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Hey Everybody!
I am new to the forum. I am a girl by the way ;) I am actually looking for a little bit support to keep a good vibe going. My boyfriend and I have been through some rough times lately. I am not quite sure but as a result the last two/ three weeks we got into a fight cycle and last week he told me he needed two weeks for him self, without any contact. He hopes it will fix things between us and that we can continue our relationship. He is confused because I have had difficult times lately and because of that I haven't been the happiest and he thinks that is tough to handle ( I know it is) Β Now the way he brought the news made me angry and sad, because he didn't give me a chance to have a decent conversation so we could stay on good terms. I left his place both sad and angry. I haven't heard from him since and I am not sure what is going to happen to us from here on. Yes its in my control to keep the good vibe and be optimistic about the outcome. The thing is I haven't told many people about it. Not my parents, and just three friends and want us to work out and I don't want other people to give their opinion that might effect me in anyway. But keeping it to myself is hard. I need a pep talk from time to time. I hope that you guys can give me some tips or at least some support. I have known LOA for a couple of years now. I know that the best thing is to ignore my current reality, act like its an echo knowing its going to work out just fine. I am doing my best to keep that every day. Beneath is hurt, sadness and anger, that I try to deal with ofcourse. It's always hard to let someone go even if its just for a little while to become better. Well thank you very much in advance.Β
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First of all, I love your name.
You are in a very convenient situation compared to most of us. You can turn this around easily. Focus on what you want. Shouldn't be so hard, because you are still a couple.
The problem, when you feel the urge to talk about it is that it's still active in your vibration. You focus on what you don't want and you wonder how it will end. But you are in full control. It's not that he is unfair or that he has to make a decision. You have now the chance to clean up your vibration. Focus on the wonderful relationship you want with him. Use this 2 weeks to become the best you you can be. You say you are not the happiest. Why? There is no reason EVER to be unhappy, because you can change anything. It's not enough to know about LoA, you have to apply it or it isn't worth anything. Trust me, I have experienced it myself.
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Sanshi thank you :D and thank you for your reply.Β
That's why I love to connect to like minded people. You always get some advice the helps along the way :D.Β
I am indeed afraid. I am afraid that after these two weeks he will walk through my door saying he doesn't want to continue this relationship. No matter how hard I try to clear my vibration, this fear creeps in sometimes, but not all the time. Certainly not most of the time. I am trying EFT. So my not so happy state lately is a result of being overworked, and I got my insomnia back, which I have been trying to deal with for many years now. I know that is something I have to deal with myself but sometimes he gets effected by it as well and it's not so easy to deal with. I understand. You are right not to focus on the possible bad scenarios. I can focus on clearing my fears. Deal with it. maybe?Β
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Polarbear wrote:
Sanshi thank you :D and thank you for your reply.Β
That's why I love to connect to like minded people. You always get some advice the helps along the way :D.Β
I am indeed afraid. I am afraid that after these two weeks he will walk through my door saying he doesn't want to continue this relationship. No matter how hard I try to clear my vibration, this fear creeps in sometimes, but not all the time. Certainly not most of the time. I am trying EFT. So my not so happy state lately is a result of being overworked, and I got my insomnia back, which I have been trying to deal with for many years now. I know that is something I have to deal with myself but sometimes he gets effected by it as well and it's not so easy to deal with. I understand. You are right not to focus on the possible bad scenarios. I can focus on clearing my fears. Deal with it. maybe?Β
You know what you are attracting be fearing him breaking up. Sometimes, LoA makes life harder, because now you feel bad about having that fear. But unfortunatelly, I can't help you with this. You have to focus on what you want and obviously, that's not him walking through your door and breaking up. So stop talking about your fears and stop thinking about your fears. Tell us rather what you like about your guy and what wonderful memories you have with him and what you plan with him in the future.
If you still have this fear, there must be a belief within you that you don't have the control. So maybe it would help to think about where LoA worked for you and do some reading about it.
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@wolf From Polarbear to WolfΒ Β Thank you for the positive input. I had difficulty getting into that mindset last week but it's getting better and better and now that I have got the ball going again I notice that I am getting back into my flow.Β
@ Sanshi Thank you for your input. It is much appreciated and I needed this to go forward. He is a wonderful man and I know we match perfectly together. Actually my fears in the first place that caused this. I feel that is getting better and I indeed won't focus on any negative aspects again. So the LOA has been working for me really well when I look the world through a vision of appreciation, gratitude and love. I focused on love all the time, love for life in general and also specific things and thats when it all flowed. I am going back to that state mind. I am also into feng shui. When I activated the love corner in my bedroom things started flowing as well. I noticed 2 days ago that the table in the love corner has been a bit messy. I used burn candles and lately it had been a forgotten corner so i have reactivated the corner again. I will let you know how it goes. This forum has such a lovely vibe!