So after a good look into myself I realized how over all I had become unhappy with pleasing others and stretching myself way too thin.

Cotton and cherish have similar post of not just using loa but common exposure to self worth to heighten their chances of not just getting their guy back but getting themselves back!

Once I started limiting my yes I wills and chatty gossip and even my guys phone calls, I noticed I was lighter and having more fun.

Once the universe saw me getting happy...bashars theory of the echo came to hit me hard! Past troubles tried to suck me in. Instead of begging or please g for forgiveness I apologized for my part and just asked to move on.


Even with my guy. I don't reach out at ALL! I can hear in his voice at times he wants more conversation but with working on self...I know I don't want to be friend zone and I'm going to be worked for.

Lar019 calls it the pedestal! When I sit on it now, only focusing on my needs and my kids needs I almost feel like people aren't worthy of my time.

I'm hoping that it makes sense but the idea of letting go is scary but feels better!!!!

We aren't speaking everyday but I'm working out every day, I'm learning everyday, I spend additional quality time with our daughter everyday and guess what..everyday I get me back.


We give away so much of out day and time hoping and praying our loa techniques work, but like Abraham says you gotta get in alignment of what feels good. And it feels better right now building up a beautiful me than back tracking to a me minus him!

My nerves arent nearly as shook and I feel so much gratefulness to things I wasn't seeing before around me.

If cherish and cotton are right, and this is really how it goes, he has no choice but to come back looking harder. He has too! But will cone back seeing me stronger, happier, secure, a couple of lbs down and a whole lot less desperate and needy.

My new goals are to work on RS I enjoy knowing i can influence how he communicates. My sex life is nonexistent! I can't imagine anyone touching me but him do that pushes me to create image of how amazing it'll be when he IS touching on a fit body on a woman he knew once before that he has to see everyday of his life if she lets him.


Feeling OK with acceptance of their current journey bring without you hurts at first until you realize you don't want them like they are now..so why would they want you as you are now...upgrade yourself FOR yourself! That feels so much better.

Just wanted to share! Thanks especially to cherished, lar019 and cotton for reminding us that we MUST present as worthy candidates to be treated and chased as worthy gifts...


I'm a gift, the prize and a goddess! Not a desperate, weak, woman that was abandoned with a child by a man who thought it got too hard. Instead we needed to be apart to appreciate our strength. I now get it again! We all really can get there! Even if a struggle the point is too remember no one wants mediocre! Be extraordinary!