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So I have a few loa friends. One of them mentions how her ex has mentioned how he almost forgot her existence when they first broke up. She said he was suppressing the bad experiences if their relationship. Then forgot about it, but because he just remembered her existence he decided to contact her again to be friends before they got together. But then he leaves them, he says she is the reason, but she also claimed how they have been nothing but fine. That the only real issue was his family.
She believes in the loa, but gained a fear of him wiping her existence from his memory. Even though they were so happy together with each other this time around. She said the pain he would suppress would be the fact that he left the woman he actually loves because his family won't let him be happy. I told her so long as she sends him love and any other vibrational energy he cannot forget her. But she still fears it. So what are your thoughts, I feel I gave the right information. But thought this would be an interesting topic.
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I think you did the right thing!
I would've said the same if I were in your shoe.
"continue sending him love and heart energy, and he will feel them for sure, he WILL think about her for sure."
"fear" is a negative emotion, so as hard as it sounds, she kinna has to eliminate that feeling out of her brain, her mind, her heart if she does want things to work out between her and the guy.
When you feel like negative emotions are taking over, "Breathe, Have Faith, Believe"
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So my friend said she still fears he will erase her from his memory. I tried to explain to her how sending him love and positive energy will result in him thinking about her which will prevent him from forgetting about her. That the reason he never forgot about her to begin with was because of all the energy she was sending him.
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holistichealing wrote:
So my friend said she still fears he will erase her from his memory. I tried to explain to her how sending him love and positive energy will result in him thinking about her which will prevent him from forgetting about her. That the reason he never forgot about her to begin with was because of all the energy she was sending him.
I don't really understand how someone can forget about an ex? I have never forgotten an ex...I guess. 
If she wants him back, she has to let go of that fear. The vibration of him forgetting her is clearly faaar from the vibration of a happy relationship.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
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So my friend said she still fears he will erase her from his memory. I tried to explain to her how sending him love and positive energy will result in him thinking about her which will prevent him from forgetting about her. That the reason he never forgot about her to begin with was because of all the energy she was sending him.
I don't really understand how someone can forget about an ex? I have never forgotten an ex...I guess.
If she wants him back, she has to let go of that fear. The vibration of him forgetting her is clearly faaar from the vibration of a happy relationship.
He has a historical record of suppressing memory of events or people. Or so she tells me. He was capable of forgetting about a friend who claims she knows him, but he holds no memory of her. I asked her why he does that and she says so he won't have to deal with the pain. Some people cope with things in unhealthy ways and he told her he almost forgot about her. So that is why she is afraid he will forget her this time.
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Everyone has a different way of dealing with pain. For your friend's boyfriend he method may be to suppress the thoughts of what has occurred and act as if it never happened. That's his survival mechanism.
However the real issue is your friend's fear. She has this fear because she knows he has the ability to do it and to some extent I understand why. My love has a similar trait of when he has been hurt by someone he will cut all ties and never look back. He is very fixed in that way and I have seen him do it. So when we broke up, I feared that he would do the same to me. However I quickly had to dispel that fear within myself and allow myself to believe that he couldn't possible do that to me. And he didn't.
And that's what your friend has to overcome. She has to not allow that fear to stop her believing he will be hers. The advice you have given her is good, send him love etc but she has to firstly believe that he will stay open to her. Get her to work on that fear because all she will do is continue to manifesting him blocking her out.
Well done for being a supportive friend and taking her through the process
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