So this is how it went.

When I walked in the house I immediately saw he had an attitude. I asked him what was up and he SNAPPED saying don't pull no **** today im not in the mood for a thing else. I told him well hello to you too and reminded him I'm an adult and whatever the hell was up wasn't my issue and walked out the door to cool down.



I can back in and ignored his grump mood and found myself simply enjoying our fwmilies, my kid, all the kids, even our parents got along.

Little by little he came too. Asking if I wanted things. Nudging my sister to see if I was ok. He watched me like a hawk. I took it in. Knowing how beautiful the day was, I was, the kids were...I kept the emotions at all is well and beautiful.

Finally he came around, fixed plates for kids, made numerous attempts to talk to me but because there is a level of boundaries he keeps crossing I made my conversation super tight for a while.

Then once it was clean up time he came and sat beside me to tell me I was pretty and the show me pictures he caught on his camera.

I wasn't truly interested so I told him...I was tired and my legs were hurting and I was a bit stiff. He sat down, put his arm across my leg and said nothing... for at least 20minutes.

To me a straight up IM SORRY FOR BEING AN ASS works...it's clean and too the point. Instead his silence and need to come back to me was apology enough. I know he feels he has the upper hand since he broke up with me. So my changed thinking of you'll need to hear from me before I need to hear from you mentality worked in my favor than looking sad and pitiful because HE is being ugly.


When I was time to go, he was crazy chatty. I mean something I haven't seen since we first started dating. Talked to me dad, had a couple beers with my sister, even teamed up with my mom to pick fun at me. He out on a great show is what I'd used to think...but now I actually believe...I had the power to manipulate the environment by making ME who you should be worried about not the other way.


The kids all enjoyed themselves and most were knocked out before leaving so he helped me carry my kid and my niece to the care. Gave my sister a huge hug and then came to me. Kissed me on the temple hugged me twice...got a cheap but grab lol and held my hand to say goodbye.


I said I would post when I had an update....well there it's is. Slow and steady I guess makes sense. He is still holding on to the past but the more I react and change...I do see how the circumstances dont out weigh the current state of being.


Moving forward I have to stand firm on the state of being that my worth is enormous and speaking to me crazy needs to have consequences. HONESTLY guys it's a turn off and makes me consider that there is MORE work to be done.

I'm satisfied with my day. In a while it's been him controlling the environment with his feelings about his life and at times he hasn't been kind to me...well no more of that. Today was my first real time HOLDING firm and it WORKED!

Cherished wrote:

I'm so proud of you reading this!

Why thank you!

Took alot out if me but definitely was tired of feeling down. It felt awesome to hold firm and watch him move to me. Took the advice and applied it

this post made me happy. I'm very proud of you!

Love how you handled the situation.