Honestly, this kind of confuses me. The guy that has come back currently, I was seeing signs up until the point that he returned. I had no resistance towards him because at that point I knew he was in a relationship, therefore I wasn't going after him. However, when he did make contact with me, my vibe was just how it is any other day.

big_blue wrote:

Honestly, this kind of confuses me. The guy that has come back currently, I was seeing signs up until the point that he returned. I had no resistance towards him because at that point I knew he was in a relationship, therefore I wasn't going after him. However, when he did make contact with me, my vibe was just how it is any other day.

Was it your intention to attract him back into your life? If that's the case, did you believe fully that he would come back from the very beginning?

camber wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

And I want to add one last thought, because the discussion, if it's even possible to attract an ex back, comes up again and again. Let's assume that my conclusions about signs are right. Let's further assume that a person does everything right and vibrates on the frequency of a happy relationship with their ex. If it is possible to attract an ex back, he HAS to come in that scenario. If it's not (always) possible, then the universe has to at least deliver what is closest to the vibration the person is offering, because it's a law that it has to reflect what we focus upon. That means the universe has to deliver to us a fitting partner for a happy relationship.

And so my final conclusion: Irrespective if it's possible or not, when you do everything right and vibrate at the right frequency, you have to at least find a perfect partner for you soon. That means as long as you are not head over heels in love with a new person (or your ex), your vibration is not in the right place to get your ex back yet! And that means, you have no reason to be desperate or to give up, because if you do everything right, the universe has to deliver a relationship to you in any case.

This is the part that confuses me. I know in my case, there came a point where I completely let go, stopped visualising, and everything else. I simply let go of the resistance I had and moved on with my life. The intention was there that I wanted my person back but I wasn't thinking about him every hour of the day and basing my emotions or actions on him whatsoever. I started meeting new people, went on dates, and everything has been great. Better than ever but what I quickly noticed is that none of these guys I went out with was who I wanted to be with. Despite fully letting go of my guy, emotionally and mentally, there was still a guide that led me back to him. We haven't spoken in ages. I have no idea what he's doing. Just so happened the other day, a mutual friend had liked his photo but the thumbnail was so tiny, I didn't realise it was his profile until I clicked it. Sure enough, he is now back together with his cheating ex-gf. Upon seeing this, I felt nothing. I wasn't jealous, angry, or annoyed.

Here's my question for you related to what you just said - If I did everything right and never once even thought about him getting back together with her, how did this manifest into being? There have been countless signs but I haven't reacted to any of them. I strongly believe when we ask for signs, we get just that - signs and nothing more. If what we put focus on is what transpires then what happens when you genuinely and wholeheartedly never think about them returning a toxic ex? Subconsciously or otherwise?

Just because you let go doesn't mean that your vibration is in the right place to attract him back. Else, everyone would get their ex back after moving on.

About him being with his ex: Wasn't it your expectation that he would find another girl? Did you never fear that he wouldn't stay single forever? I think most of us had this fear. It doesn't really matter in which form it manifests, if it's the ex or a new girl.

And btw, I'm not talking about signs that we ask for. I'm talking about signs that just pop up in our experience.

Sanshi wrote:

big_blue wrote:

Honestly, this kind of confuses me. The guy that has come back currently, I was seeing signs up until the point that he returned. I had no resistance towards him because at that point I knew he was in a relationship, therefore I wasn't going after him. However, when he did make contact with me, my vibe was just how it is any other day.

Was it your intention to attract him back into your life? If that's the case, did you believe fully that he would come back from the very beginning?

No, I was trying to attract someone else back. However, I told myself long ago that if he ever came back, I would pursue him again. I just don't know how my vibe was different on that day that he contacted me, as nothing different about that day happened. All I knew what that he had a girlfriend, so when he contacted me, it was an utter surprise.

 

gt wrote:

This is a really interesting topic for me.

I'm now on my third attempt at leveraging LOA to attract back a person.  The first two were years ago and they failed miserably.  In both those cases, I would always be looking for signs and interpreting signals as they are on their way back.  As an example, every time I would see a car like one of them drove, it was a divine sign.

This time, i've taken a very different approach.  When I see the same car as my ex, I view it as my ability to manifest the car and not a sign.  A large reason for that is because I have a history of looking for the car, so there is an expectation.  If I'm seeing the cars in abundance, my vibration is in line with manifesting them and thus indicating i'm in a good vibrational place with which I can continue to work on my ex.

Now, from time to time, i'll get something that is totally out of left field, something I would never even think about on my own.  As an example, today I received a piece of spam email.  Normally i would just delete it without even looking at it.  I happened to look at the one today and it was for a restaurant the ex goes to lunch regularly - a place that has no appeal to me at all.   So I do believe there are signs that show up, but... and here's the but, it's the way we react to it that is key.  In my case, i saw it and said "huh, that's cool" and left it at that.  Whereas, in the past, i would see the "sign" and i would use it for relief.  In hindsight, the fact that it brought me relief really indicated I still had attachment.

So in short, i believe there are signs, but I also don't believe everything is a sign, somethings are just mile markers along the road.

It's interesting that you say you failed two times in the past and got signs every time. That's my experience as well. I tried to attract an ex back years ago and I saw signs, but he never came. That supports my theory.

You say, you believe there are "real" signs and manifestations but how do you differentiate between the two?

iinikkii wrote:

I'm sort of confused as to what message this thread is trying to convey??

The thought I was trying to get across is that the "signs" you get are just an indicator how close or far your vibration is from the vibration you need to have in order to manifest your desire.