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I see in some ways, that this forum has been a little sad lately.. which is understandable.. especially if you're just getting out of your relationship... but I think while we're looking for ways to attract our love back... we forget to enjoy our own lives, we get to the point where we're thinking on how to attract them back.. and all along we don't enjoy ourselves anymore..
Take time to enjoy the food you eat... enjoy your hobbies, enjoy walking/exercising/running/etc.... as cherished,sanshi,and others say.. your vibe is the most important thing.. so maybe these things won't right then and there give you your love back, but it's helping you either get to your vibration or maintaining it... and it's very important.... Just find other things to enjoy while you're in the journey... enjoy a nice slice of pizza or some ice cream or a salad... enjoy a vacation.. enjoy hanging out with friends... enjoy hanging out with family.. enjoy a new series/video game... enjoy anything.
There's a lot of methods, like RS,acting as if,etc... but those don't work for everyone, sometimes the best method is taking the attention off of them and putting it on you.. .Don't lose yourself, while trying to find them... I think the whole point of this journey.. is finding yourself and improving your life... and then as a dessert, you can get your love back well... but the main course of the meal is YOU... and lately, I've been seeing a lot of people on here... focus way too much on their loves and not enough on themselves....
You might think you're focusing on yourself, but if you keep asking if you're doing something right... or keep asking/wondering about signs,etc,etc then in my opinion, that shows that your focus is still pretty much on them... acting as if is cool, but not at the expense of you... sometimes it's better to just forget them... make yourself busy, have fun, enjoy life... and once it FEELS GOOD... then you can RS,visualize,act as if... but only do those things if it feels good, it's important to make sure it's not a chore
I'm not an expert on LOA, but I've made a lot of these mistakes.. and in my own personal experience.. i feel if I'm asking questions if it's working, or if I should do this/that or asking where the signs are... that means I'm still putting focus on the person and not myself
Remember, before you met your love... you were your OWN person you were confident... strong.. you didn't put your focus on another person... and you probably had a lot of guys/girls wanting you.. and YOU decided that your love was the best option... it's important to get back to the person you were BEFORE you met them but make yourself 1000x better
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Dan, this is so beautiful and I'm incredibly proud of the changes you have made. What a wonderful transformation you are making.. Thank you for sharing your journey with us 🌈💜
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Cherished wrote:
Dan, this is so beautiful and I'm incredibly proud of the changes you have made. What a wonderful transformation you are making.. Thank you for sharing your journey with us 🌈💜
... I just like trying to help others, plus in a weird way... these posts make me keep myself on track
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So true. But every person needs a different amount of time to really get this. It's very beneficial to get this in the early stages of the journey though.
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Dan I agree with u... I have learnt to let go and not obsess I do my visualisation at nite and during the day I have learnt to concentrate on what I need to do and achieve my goals. I have had no contact for almost 2 months, but I'm ok, time is only an illusion. The universe knows when to deliver I have faith. Also a big thank to all u guys for ur support and advice, that's helping me too xx
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Yup, this is very true! I've started to ease up on the affirmations, visualization and whatnot. I still do those things but not constantly like I was for a while. I've been out and about spending time with friends and having a blast. I'm going with the flow and things are working out just as I hoped they would. It really helps to just ease up on the techniques and thinking about your desires. Go with the flow, relax and enjoy life and I think most will find things will work out wonderfully.