Hi all,

I'm briefly coming back to post this and I'll be gone again. The reason why I can't stay here is because it honestly just lowers my vibe. Counter intuitive I know. This forum started as something inspirational and now it's a lot like the PLOA ex back forum. Sorry if I've offended anyone but in my month away I've felt like a whole new person. Have I made any physical progress with my guy? No. Am I any closer to getting him back? Who knows?

So why do I say this place lowers my vibe? Well every thread is about an ex. Over analyzing, wondering why it isn't working, pretending to be happy, people are delusional at times! Hey even I was delusional not too long ago. You guys all have been noticing a lack. I'm gonna just say that by posting and asking, that lack will continue to exist.

I was guilty of this. I thought LOA was a set of rules where you had to visualize and script and ignore any bad thoughts. But the more I forced positive thinking, the easier to it was to crash into a negative spiral. You don't have to do any of it if you don't want to. Don't think doing a set of tasks for 25 days will win you your ex. It'll do nothing. You have to be ok with your life as is. In fact, the more I forced myself to think positive I got the biggest headache.

One technique I learned from my life coach is to observe a bad thought, punish yourself (she suggested I scream "la la la" to a stranger but I jsut snap a rubber band on my wrist) and think of something that makes me smile. For me, it's my dog.

One thing I'll tell you is that your ex has likely moved on with their lives, they likely don't think about you as much as you think about them. They maybe even have new partners. Whatever it is, they don't matter. Only you matter. Instead of lurking the forum and reading ex back advice, go for a walk, take an art class, reach out to friends you haven't spoken to in years. Even just put a smile on your face. There are so many benefits to smiling and you jsut feel good.


We all have goals in life. Yet, none of us ever post them here. I even tried to make a thread about a career goal to no response. Let me ask, if your ex never came back, would you not pursue other goals? Will you stop losing weight, learning a new language, going back to college, or going for that promotion if your ex doesn't come back? Your ex is pursuing his/her goals without you. Why can't you? While everyone on the forum says LOA guarantees they'll come back, I won't make you this guarantee. I know LOA works because I unconsciously used it to manifest my guy. But I won't make the guarantee because in life there are never guarantees. But I will guarantee that if you focus on you, you will feel amazing! Ultimately that's what we all want. We don't want our ex back if we would be miserable with them. If you are miserable already and you get him back, well I'll be honest, you'll still be miserable. You never allowed yourself to be happy with you. You are your own best friend. Even if your ex is happy with his rebound partner, it actually shows that he couldn't be happy on his own and he needed someone new to make him happy. You're better than your ex! Anyways, I do have a suggestion that we have a sub forum where we talk about anything but our ex.

Now this is controversial. I strongly suggest you start dating others. I know some of you don't want to because it  seems like you are not letting the Universe bring you to your ex. For me, however, it has made me a lot more confident in myself and has given me new friends. I've met so many new people through this and I've now shifts my view to that my ex is an option of many. Trust me, you feel so much more relieved when you change your thinking to that. When I shifts to that thought I felt like I let a ton of bricks go. It doesn't mean you want your ex any less, but it just ensure that you can be happy and get your vibe up. And maybe in process you may find you don't want him anymore. That's ok too.

Also another controversial thought is the no contact rule. I honestly believe it'll be me to make contact first when get back together. I know Veronica generally says to wait for contact. Most ex back advice says 30 days, 60 days, etc. But I'll just say if you're happy enough that you really don't care what he says, then contact him. I haven't gotten to that point yet. But it's all up to you. I think waiting for contact will just have you noticing a lack.

Anyways, sorry for ranting. But I think I've made my point here. I hired a life coach who specializes in breakups and she has helped me more than anything. Essentially she has taught me how to practically use LOA without the fancy title and no scripting and meditating. If you have the money for this, I would highly suggest you do. Otherwise,really just work on being happy as an independent human being and you'll feel so much better?