wolf wrote:

UniversalStudent wrote:

I need help....I keep seeing things that cause doubt like other guys flirting and her wanting to hangout with those guys that flirt....I feel so defeated and whenever I try messaging her she almost never replies but replies to others quickly as if she is more interested...idk how to believe we are together when I see things like that...what do I do??

You focus on you and leave girl X out of the equation for now.
You can't keep looking at what-is and start getting something different, simply doesn't work like that.

Go no contact like many others on this forum, 
both of you will benefit from that in the end.

Remember that first, you have to get you back before you can get anyone else.
And no, you haven't gotten you back because otherwise you wouldn't be making posts like this one,
instead you would be here talking about how good you feel and how independent you are,
how you barely even care about this other person at this point.

But I love her...I don't wanna lose her by not showing interest in her and then she falls for another...how can I not care?

big_blue wrote:

UniversalStudent wrote:

But I love her...I don't wanna lose her by not showing interest in her and then she falls for another...how can I not care?

But putting your trust in the universe and knowing she is already yours. The universe will deliver her to you once YOU are the best you can be. You can still care about her, you can still think about her. But you need to let go of the fear, the worry, and the doubts

I must learn to let go of the fear...I don't doubt that we will be together again I'm just afraid she will be with another before we are....and I truly don't want that to happen and I'm trying my hardest to not make that happen...

Wolf the wise....whenever I read what you say it clicks....I feel it in my soul and I understand every letter. I sit and worry so much about what I don't want that it happens and I remember learning this but I have to remember this. I must keep positive and stay on the path that brings her back to me as my lover. Do you have any tips to help with the negative thoughts and the worry?? It's hard going from talking to somebody every single minute of the day to barely at all.

wolf wrote:

UniversalStudent wrote:

Thank you so much. I have so much love and appreciation for you and Sanshi for taking the time out and really trying to help me with my desire. It means so much to me. Thank you

Thank you, I love you!

Pretty sure Sanshi and I both love that there are people asking things because that in return 
gives us something great to do with our time as well. I love being on here

I won't mention at this point that my exams start next week and that I have to learn around 400 pages of stuff and don't really have started yet..lol

UniversalStudent, if you want to be smart (I know that's a extremly hard decision right after a breakup and I won't blame you for not taking my advice), you go off the subject completely for a while. Lick your wounds, heal completely, put every thought about her aside and get on your feet again. I know that it sounds like wasting time, but it's not, because you can't attract her from a low point. It doesn't serve you to focus on her from a low vibration. You have to be happy on your own first and then you can get her back.