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Okay, so he came over and I made dinner for us. We listened to music and chatted and had a lovely time together, laughing, talking about food (one of our favourite things in common). I even had a little candle lit on the table. I am feeling the attraction is strong and he was fumbling his words at times saying how unusual it was for him, haha
I'm just relaxing about it all, I would of course love to grab him, tell him how hot he is and make passionate love to him, lol But, instead having to play it cool. This whole thing is so strange because you have to just relax and trust, be in the recetive mode, not bring up the relationship and 'allow' him to make the first move physically. We talked about doing a foody business together and he suggested making dinner for my dad at the end of the week. And, we are going swimming tomorrow morning and then having our music rehearsal up at his afterwards. Ohhhhhhh, to be patient, hahaha please let me hear some of your wise words everyone! Why don't we adults just get on with making love, haha I know he's not been comfortable with intimacy and so in a way I wonder if he's just going to avoid it as long as he gets to spend time with me. I reckon he'd actually be pretty content with that. What if he's just afraid to committ/get back in a relationship even though he's enjoying being with me as much as possible? But, of course, I'm writing a different story in my journal If we had never been a relationship before, we are definately getting on so well in a way that we something would have happened by now, lol I'm so attracted to him and I'm sure he must be feeling it too? Anyway, it's all good and going wonderfully well, so I just have to go with the flow and keep on having fun/enjoying our quality time together. I know the importance of letting go as well. And, I will just cruise along, in a relaxed non resistant way, keeping the way open for whatever is 'meant' to happen.
Love you all!
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reading this makes me blush Idk why, and I swear I'm like probably the most sexual person on the whole forum HAHAHAHA
fuxx I don't know, I don't know men's psychology but I'm really trying to do more research about it.
I think all guys are different regarding how much they 'need' the intimacy.
my boyfriend (I refuse to call him my ex cuz he's still my boyfriend in my reality lol) was like a sexy beast for the first 2 months of our relationship, then his interests on sex died down, and he just said he's not interested, and rather cuddle and spend time with me (so that's kinna similar to your guy maybe?)
any females here experienced enough to explain about guys who aren't interested in making love? lol (or guys? even better lol)
LAST BUT NOT LEAST THOUGH
I AM SOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU SUSIEWOOOOO
sounds like such a fun and enjoyable night. (wish that making love thing happened though)
but it's okay, take it slow LOL
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forum please don't ban me for being sexual.
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Thank you for your response piggy! Yeah, there are people who may still be healing from intimacy issues for whatever reason so that's why I'm saying what if your partner is just happy with it being platonic anyhow??
But, I like what you said about 'take it slow' someone said that to me the other night so I understand the thing about just being patient at this time, haha but as you say piggy, if we are 'feeling' it, we can't help it, lol
Thank you piggy! yes, it was a good night, and I'm soooooo ready for the physical side now, I feel we've healed enough, are getting on great and the next step is just that 'physical' side but if he doesn't want it, how can it change? Will my intent and visualisations be enough if the OP has hangups about that side of things anyway or, they're preferring the 'non attachment' relationship with you? I'm trying not to say anything contrary to what I want here but at the same time needing to ask these questions for a little support?
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yeah I always wonder about it, wondered about this issue for 3 years HAHAHAHAHA
I should've stayed quiet about it eh
I know right, if we're 'feeling' it, we can't help it...but then again, if they're not down for it, I guess we just have to DIY ROFLMAO.
as for the 'physical' thing, do you think you're kinna okay with less physical at the moment? since we could just take it slow? if it's not a big problem right now, then you shouldn't think about it too much. If yes, it's a big thing for you right now, then keep visualizing it, put that in your "ideal relationship' check list!!! haha "him and I will make love passionately" or smth lol remember, the more you believe it, the more you 'see' it, the more it will come true : )
but if we're being understanding partners, we can also be patient and just let them heal themselves and maybe naturally they'll wanna be intimate again?
have faith girl, have faith
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haha, diy is good but not quite the same but yeah, will just relax about it, give him the time he needs
It's funny, tonight, when he was leaving I was asking about our music practise and being ready for a gig we have coming up, I was a bit tense about being ready on time and he said 'it's okay, have faith'!!! These are unusually positive words coming from him so I think maybe it's a sign after what you said piggy!!! Just gotta have faith, the universe it telling me, lol I can learn to 'cool' off on the physical side, just enjoy what IS happening right now and be grateful for the good times we're having. I reckon it's all the visualisations of intimacy that almost make you feel like you ALREADY HAVE it with them and so when you're hanging out, it feels natural to almost just fall into it, but yet, they've still to catch up with your manifestation, haha