Morning Guys,So I am coming to you guys to get advice on my choice to having limited contact or keep pushing. It has been a hot and cold, up and down road and for what it is worth, it’s exhausting. Our daughters birthday party was Saturday. Inspite of all our progress and bumps, we still had a “tiff” and it ended well. It ended after I took some advice here and chose to hold my emotions and vibes and slowly but surly he came around. Now the 4th of July is my favorite holiday. I have been sitting trying to manifest the perfect occasion on that day for years now. He is completely aware of it and you know I what, I spent all of 15 minutes with him to drop our daughter off. When I returned he wasn’t there and that’s when the sinking feeling came in again that possibly he had a date. His mom called me into the room to talk openly because it was the first time our families were together since our split and was very pleased how we got along. He told her what had happened and surprislingly she sided with me because she knew I meant NO HARM.What she suggested next though made me question where things are going and that’s why im reaching out to you guys. She asked if we were in the “friend zone.” She said that he told her he loves me dearly BUT I get on his nerves at times. She said that she knew he works mine so we had something in common. But then she asked him if there was a future there, he told her he wasn’t sure. He thinks about it but needs time to get himself together first.She told me a brief story of how her and her husband were in the past. Shee completely went no contact. And was willig to risk their marriage because she was no ones second option or emotional sound board. Guys I FEEL THE EXACT SAME! We do get along, and have been. But his current situations HAVE affected me staying on a good vibe in other areas. I don’t believe in playing games, but I do think I wasn’t 100% ready when he unblocked me and came back. The idea of limited contact helps me get tighter in my head. To reestablish my firm belief that I shouldn’t accept anything less than what I am worth, but then to also CHANGE THE REACTIONS AND CIRCIMSTANCES, as Bashar says so he knows I mean business.Or do I continue at the way we are and push through the resistance because we are back in communication? My point for asking is because you’re supposed to do what feels good. It doesn’t feel good speaking to him when he is only bouncing ideas off of me, nor does it feel good to be an indirect victim of his vibes. I do get the idea of mirroring back what you want, but what I want is for ME to enjoy our time and lately I have gotten loads of promises with no actions. This is making me feel more like I am optional versus choice. I want to make a firm stand to not be used for convenience and that I am a woman or worth, a wife, a goddess and I need silence from him and space. But then it is that fear that it will back fire that he will be like OH you not talking to me, fine, im not talking to you. Which is my biggest issue, but at the end of the day, it isn’t my concern to put his needs first. I basically know it is the better thing to do, but I worry its due to low vibes versus, high personal respect for myself. All advice, person stories are welcomed. Because this year has to be the last year I spend my favorite holiday alone. This is the last time he will snap at me and this has to be the last time that he is effortless one minute and rubbing my face, kissing me and calling me the next.