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6/30/2016 10:24 pm  #1


Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

I had a major setback today. During the 5 weeks after the breakup, my BF always contacted me until I stopped him because he told me that he had to think about coming back. Even after he said that, he continued sending messages, calling me and he even invited me for coffee (I didn't go) but we went together to get tattoos.
10 days ago I sent him an email telling him that I needed some distance to focus on myself. After that, He sent me messages about unimportant details like clothes, bank account, etc.
Last weekend my aunt died and he sent me a message to check on me. I replied and we had a small conversation, then he called me, didn't answer, he texted me again at night, I replied the next morning, and he called again, didn't answer but sent a message telling him that I was driving. At night I sent him a message thanking him for his concern. He didn't reply.
And today, my mother in law told me that she sent me a blouse (she lives in another country), but my BF asked one of his friends to text me to say that there was a blouse for me.
I don't know what to think.
Revenge?
One thing is for sure: he hurt me, again.
I want him back, but tonight I am very angry. He complicates things to the max.
I'm discouraged.

 

6/30/2016 11:29 pm  #2


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Quit playing games with this guy. If you want him, he's right there. Just talk to him. This whole thing about not answering or waiting till next day is just childish BS.

I hate when women play cat and mouse. He is already showing signs of wanting you but yet you wanna feed your ego some by dangling yourself in front of him like a horse chasing a carrot on a string. Either take him or move on. It's really that simple.

Yes this was blunt. I'm not the nicest guy on this forum.


Thoughts become things.
 

6/30/2016 11:32 pm  #3


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Craigd88 wrote:

Quit playing games with this guy. If you want him, he's right there. Just talk to him. This whole thing about not answering or waiting till next day is just childish BS.

I hate when women play cat and mouse. He is already showing signs of wanting you but yet you wanna feed your ego some by dangling yourself in front of him like a horse chasing a carrot on a string. Either take him or move on. It's really that simple.

Yes this was blunt. I'm not the nicest guy on this forum.

Thanks for saying that. Action-reaction, right?
I needed some distance cause he was playing hard to get also.
Let's see what happens next...

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7/01/2016 8:14 am  #4


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Sam wrote:

Remember that he can only reflect back to you what you're vibing. So he's not "playing hard to get". It's actually you who is. When you start focusing more on real, true love then he will reflect that back to you instead. Speak to him when he calls, have fun conversations, enjoy each other. There's no need for this to be hard, you're just over thinking it. Be light hearted about it. πŸ’œ

Thanks!

Tell me something...I'm going on vacation next week. I need someone who takes care of my cat and dog. I'm thinking about asking him to stay in my house for a week. He was partially living here before the breakup, and now he's unemployed so he has time...
My doubt is: am I interfering with the universe?

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7/01/2016 8:18 am  #5


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

Sam wrote:

Remember that he can only reflect back to you what you're vibing. So he's not "playing hard to get". It's actually you who is. When you start focusing more on real, true love then he will reflect that back to you instead. Speak to him when he calls, have fun conversations, enjoy each other. There's no need for this to be hard, you're just over thinking it. Be light hearted about it. πŸ’œ

Thanks!

Tell me something...I'm going on vacation next week. I need someone who takes care of my cat and dog. I'm thinking about asking him to stay in my house for a week. He was partially living here before the breakup, and now he's unemployed so he has time...
My doubt is: am I interfering with the universe?

Don't worry and do what feels best. Your emotions always guide you and if you are heading in the wrong direction, you feel it. Circumstances don't matter, your actions don't matter, only your vibration matters. You can do the same thing with two different vibrations and you will get two different outcomes.
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"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

7/01/2016 8:31 am  #6


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Sanshi wrote:

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

Sam wrote:

Remember that he can only reflect back to you what you're vibing. So he's not "playing hard to get". It's actually you who is. When you start focusing more on real, true love then he will reflect that back to you instead. Speak to him when he calls, have fun conversations, enjoy each other. There's no need for this to be hard, you're just over thinking it. Be light hearted about it. πŸ’œ

Thanks!

Tell me something...I'm going on vacation next week. I need someone who takes care of my cat and dog. I'm thinking about asking him to stay in my house for a week. He was partially living here before the breakup, and now he's unemployed so he has time...
My doubt is: am I interfering with the universe?

