If it is hard for you right now to focus on what you want then distract yourself for a while until it gets easier to focus on your desired outcome again. I think I don't really need to say this because you already know it but don't focus on that and don't dig in the past and think about similar situations. That's not the vibration you want to emit.

Inloveandsohappytogether wrote:

You're right Sanshi that would the be the right thing to do - forget about it for a bit and figure stuff out later ...

I can't help to think that I'm just not sure where to go from here and if any of this is worth the hassle- there was such a bliss in not knowing any of this before - then this would have just been some guy who doesn't like me back ... But now it's a whole different ball game .

Again I'm not really mad or anything like that because I m not surprised. I just wish the universe had been a bit kinder and spared me or at least threw me a bone or something ...

But how would you know where your alignment is if the universe does not show you? In a way, it is telling you to recenter your thinking as upsetting as the situation seemed. It's a check in on your vibration in which figuring out where you need to make adjustments. I suggest you really work on making yourself the center of everything as well as continue working on self love. YOU are the main goal of everything.

Inloveandsohappytogether wrote:

holistichealing wrote:

Inloveandsohappytogether wrote:

You're right Sanshi that would the be the right thing to do - forget about it for a bit and figure stuff out later ...

I can't help to think that I'm just not sure where to go from here and if any of this is worth the hassle- there was such a bliss in not knowing any of this before - then this would have just been some guy who doesn't like me back ... But now it's a whole different ball game .

Again I'm not really mad or anything like that because I m not surprised. I just wish the universe had been a bit kinder and spared me or at least threw me a bone or something ...

But how would you know where your alignment is if the universe does not show you? In a way, it is telling you to recenter your thinking as upsetting as the situation seemed. It's a check in on your vibration in which figuring out where you need to make adjustments. I suggest you really work on making yourself the center of everything as well as continue working on self love. YOU are the main goal of everything.

 
I understand that - and if I didn't know I definitely know now ... But it's a tough one to get back from because your specific person basically is someone else's specific person and part of me wonders if this isn't just a final sign that I should just let the man be .. See I was always aware that I was aligning with that, as a matter of fact when I saw him I actually smiled because I wasn't surprised - but I'm just tired because a lot of this vibration watching focus on self-ing feels like work and I'm forgetting for what ...

This is supposed to be easy and fun and light full of magic and bubble gum ...but honestly feels like a kardashian's ass in spanx : tight, uncomfortable and truly unnecessary in hindsight

The other girl doesn't matter at all. You think that the way to the manifestation is longer now but it's not. That's only your concept of it.

If it feels like work you do something wrong (sorry to put it that way but I don't know how to say it nicer). I was there too. All this visualising and staying positive and so on was exhausting. The question is do you all the "work" to get him back or to feel good? I would guess you do it to get results and that's the reason why it costs a lot of energy. I know that you can't force yourself to do it only to have a joyful experience but what I found is that it becomes joyful when your vibration is higher. I did all this stuff to get results -> I felt drained. I started to first work on my happiness and forgot about my guy for a while -> focusing got easier, believing got easier. My vibration got higher and higher ->I nearly don't remember what is or was with my guy, I just see and feel my wonderful relationship and it's absolutely joyful to fantasize about it. I don't do it to get results. I know I already have him but it feels soooo good.

Thank you all for showing me some great love and support - your advice was/is much appreciated.

I decide to go meet grinds, joy myself, laughed a lot and had an overall great time. It helped alleviate how I feel and I was actually able to joke about it. I think my initial reaction was a knee jerk reaction because now, it lifted rather quick. I was aware it was coming and I'm glad it : my biggest fear manifested so now I can actually let it go.

I refuse to let some external event  define how I feel about myself, my emotional balance and my life - it's absolutely nonsensical to feel that way about something so irrelevant ... Because that's how it actual feels : completely irrelevant to anything. its not that serious really and if anything it's quite amusing that I created that all by myself like a big girl.

That being said I'm also reevaluating what I want and checking if it still includes him - at some point you kinda go : you're really doing too much with this specific person thing ... It really isn't the end all be all of existence .

Great video you holistic healing , asking myself that question confirmed this was the right reaction : to just let it roll out, accept that I don't know anything for sure and let the universe do what it does ..

I need to sit back and enjoy the ride for a while.