA isn't easy to apply, if you have done it completely different your whole life - and that's for most of us the case. So be your own best friend and be patient with yourself.

I'm glad you benefit from our responses. Sometimes, one isn't in the right place to understand something and it takes a while to get it, so getting back to one the next day or later can be a good thing. Everyone has their own speed of growing and that's completely okay. Just don't stop and you can't lose. At least not with us by your side.

Sanshi.. As always, I enjoy reading what you have to say. Yes "giving up" has been a very uncomfortable thing, but yah I guess it's only because I interpret as "ok, I give up on wanting this because there no sense in me wanting it because it doesn't look like if naggers what I want" which DOES NOT make me feel good. Any time I have wanted something in my life.. I GOT IT. No matter how hard or impossible it looked, no matter how long it took.. When I want something, I GET IT. So now I'm where I am now, and for some reason it just feels different. Idk why.

Crafts? I love doing crafts! Like home made decorations. Old window panes, picture frames, pictures, flower vases. Refurbishing old furniture, antiquing things.. Any and everything. I like doing crafts. It puts me in my zone, where it's just me and me. I can do it just how I like, (I'm ocd so I'm very particliar about it being EXACTLY how I want it) so if I don't like it I can do it over. No rush no time limit. Just me doing me without any outside people or circumstances coming into play! PLUS a lot of the time I end up making things as gifts for friends or family, and that always feels so good to give and see their face light up about how much they appreciate my work. I made my guy a couple of things, and he cherished them very much, he was super proud to recieve my hand made gift! So yah, crafts is a way for me to escape.. And the pay off is always WAY more than the "work" put in.

Thank you for not turning your back on me just because I have rough days, I'm not perfect by no means, and it's nice to have people to don't require perfection from me in order for them to stick around. You're right, I did do it before, so I can do it again. I am in this to win, I know this isn't about "competition" but.. Yah.. I am a winner, so I gotta get my head right

iinikkii · 7/18/2016 6:27 pm

Cherished wrote:
So.. I really think you could benefit from slowing this whole frustrated, confused vibe. Step away, because from this vibration, you only perpetuate your confusion. You have the opportunity right this second to walk outside and breathe in the air and feel a little better NOW. And THAT shift will do more for you in the future than sitting on here arguing about not having what you want. It's about feeling better. Every moment of every day. Feeling a little better. Period.

I do need to focus more on just feeling better. Yesterday after you posted this, I was like.. " alright cherished, I'm going to just try to feel better today" so I put my phone down first went and got me a smoothie. I LOVE smoothies, they are so delicious and on a hot day they are very refreshing to me ( I get the fruit smoothies.. I'm trying to break my red bull habit, so I've switched it up to a riot smoothie which is far healthier for me AND I enjoy them just as much) (they are a little more expensive, but I don't care about that).. Then when I got back I went and put my bathing suit on and headed to the pool, still working on my tan, as I leave for the beach in 2 weeks and I am not going to look crazy pale when I get there. However it was clouding up and not very much sun rays to catch. But whatever, I went anyway and layed on my layout float in the pool for a little while. It felt so good, it felt calm, it felt relaxing.. And so even without the sun it felt really good. That all come to an end when it started raining on me while I was still laying there. So I got out and headed back to the house. Got home and had some delivery pizza and chilled. I ended up starting to watch the movie "what the bleep; down the rabbit hole" which is very very interesting. I wasn't watching for answers to my situation, just watching and listening for the interest and knowledge. I didn't finish the movie because I ended up falling asleep. I slept super late this morning and really just felt calm this morning. So yah, I did just try to feel better yesterday, and all in all I had a pretty good day. So I guess I just need to get into the mode of doing that daily, instead of focusing on "where is he" all day everyday.

You know I love you cherished. Like I said before I know I'm a handful.. But I promise I'm worth it. I guess I just got a little dust on the bottle right now :/

iinikkii · 7/18/2016 6:52 pm

wolf wrote:
iinikkii wrote:
It feels like coming home. And I just wanna go home.. Ya know?
So work with that.
Coming home, what's that feel like?
It feels like love.
It feels like appreciation.
It feels like pure alignment.
It feels like joy.
It feels like warmth.
It feels like understanding.
It feels like knowing.
It feels like clarity.
It feels like all's right.
It feels like I'll be okay.
It feels like caring.
It feels like love all around.
It feels like happiness.
It feels like relaxation.
I love this feeling of coming home to my lover's arms.
It feels so certain, I feel amazing, I feel cared for,
I feel like it's eternal, I feel like it's meant to be,
I feel that I'm there, I can feel the warmth,
I can feel the joy, I know what the fun of it feels like,
it feels like so many good jokes,
it feels like comfort, it feels like being completely understood,
it feels like having a really good time,
it feels like such a good genuine connection.
I love all that about my person.
It feels so good to me to be around them,
it feels like ease, it feels like everything's working out just fine,
it feels wonderful, it can only get better and better from here,
I know I'm doing really well, I know the work is to feel better
and that's exactly what I'm doing right now,
I know this is my reality and I create it as I wish,
I know I already vibrationally have it all, I just have to call it forth,
which I am doing right this moment.
It's all coming to me because I am so good,
because I have achieved vibrational alignment with it,
it now makes sense to me how all this works,
I know we're all connected, I know my person can feel the calling,
the signal I'm sending out is strong and attractive
because I am strong and attractive.
Yes, I am confident, beautiful, amazing, worthy beyond words,
I deserve to feel good right now because all my power is in my now,
and nothing is more important than that I feel good.

You wolf are amazing. You have a way with words and you hit the nail on the head. While reading this I had tears come into my eyes and roll down my face. Everything you just said just made me feel like you reached inside of my head and put words to exactly what it feels like. ( like I said, I sometimes have a hard time putting things into words, which I I know I can work on being better at) but yah..

It feels safe
I feel safe
I feel like nothing in the world can harm me
It feels secure
It feels peaceful
It feels like peace in my heart
It feels accepting and embracing
It feels like a crap load of fun
Oh and jokes?? It feels like sooooo many jokes, especially a bunch of inside jokes
It feels like me, the real me
It feels like I wanna stand on a roof top and let the whole world know just how grateful I am
It feels happy and joyful
It feels like nothing can kill my vibe
It feels prefect
It feels like a really good time
It feels sensual
I feel sexy
I feel beautiful
It feels for sure
It feels like YES! YES YES YES
it feels like dancing in the rain
It feels breath taking
It feels like I'm the luckiest girl in the world
It feels like seeing a shooting star for the first time ( I did see my very first shooting star when him and I first started dating, seen my first meteor shower with him, and found my first 4 leaf clover)
It feels refreshing
It feels CALM but at the same time it feels like butterflies in my stomach
It feels like meant to be
It feels like love
It feels like a dream come true

It feels like home

iinikkii · 7/18/2016 6:56 pm

Susiewoo wrote:
After you turned the 5th "better"guy down, the universe is fed up and gives you your guy.

This made me laugh out loud Sanshi, funny! Thanks!

Yes! I had a chuckle myself! I like the way you put things Sanshi.

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