Hey Susiewoo, you are in control of how they view you and the relationship. Don't worry about what he might or might not be thinking about you right now, instead focus on what you DO want him to think and feel about you and the relationship. If you keep focusing your attention on whether he is in denial or has fears, you are fuelling more energy towards that and therefore it has to manifest. 

Just rewrite it all. When you see stuff that makes you feel doubt or uneasy, rewrite it to mean something more beneficial to you. Everything has no meaning to it until you attach one to it - so you can choose to attach either a good or a bad meaning. You see that he has a tidy house? Well tell yourself "he wanted to impress me so much and show me that he's changing into a better man, he's started to even tidy up for me!" it may feel odd at first, but if you understand you create your reality then you will see that you can attach any meaning you want to anything :-)

But it's good to remember that whatever I'm thinking, he will be thinking, that's right yeah?   Your first line about me getting to choose how they think, so I'm really in control of all of this

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Susiewoo wrote:

But it's good to remember that whatever I'm thinking, he will be thinking, that's right yeah?   Your first line about me getting to choose how they think, so I'm really in control of all of this

Yes, you may not see the effects of this immediately in your current reality... But if you do it long enough with minimal resistance then it will manifest. It depends on your belief and faith in it.
 

The problem with this LoA thing is that you can't prove it. You can experience it for yourself, but you can't prove it to others. In the end, you have to decide for yourself what you want to believe in. It's the same with free will. You can't prove free will. You just believe in it, because you were taught to believe in it and because it feels better to your ego. But think about it for a moment. How can you know that you have free will? Did you decide to love your guy and can you now decide to stop loving him to feel better? Did you decide to love singing or did it just come to you? You can't decide what feels good or bad to you. Where is the free will here? The only thing you can choose is how you think about something. Do you want to focus on your desire or the lack of it? That's your choice and that's the only thing you should worry about.

Yes, if you can't feel good about it it right now, don't think about it. It's like being a painter who is working on a painting. If he would break both of his hands, he wouldn't continue painting with his mouth or his toes, right? He would be patient until his hands are fit for service again, to not ruin his master piece.