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Ok guys question...when you're in the journey right and you realize it's time to let go and see how you contribute to the contrast...some where along the line guilt turns into gratitude for the person.
Now that I'm here...I have literally 125 things on my list I'm grateful for from him alone...I just realized that in some ways I took him for granted.
Now telling them this doesn't fix everything, and if they aren't speaking to you it may push them further away. So what do you do with it?
How do you share it? Anyone got to this stage yet? Where you can genuinely be grateful without saying but...I wasn't. I was still saying " but I did this and I did that." Now I'm totally in love again. Lol! He called today and I had to get off he phone before I told him and made things weird. What on earth now?!?
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You could start with sharing it here. So, you can avoid weird situations, raise the forum vibe and if you haveΒ a lower day ever again, you can get back to it and raise your vibration. Sounds like a win win win situation.
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He can feel the gratitude/love so no need to tell him, or at least not just yet. Bask in it and use it to fuel your visualizations and desires.
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Ok I won't list all 125 but here are a few.
1. When I had surgery he couldn't come but he stayed on Skype everyday while I was in the hospital in a different time zone to make sure we ate dinner together.
2. He built me a closet when I would bring clothes and use the excuse I had to go home to get clothes so I would atay.
3. He bought me a gift back Everytime he went on assignment even if we weren't in the best of moods.
4. He researched different ways to grill pork chops so we could go on a diet together and still cheat.
5. In the winter he humored me several times by having a bean cook off in each other's PJs.
6. He has a secret folder on his computer that said " my life..." I snooped on day and they were all pictures of me.
7. He had kept every card I have ever given him in the past 5 years. I saw it myself.
8. He kept the voodoo doll relationship key chain even though he doesn't carry it, it's still in his room on his dresser.
9. He sent me songs if I was mad at him to apologize.
10. When he wanted to cuddle he scratched to bottom of my foot to get my attention.
11. For this past mother day, even broken up, he bought me a spa package so I did something for myself.
12. I used to be embarrassed to post our pictures on Facebook, he had loads of them I never knew about.
13. Just THIS Sunday he watch my glasses wiggle off my face because I've lost weight he says," I know you're not taking money but I need to you get better glasses."
14. When I left home he would keep the chain off the door every night in hopes I'd come in the middle of the night to sleep with him, and towards he end...I DID but now wish I'd done it more.
15. My dog got hit by a car on his watch. He asked me to sign the lease, move in and he would get me a dog WHILE we went to the shelter JUST to make me smile. I declined because I was not 100% sure I was ready for him...Now I'd give everything to get that back.
The list is so long man. I got all teared up but I realized in some cases, I was the one who took advantage of him. I pray I get to tell him one day and pray it would be receipted!π
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Everythingisbeautiful wrote:
He can feel the gratitude/love so no need to tell him, or at least not just yet. Bask in it and use it to fuel your visualizations and desires.
The issue is knowing if he appreciate it or if I can feel it back at times but I loved writing them
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SydneysMommy wrote:
Ok I won't list all 125 but here are a few.
1. When I had surgery he couldn't come but he stayed on Skype everyday while I was in the hospital in a different time zone to make sure we ate dinner together.
2. He built me a closet when I would bring clothes and use the excuse I had to go home to get clothes so I would atay.
3. He bought me a gift back Everytime he went on assignment even if we weren't in the best of moods.
4. He researched different ways to grill pork chops so we could go on a diet together and still cheat.
5. In the winter he humored me several times by having a bean cook off in each other's PJs.
6. He has a secret folder on his computer that said " my life..." I snooped on day and they were all pictures of me.
7. He had kept every card I have ever given him in the past 5 years. I saw it myself.
8. He kept the voodoo doll relationship key chain even though he doesn't carry it, it's still in his room on his dresser.
9. He sent me songs if I was mad at him to apologize.
10. When he wanted to cuddle he scratched to bottom of my foot to get my attention.
11. For this past mother day, even broken up, he bought me a spa package so I did something for myself.
12. I used to be embarrassed to post our pictures on Facebook, he had loads of them I never knew about.
13. Just THIS Sunday he watch my glasses wiggle off my face because I've lost weight he says," I know you're not taking money but I need to you get better glasses."
14. When I left home he would keep the chain off the door every night in hopes I'd come in the middle of the night to sleep with him, and towards he end...I DID but now wish I'd done it more.
15. My dog got hit by a car on his watch. He asked me to sign the lease, move in and he would get me a dog WHILE we went to the shelter JUST to make me smile. I declined because I was not 100% sure I was ready for him...Now I'd give everything to get that back.
The list is so long man. I got all teared up but I realized in some cases, I was the one who took advantage of him. I pray I get to tell him one day and pray it would be receipted!π
Reading this made me tear....
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SydneysMommy wrote:
Ok I won't list all 125 but here are a few.
1. When I had surgery he couldn't come but he stayed on Skype everyday while I was in the hospital in a different time zone to make sure we ate dinner together.
2. He built me a closet when I would bring clothes and use the excuse I had to go home to get clothes so I would atay.
3. He bought me a gift back Everytime he went on assignment even if we weren't in the best of moods.
4. He researched different ways to grill pork chops so we could go on a diet together and still cheat.
5. In the winter he humored me several times by having a bean cook off in each other's PJs.
6. He has a secret folder on his computer that said " my life..." I snooped on day and they were all pictures of me.
7. He had kept every card I have ever given him in the past 5 years. I saw it myself.
8. He kept the voodoo doll relationship key chain even though he doesn't carry it, it's still in his room on his dresser.
