Gah she gave me a call again, saying she hates me, wants nothing to do with me, she's uncomfortable even being around me, she doesn't find me attractive at all, she'll never be with me, EVER, the whole thing. The worst part is she means it. She said she doesn't care if I die, she doesn't care that I'm suicidal (I'm not. She just said that though), and she doesn't care if I were to die. She just wants me out of her life. She ended the conversation by saying, if I EVER contact her again (even though she called me... kinda thought maybe it was going to be a good call...), then she'd call the cops on me. She's already not ever going to talk to me, nor think of me again.


Is this a loss? My vibe just went from VERY high, to below anything I could ever imagine. Help would be appreciated....... I want her back...

Hey RR33, tbh I find it hard to believe that a person who truly means that would take the time to call you and drill it in like that. Perhaps she was seeking a reaction since you have switched it up and not contacted her? She's not used to that and maybe she freaked out and wanted reassurance you're still there? Tbh you can attach any meaning you want to it because you create your reality so I suggest you make it mean whatever feels good to you and it will become the truth if you believe. Don't focus your energy on this, it means nothing unless you allow it.

I know it's hard, but remember you Gotta just let this go in one ear and out of the other because your current reality means diddly squat. It's a reflection of your past negative momentum. The positive momentum you've been building these last few days simply hasn't manifested yet into your current reality.. So smile because you've been doing so well and if you continue then you'll have created enough momentum for this phone call to not even make a difference to you getting her back. You can do it! I have faith in you.

When I get sad, I like to listen to soothing music, drink more water, sleep more, watch movies that uplift me, go for peaceful walks by the water or in nature, and try writing out my feelings in short stories.

And when I get angry, I love to exercise more, focus on my work, write my stories, and play my favorite violent video games especially so I can release the anger into acceptance and fun.

Take some deep breaths and go back into mindfulness. Focus on what you can do now to feel better. Trust your intuition.

If you're having trouble getting her out of your mind, try meditating on your feelings and just be mindful and observant of how you feel without judgement. Accept your feelings as they come up and you will feel better.

Right now, it seems like you're filled with overwhelming sadness and grief, and this isn't a good place to work with LoA techniques or to even focus on getting her back.

Don't focus on her anymore. Every time you focus on her, you're filled with confusion and frustration and sadness. Don't you see how not only are you making your anxieties worse, but you're also living in slavery to your own fears?  Don't you see how you're hurting yourself when you do this?

And don't give me a BS excuse like " I love her and I can't stop thinking about her." Isn't it time that you started loving yourself, healing yourself, enjoying your life for yourself? Isn't it time to become the man you know you can be, the man she was attracted to and loved?

I know you love her, but if you really love her then have some compassion for her. Would you want to be with someone where you feel as if you have to have eyes in the back of your head to make sure they're not talking about depression and suicide just to get your attention, to make you love them? Do you have any idea how creepy and scary that is? Look at it from her POV, of course she's gonna be freaked out if she thinks your playing the suicide card to get her attention.

You could pursue her in your current state of mind and most likely the exact same stuff will happen or get worse.

Until you make the inward shift, nothing in your life will change. It all has to start inside. The only way she can see the new, better you is if you focus less on her and more on you to allow that new, better you to grow.

RR33, it's time to get rough with yourself, it's time to be tough and expect more from yourself.

Are you truly happy to be someone who constantly feels anxiety and fear, who lives in heartache and pain everyday, who never listens to anyone and doesn't grow within? It's your choice, you could stay this way if you want but you will live to regret it and think that maybe you could have been more.

Or you could focus within yourself and really heal the pain inside, make yourself and your life amazing and awesome again and be free. And in this state of being, it's much easier let her come back to you or allow new love in.

So what will it be? Will you keep yourself subjugated to your own anxieties and heartache, or will you free yourself and truly find confidence, wisdom, inner strength, love, healing, and joy from within?

I think the choice is a no-brainer, but you have to be willing to do the work and not give up on yourself.

No more excuses, no more blaming others, no more pointing fingers....If you truly want to believe that you are powerful, it starts with taking responsibility for your own emotions, well-being, and energy. It's up to you. it starts with you changing yourself one thought at a time, one action at a time, reinventing yourself with each moment to be the man you really want to be.

Focus within, find the healing and love within you. That's how you change the world outside, but it's up to you to make the change.

 

Last edited by Colonel Roosevelt (6/29/2016 10:08 pm)

RollingRock33 wrote:

 I want her back...

I'd NEVER have guessed 

Was being positive; woke up, she blocked me from everything. Huh. ****.