iinikkii wrote:

Thank you everyone for your replies. I really do appreciate all of you lovely people being here for me to talk to. I feel like I'm just at a wits end. I'm not over my desire, but I am beginning to be over this. I just don't know how to get past him being in a relationship with another girl. It knocks me on my ass everytime I think about it. I don't know what to do. I want my guy back.. And I don't know how to not have a ulterior motive. Yes I wan to feel good.. But I also want to reconcile with him.
When I say I'm beginning to get over this, it's because I sometimes feel like it's jus my wishful thinking. I know it has worked for some of you, but for whatever reason I haven't been able to get it to work for me.

I've poked around on the Abe-forum some.. And a lot of what I see is people saying that I don't really know what I want. That the universe knows what I want. That just sends my head spinning because I'm certain I know what I want. I want him, not another guy that comes close. I'm just heart broken, I really thought I would have him back by now

You are still very focused on what is. You are observing what is and offering an emotional response to it. You have to focus on what you want  and only on what you want to get results. What do you love about the relationship with your guy that's in your vortex? How does your guy act? What things does he say to you? Feel it, be happy and excited about it. You have every reason to be excited because when you focus on it for a while it has to become your reality. So maybe see your visualisation/fantasising as memories that are coming before the event itself.

iinikkii wrote:

I just don't understand how. How to focus only on what I want. I've been doing this for months.. And I'm still sitting here without my guy. How do I ignore the fact that has another gf?? I just don't understand. I thought I did. I hate even saying that it feels hopeless.. But sometimes that's exactly how it feels. I don't wish ill towards the other girl, I just want another chance with my guy. I go in circles.. It's just beginning to be too much and it breaks my heart when I don't have any sort of evidence to show me that things are working and that he is on his way back to me

What would a person who loves themselves do?

iinikkii wrote:

I just don't understand how. How to focus only on what I want. I've been doing this for months.. And I'm still sitting here without my guy. How do I ignore the fact that has another gf?? I just don't understand. I thought I did. I hate even saying that it feels hopeless.. But sometimes that's exactly how it feels. I don't wish ill towards the other girl, I just want another chance with my guy. I go in circles.. It's just beginning to be too much and it breaks my heart when I don't have any sort of evidence to show me that things are working and that he is on his way back to me

I found out that it gets easier when your vibration raises. It makes believing easier and focusing on what you want as well. It helps me to see this vibrational reality as equally real as the one I can see. And when I know that they are both just vibrational why should I focus on the one I don't like? Just because I can perceive the one and can't perceive the other? No, thank you. I have focused long enough on things I don't like and it hasn't served me well. Maybe try to be a bit more playful. Be like a child that is playing around. It becomes the character it is playing. It doesn't longer see the room, it sees the castle it imagines itself in.
You don't have to work hard for the manifestation. It's there, only you aren't there yet.

holistichealing wrote:

iinikkii wrote:

I have no idea how to answer your question.. I'm not real sure what that has to do with me sometimes thinking it's hopeless in regards to having another ha ve with my guy/reconciliation

You still have no faith in yourself, so you worry about another woman and thus that is what you saw. I have been saying this for awhile, but to truly raise your vibe, you need to love yourself. That is the secret ingredient. It's the relationship with yourself that gets reflected outside of you.

I mean I somewhat understand.. But he didn't just now get another gf.. He has been with this person since last summer. I don't know how to ignore that.

iinikkii wrote:

I mean I would understand if we had only split up 2-3 months ago. But it's been a year and a half.

A person who loves themselves would not torture themselves by acknowledging they are with someone new. That is unhealthy for your mental health. They would stray away for a bit and try doing their own thing. They would do everything to sky rocketed and be happy first.