iinikkii wrote:

Have I mastered this whole LOA .. Heck no. Am I getting better? Yes. I am getting better. Cherished of all forum members can vouche for the difference that has took place in me in just the past 6 months. But in response to your "date other guys" that you so often want to make me feel like is a must.. Dating other guys holds a lot of resistance for me. And I'm trying to take the path of least resistance. Will that change? Idk .. But for now the path of least resistance for me is loving myself and being happy without someone. Do I want my guy.. Absolutely. But I want to be happy with me, for me and about me. Bc then I can give my guy the real ME. Not some insecure little girl that always has to have attention to feel good

I have longed gotten off of the date other guys train with you. You said it goes against your beliefs and I have long accepted this. So why are you bringing this up again. If you re-read my post, I clearly made a short list of other things you can do. Have you read my list?

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Maybe I got your wrong (then ignore what I'm saying) but I think we should help everyone here to realise their desire (until they destroy their own mental health with it, and I don't think that's the case here) and not convince them to give up. Who cares how long it has been? If she wants him, she can have him. She just has to stop doubting.

Sanshi please show me where in my post did I tell iinikkii to give up on her guy. I asked her what is she going to do from now on for a very specific reason. Is she going to continue along as she has, is she going to switch things up a little, is she going to take a short break and come at this again when she feels more ready? I don't know what she has planned now, and this is why I asked. I don't see how me asking that questions equates that I am not showing her any support.

Like I said, ignore me if I'm wrong. When I hear someone saying "It's already been 1 1/2 years. What do you want to do now?", that sounds for me like: "Girl, move on".

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

iinikkii wrote:

I'm kinda unsure what you're getting at?? It almost seems as though you are mocking my statement as to the time that has passed. Than again, that is my perception.

I am only asking what are plans moving forward. How is that mocking your statement? This is not my first time communicating with you iinikkii on both here and Lanie's forum and each time you have a negative reaction to my words. I don't get why that is.

I guess I just don't feel any love from your responses. again that's my perception. I long left lanies forum because I felt as tho people were a bit caddy/sarcastic in their responses. I much prefer the vibe I get from Veronica's forum. But then again, that's my perception.

Sanshi wrote:

Like I said, ignore me if I'm wrong. When I hear someone saying "It's already been 1 1/2 years. What do you want to do now?", that sounds for me like: "Girl, move on".

I have to speak up and say something because there might be others here who like you are misinterpreting my words and I am making it very clear what I mean. I never told her to move on. That decision can only be made by her. Who am I to make it for her?

ChaliceSnowFlower wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Like I said, ignore me if I'm wrong. When I hear someone saying "It's already been 1 1/2 years. What do you want to do now?", that sounds for me like: "Girl, move on".

I have to speak up and say something because there might be others here who like you are misinterpreting my words and I am making it very clear what I mean. I never told her to move on. That decision can only be made by her. Who am I to make it for her?

Okay, you are right. I haven't thought about it this way.