9. He sent me songs if I was mad at him to apologize.
10. When he wanted to cuddle he scratched to bottom of my foot to get my attention.
11. For this past mother day, even broken up, he bought me a spa package so I did something for myself.
12. I used to be embarrassed to post our pictures on Facebook, he had loads of them I never knew about.
13. Just THIS Sunday he watch my glasses wiggle off my face because I've lost weight he says," I know you're not taking money but I need to you get better glasses."
14. When I left home he would keep the chain off the door every night in hopes I'd come in the middle of the night to sleep with him, and towards he end...I DID but now wish I'd done it more.
15. My dog got hit by a car on his watch. He asked me to sign the lease, move in and he would get me a dog WHILE we went to the shelter JUST to make me smile. I declined because I was not 100% sure I was ready for him...Now I'd give everything to get that back.
The list is so long man. I got all teared up but I realized in some cases, I was the one who took advantage of him. I pray I get to tell him one day and pray it would be receipted!π
Not going to lie number 6 really made me tear up and fill w love, I put myself in that situation and it was ljkeπππ
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Lord have mercy this is tough. Last night I was in a huge ball is snot and tears. Not like in pain but longing and wanted to tell him. He messaged a video for our daughter goodnight and didn't mention me at all. I could be looking too much in it, but just a few hours prior he was chatting with me.
The journey with him feels completed in a way. Like this way the point. To realize his beautiful soul that was masked by his pain. Now I'm completely stuck in what to do. If he calls I know I'm gonna wanna blurt it out and it is gonna come across as needy. Especially if he isn't there just yet. Who knew I'd be falling in love again?ππππ
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lemon wrote:
SydneysMommy wrote:
Ok I won't list all 125 but here are a few.
1. When I had surgery he couldn't come but he stayed on Skype everyday while I was in the hospital in a different time zone to make sure we ate dinner together.
2. He built me a closet when I would bring clothes and use the excuse I had to go home to get clothes so I would atay.
3. He bought me a gift back Everytime he went on assignment even if we weren't in the best of moods.
4. He researched different ways to grill pork chops so we could go on a diet together and still cheat.
5. In the winter he humored me several times by having a bean cook off in each other's PJs.
6. He has a secret folder on his computer that said " my life..." I snooped on day and they were all pictures of me.
7. He had kept every card I have ever given him in the past 5 years. I saw it myself.
8. He kept the voodoo doll relationship key chain even though he doesn't carry it, it's still in his room on his dresser.
9. He sent me songs if I was mad at him to apologize.
10. When he wanted to cuddle he scratched to bottom of my foot to get my attention.
11. For this past mother day, even broken up, he bought me a spa package so I did something for myself.
12. I used to be embarrassed to post our pictures on Facebook, he had loads of them I never knew about.
13. Just THIS Sunday he watch my glasses wiggle off my face because I've lost weight he says," I know you're not taking money but I need to you get better glasses."
14. When I left home he would keep the chain off the door every night in hopes I'd come in the middle of the night to sleep with him, and towards he end...I DID but now wish I'd done it more.
15. My dog got hit by a car on his watch. He asked me to sign the lease, move in and he would get me a dog WHILE we went to the shelter JUST to make me smile. I declined because I was not 100% sure I was ready for him...Now I'd give everything to get that back.
The list is so long man. I got all teared up but I realized in some cases, I was the one who took advantage of him. I pray I get to tell him one day and pray it would be receipted!πNot going to lie number 6 really made me tear up and fill w love, I put myself in that situation and it was ljkeπππ
Yessssssss! I totally remember falling out of my chair. I thought for sure I'd had enough bitterness that day to leave him until I saw evidence he was super crazy about me. Now that I've lost it... temporarily I mean...it just had to be added as a moment i didn't show gratitude when I should've.
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holistichealing wrote:
SydneysMommy wrote:
Ok I won't list all 125 but here are a few.
1. When I had surgery he couldn't come but he stayed on Skype everyday while I was in the hospital in a different time zone to make sure we ate dinner together.
2. He built me a closet when I would bring clothes and use the excuse I had to go home to get clothes so I would atay.
3. He bought me a gift back Everytime he went on assignment even if we weren't in the best of moods.
4. He researched different ways to grill pork chops so we could go on a diet together and still cheat.
5. In the winter he humored me several times by having a bean cook off in each other's PJs.
6. He has a secret folder on his computer that said " my life..." I snooped on day and they were all pictures of me.
7. He had kept every card I have ever given him in the past 5 years. I saw it myself.
8. He kept the voodoo doll relationship key chain even though he doesn't carry it, it's still in his room on his dresser.
9. He sent me songs if I was mad at him to apologize.
10. When he wanted to cuddle he scratched to bottom of my foot to get my attention.
11. For this past mother day, even broken up, he bought me a spa package so I did something for myself.
12. I used to be embarrassed to post our pictures on Facebook, he had loads of them I never knew about.
13. Just THIS Sunday he watch my glasses wiggle off my face because I've lost weight he says," I know you're not taking money but I need to you get better glasses."
14. When I left home he would keep the chain off the door every night in hopes I'd come in the middle of the night to sleep with him, and towards he end...I DID but now wish I'd done it more.
15. My dog got hit by a car on his watch. He asked me to sign the lease, move in and he would get me a dog WHILE we went to the shelter JUST to make me smile. I declined because I was not 100% sure I was ready for him...Now I'd give everything to get that back.
The list is so long man. I got all teared up but I realized in some cases, I was the one who took advantage of him. I pray I get to tell him one day and pray it would be receipted!πReading this made me tear....
I was smiling when I first started writing it and then as the list grew I was on my second roll of toilet paper...lol I fell in love again.. sigh and what's even funnier, the dang list keeps going!!!