First of all this 25 days are just a number. It can take more or less. It completely depends on you.

While reading your post I really got the feeling that you don't understand what's LoA all about. It's not that you do this challenge for 25 days and he has to be back. It's no love spell or something like this. You have to put the mental work into it. You are depressed, fearful and you miss him - if you don't change that you can do the challenge for the rest of your life and nothing is ever going to change. LoA is about your vibration and when your vibe is at being depressed and feeling lack you get more depressing circumstances and lack. The clue about LoA is to feel the way you would feel in your new reality BEFORE you can see it. At the moment you are so fixated on your current reality that your guy can't come back to you even if he wants to.
I think you should really learn more about LoA until you feel you understand it fully.

esty83 wrote:

Sanshi thank you so much for responding!!! Your right im reading the law of attraction and i am obsessing on my lack...which will bring more lack..your absolutely right! Thank you for waking me up!

It's just hard bc two of my friends this past weekend basically said under no circumstances will my ex be back, that it's been six months and i need to wake up and move on...and that hurt so bad i fought wtih my friend over it...bc she has been unecessarily cruel to me when i told her not to talk to me about my ex...

am i wrong for the way i am feeling bc of how i let my friends influence my mental thinking...or maybe is hould stay away from such negative friends?

Yes, sweetie. Stay away from negative influences. It's not helping you at all! Take time to take care of yourself, do things that make you happy, go out with positive friends and let your emotions calm down. It actually works best when you're in a more calm, relaxed state. You don't need to discuss anything negative from your relationship with anyone if you choose not to. Plus, the past means nothing now.  Just try to focus on the happy times, the fun you had and bring that into the forefront of your thoughts. Send love out and it will come back to you! Love is WAY more powerful than any negative thoughts. You can do this!! We're all here for you!

Alston is right. I don't know if it is necessary to completely stay away from your friends (depends on the friends) but don't talk about your ex ever again with them, at least as long he is your ex. They argue from a non LoA perspective. Let them talk. They think that they know what they are talking about but they have no clue. The physical mind is not designed to forecast the future. They think it's probable that your ex doesn't come back to you. Why? Because they made the experience, saw it in the lifes of others and so on. And what did they do when they made this experiences? THEY CONCENTRATED ON THE EX BEING NOT THERE. Do you see how ridiculous that is? It's like saying: "I flipped a coin three times and every time I got head. So it seems to be a law that when someone flips a coin it always shows head. If you flip this coin now you will get head for sure because that's my experience". Now you believe that and you get head. But not because it's a law that the coin always shows head but because it's law that you get what you believe. Don't listen to them. They want to help you. They don't want you to suffer but they don't understand anything, so ignore what they think on this topic.

It's really not about any circumstances. Every circumstance can change. A whole parade was delayed only to bring a manifestation to me, really. Would your friends think that something like this is likely to happen? I don't think so. Concentrate only on what you want. Use your ability to focus wise. "Will I ever see him again? Wrong thought...Isnt' it wonderful to have a relationship with someone you love and who loves you? I love being caressed. I love to have someone to share my chocolate with (wrong thought again ;D ). But what if it doesn't happen? Wrong thought...I can't perceive it with my physical senses right now but I know it is there because I can feel it. I can feel how much he loves me and how much he enjoys my company. Isn't that wonderful?..." Talk yourself out of unwanted thoughts and really study LoA (and experiment with it!) until you know without the shadow of a doubt that it is real. Tune into the frequency of him being there by feeling your wanted reality.

Sanshi by the way thank you for the constant feedback and encouragement because you are right my friends don't know what they are talking about. she is taking the same positive affirmationc lass and is payin ga lot of money for it and not doing anything..she isn't meditating or visualizing, nothing...i managed to get a second interview with an hr director of an agency i really want to work for..im going to visualize workign there to seal the deal..

but knowing how loa works, i guess im just very hurt that she would then tell me that he isn't coming back..and she was fighting with me about him all weekend long...like instigating non stop...so im thinking perhaps to stay away bc i noticed she doesn't respect my wishes..

tamera thank you so much for the support! Alston ty for yours, its true im finding a lot of negative people when i express what has been going on in my life. they keep telling me that there are too  many red flags and ect...when things got rocky my ex broke up with me and he started looking for other girls. i cant say how hurt i have been or i fi could possibly trust him when he comes back. but i know if i change myself for the best he will also change to be a better man for me...at least thats why i am trying to see..change starts with you and you affect it..i think its best with people that are in my community not to express what im feeling anymore and less is  more unless its people on this forum bc thats where all my current support seems to be comign from. i wish i could meet someone from loa in brooklyn ny bc i need that support badly and need new friends who are supportive.. thanks to everyone who provided their suggestions. if anyone has a success story using loa with getting their ex back i would love to hear so i can be encouraged to stay positive.