Em wrote:

It's fine if it doesn't make you feel good or if it makes you feel guilty, then don't date! In my opinion that's kind of like letting your ex be in control of your life and emotions which is counter productive in my eyes but hey ho.

Manifesting Love by Elizabeth Daniels states dating can be good in manifesting your ex back IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD. Lanie Stevens also said she had a few casual relationships during the year she was apart from her ex. Both were successful in manifesting.

For me I didn't date others because everytime I did they would always say I have that look in my eyes as if I already know what I want. I didn't feel wrong for dating and a had a good time, but because I had such a strong belief that I already had my desire it counteracted my dates from continuing. So I just decided to have casual meetings with friends instead, still having fun.

RaCo,
WOW, I am so happy for you.  It gave me chills and you give me so much hope.  She contacted you two months later.  I think you are right to do it in person if that is what you want.  You need to be in control of your relationship.  Make her really want you.  I will for sure pray also for you.  Don't ever give up your love.  Keep loving yourself.  Because you are fantastic.  God only made one of you and you deserve the greatest love and relationship he can give you.  Give it to him.  Focus on God and living a life to care and love others.  Be HAPPY with your world.  It may seem you are alone sometimes  But believe me you so are not.  If you need me I am here.  I know that anything is possible.  All you need to do is believe and take action.  Don't reach out to her.  Make her work for it.  And by no means settle.  You want a long lasting relationship with her.  She needs to not take you for granted.  Like Veronica said.  You don't want your old relationship.   Show her you are the new and perfect version of yourself.  I am working out 3 times a week at my job.  loving my job, loving my son and tonight I am bringing his mom dinner.  sucky thing is he lives right next door.  I will do nothing at all to contact him or even recognize he is there.  I will do all I can to not mention him at all to his mom and if he is mentioned I will be positive and short.  My life is about my life, my son, my work and what we are doing.  He is not in that yet.  He has to want to be in my life.  I love him from afar.  I cannot fix what is broken in him.  That is on him.  But I will give all my love to the universe and save myself for our love and relationship.  Nothing is lost in waiting.  I believe being honorable is exactly what I want in my life and why would I live in any other way than that.  Dating to me is using someone else to help me feel better and I believe you get what you give.  I won't do it.  Others deserve better.  I would not want him to do that to me and I am not going to do that to him.  Great luck and keep in touch.  Please.  I need to know how you are doing. 

Em wrote:

It's fine if it doesn't make you feel good or if it makes you feel guilty, then don't date! In my opinion that's kind of like letting your ex be in control of your life and emotions which is counter productive in my eyes but hey ho.

Manifesting Love by Elizabeth Daniels states dating can be good in manifesting your ex back IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD. Lanie Stevens also said she had a few casual relationships during the year she was apart from her ex. Both were successful in manifesting.

I disagree it's letting your ex control your life. I don't date others, because I don't want to. PERIOD. Has nothing to do with my guy controlling me. I have no desire to date other men, so I don't. I think it's more of me honoring myself and my desire, and staying true to myself.

iinikkii wrote:

Em wrote:

It's fine if it doesn't make you feel good or if it makes you feel guilty, then don't date! In my opinion that's kind of like letting your ex be in control of your life and emotions which is counter productive in my eyes but hey ho.

Manifesting Love by Elizabeth Daniels states dating can be good in manifesting your ex back IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD. Lanie Stevens also said she had a few casual relationships during the year she was apart from her ex. Both were successful in manifesting.

I disagree it's letting your ex control your life. I don't date others, because I don't want to. PERIOD. Has nothing to do with my guy controlling me. I have no desire to date other men, so I don't. I think it's more of me honoring myself and my desire, and staying true to myself.

I meant in terms of it making you feel guilty.

So staying true to your desire, if you were trying to manifest a specific car, would you not drive others in the meantime?

I agree with doing whatever makes you feel better. If not dating and potentially missing out on someone better while he's out having a ball with someone else makes you feel better then that's your choice!

Last edited by Em (7/01/2016 5:56 pm)

So, would you drive another car?

Or is that betraying your current desire, lol. I don't understand what is funny.

Last edited by Em (7/01/2016 6:01 pm)