Don't worry and do what feels best. Your emotions always guide you and if you are heading in the wrong direction, you feel it. Circumstances don't matter, your actions don't matter, only your vibration matters. You can do the same thing with two different vibrations and you will get two different outcomes.
Β 

Wow! Right now I feel like it's the right thing to do to detangle this whole thing. I was always there for him, he was always there for me and right now I need to know that my animals will be safe. Also he loves them. Also I need him to take me to the airport and pick me up... I'm going to work on my vibration and don't expect anything... the universe knows what I want and I'm going to trust. Feel better now. Thank you very much!
And I won't listen to anyone, besides my mom. People living in this reality could be so mean, because they don't know about LOA.

Last edited by Jim Chien Beige (7/01/2016 8:33 am)

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7/01/2016 8:39 am  #7


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

Wow! Right now I feel like it's the right thing to do to detangle this whole thing. I was always there for him, he was always there for me and right now I need to know that my animals will be safe. Also he loves them. Also I need him to take me to the airport and pick me up... I'm going to work on my vibration and don't expect anything... the universe knows what I want and I'm going to trust. Feel better now. Thank you very much!
And I won't listen to anyone, besides my mom. People living in this reality could be so mean, because they don't know about LOA.

Only listen to your mom, when you like what she has to say. ;D
Most people don't want to be mean. They want to help you. They don't want you to suffer. Appreciate that and speak with them about the weather (until you need to manifest nice weather, then talk about..I don't know..dust).


"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."

Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
 

7/01/2016 9:23 am  #8


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Sanshi wrote:

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

Wow! Right now I feel like it's the right thing to do to detangle this whole thing. I was always there for him, he was always there for me and right now I need to know that my animals will be safe. Also he loves them. Also I need him to take me to the airport and pick me up... I'm going to work on my vibration and don't expect anything... the universe knows what I want and I'm going to trust. Feel better now. Thank you very much!
And I won't listen to anyone, besides my mom. People living in this reality could be so mean, because they don't know about LOA.

Only listen to your mom, when you like what she has to say. ;D
Most people don't want to be mean. They want to help you. They don't want you to suffer. Appreciate that and speak with them about the weather (until you need to manifest nice weather, then talk about..I don't know..dust).

I will! They don't know what I know and they don't know that my new relationship with my love is in the oven.
I manifested a roomie today. I really needed to get one cause I have to pay the rent. I visualize (another person) and let it go. The other person decided not to stay, but I got one with the same characteristics: works a lot and he is gonna leave all weekends...

Let go, let go, let go and trust. That's the key.

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7/01/2016 11:33 am  #9


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

Craigd88 wrote:

Quit playing games with this guy. If you want him, he's right there. Just talk to him. This whole thing about not answering or waiting till next day is just childish BS.

I hate when women play cat and mouse. He is already showing signs of wanting you but yet you wanna feed your ego some by dangling yourself in front of him like a horse chasing a carrot on a string. Either take him or move on. It's really that simple.

Yes this was blunt. I'm not the nicest guy on this forum.

Craigd88, he broke up with me!!! And I didnΒ΄t beg, but I told him that I wanted to start all over. He rejected me again.Β 
But yes, you are right, We have to stop playing games (both of us). ItΒ΄s silly and emotionally exhausting.Β 
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7/01/2016 11:47 am  #10


Re: Is it normal for things to get worse before they get better?

I kinda agree with Craig... You want him but when you don't get the exact results straight away when you ARE in contact it's kinda like you throw a hissy and cut contact from him to get him chasing you... But then when he initiates contact you ignore it or give little back. So when he gives up with that you throw another hissy and get discouraged... It's all just a head game and he will start reflecting it back, which seems like what is going on here.

I'm sorry if that seems harsh but it's just what I've gathered from this and your posts on Lanie's forum. There's no need to keep ignoring him, you don't have to be all over him to politely respond.

You say he hurt you by getting his friend to text instead which is understandable seeing as you ignore most of his recent attempts to reach out to you? I don't know what you'd expect? I wouldn't really say that that is a huge deal to be so upset about anyway, it seems from your posts that you look way too much into things.

I really don't mean to be rude or sound condescending but it's just what I can see as an outsider looking in!

Last edited by Em (7/01/2016 11:57 am)

 

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