The universe is not your mother who always knows who is best for you. You are the creator of your experience, and when you look at your life, the universe isn't always taking care of you. You have to take care of yourself by controlling your thoughts. I completely disagree with Lanie when it comes to "meant to be". Either there is "meant to be" or there is LoA. I see LoA working every day, so I can rule "meant to be" out. The reason why so many people fail is not that it isn't meant to be. It's because they are not strong enough mentally and are more observer than creator (I'm still thinking that through but that is my conclusion for now). Meant to be is a excuse for people who are still not willing to take responsibility.

You can create everything you want. If you want this one person, you can have this one person. If you think there could be someone better you are creating someone better with this thought. If you order "this person or someone better" and have much resistance towards your person, but not so much resistance towards someone better, you probably get someone better, if you can manage your vibration.

I don't really like the "couldn't care less" thing. From my perspective, it's more that you feel that you already have this person and that's the reason you don't care about getting them. Lanie has her knowledge from Neville and Neville never talked about meant to be or don't care for your desire. That are all interpretations and sometimes it's best to go to the primary source to avoid distortion.

It seems that its our preferences that arise are what's actually creating?  or our judgements?  e.g I can see how I manifested what happened because of my judgements or fears.  And makes you realise how important it is to keep ignoring the current conditions and stay focussed on the good, the wanted aspects at all times

Susiewoo wrote:

Wow, thank you so much Sanshi, that really helps to clear things up a bit!!!  What you said makes sense to me, there can be varying thoughts about how it all works sometimes, or as you say, just mixed interpretations on it.  I guess it's coz there are still things that I 'surrender' to the universe?  And if the universe works out the 'hows' and details, then in someway we are still allowing the universe to do things for us???

But yeah, its just down to our thinking mostly if we fully embrace that we are indeed the ones creating!

I think that you put things into your vortex (to put it in Abrahams words) that you don't even realise that are there. That's why it seems as if the universe would work out the details, but it just knows your preferences better than you do (it is actually you). I experienced that with a job. I thought I wanted to work as a programmer alongside with my studies. After a while, I thought it would be nice to work for my special field at university (psychology - so no obvious link between the two desires). Guess what? I'm now a programmer and working on a psychological project at university. I could have never ever figured this out with my logical reasoning. I thought it would be impossible to combine the two. But it was both in my vortex and the universe put it together. I think, it works that way in most cases or maybe in every case. You see something, you like it, you forget it (but you put it in your vortex) and then it shows up and you don't see the connection.
 

Also, if we're continually on a path of improving every aspect of our lives, we're always looking for more in some way, an improvement on the current reality?

Susiewoo wrote:

Right, so in that case, there is still an element of surprise in life, e.g those unexpected things that just happen, could be a person, a job etc  we don't always know whats best for us, do we?  Or maybe it was just a flash of a thought at some point.

Let me put it a bit differently: We never know what's the best that is possible. Our imagination is limited and in my experience, it often comes FAR better than I expect it when it comes to manifestation. It's like "You want a piece of chocolate? Here, 3 pieces for you." And yes, there will always be surprises. Wouldn't it else be boring after a while? But I think if you can manage to train your awareness, the surprises become less, because you know what pieces you put into your vortex.