You are on fire today! Your post made me send him an invite for a date. He feel in love with me because I was a tough ass go getter, not a cry baby...So I sent it and am waiting for his reply.

You are right, time helps...if we got right back together, I wouldn't be as tough as i am now. Sure i cry and get all crazy, hell I am a girl...we get a pass due to the whole one week amount torture thing but now i bounce back.

Time apart gives them time to to reasses them selves and appreciate the who you are becoming. You made a solid point today!

Thank you Sanshi.  It really is true.  My man of 8 years told me after 6 months of separation that what he does and with whom is none of my business now.  It crushed me as I had high hopes of a reconciliation.  I went through a great deal of pain in the last few days and I really let him go.  It was gut wrenching.  When I came out the other end of the pain I realized that it has been released and there is no need to go there anymore.  I am healing myself in this process and what really feels true to my soul is positive energy, love and letting go.  I have gone back to my PW and Burn practice because in going into fear and sadness I know that that only brings me more of the fear and negativity.  And in my beautiful soul connection with him, I get to be with him in my minds eye.  I get to fill up with our love and then let it go!  It has taken this long because I had to see that and I had to come back to creating my life instead of being a victim to my circumstances.  I create it all with my thoughts.  I release it and trust that he will be back when that time is meant to happen.  Until then, I am living a joyous life and continuing to love myself in ways I never thought possible.  It is a win win!!!!!

Sanshi wrote:

Most of us think that this whole ex manifestation business takes waaaay to long, right? I want you to see it from a slightly different angle today.

Sure, there are obvious reasons why an ex isn't back yet. You doubt, fear and worry, you think about what went wrong, you think about what is, you are unhappy or in other words: your vibration isn't in the right place to attract him back. To tell you the truth, I think that's for most of us the reason why it's not there yet. It took me nearly 8 months until I had the first day I could truly say that my focus was in all the right places and my vibration was a "get your guy" vibe. I managed to hold that vibe for maybe 3 days and then I thought: "Okay, I did it 3 whole days - where is he???". My thoughts slipped out of my control again, I felt a little bit resistance that has been completely gone for the last month or so and I observed my focus wandering back to him not being there. So I had to talk myself into patience and that are the thoughts I got:

Think about it for a moment. How would a world look like in which everything manifests within 3 days and with little energy?

"Wow, my new bf is amazing. Maybe he is too good for me." -> 3 days later he's gone
"What a terrible accident. I hate car accidents." -> 3 days later YOU are gone
"Oh, they stole the neighbours car yesterday." -> 3 days later your car is gone
"This ice cream will make me fat" -> 3 days later the button of your pants is gone

...and so on. I think you got the picture.

So let us be grateful that we don't live in a world where everything manifests instantly. And if we get unpatient let us remember that we just have to put a little more energy into it. It's not a bad thing that it isn't here yet. It's actually a good thing because it prevents us from loosing him again after he is back, from loosing our life, our car and our button (or at least it takes us much longer).

I really love what you wrote.
May I ask how are you doing?
It's always nice to read how things are positively developing.
 

Jim Chien Beige wrote:

I really love what you wrote.
May I ask how are you doing?
It's always nice to read how things are positively developing.
 

I'm doing great. I feel wonderful most of the time and by that I mean 98% and the rest I still feel much better than neutral. That's huge for me. It took me a while but now I know that he is mine. I can feel all the wonderful emotions that a relationship with him would induce and when I'm high I don't care if he is physically with me at the moment or not. I already have the emotions, so I don't really need him, right? ;D I know, not quite what you want to hear I guess but it's not that I'm feeling this way for months and months but a few days and I'm very sure I'm on the right path and I will see physical evidence very soon. But for now, I enjoy the journey and appreciate every flower, every tree and every butterfly along the way.

Sanshi you're doing great keep it up, so others really GET the full gist of what you are saying...I don't think many people here get the simplicity and the depth of this whole LoA thing. Its always about you, not about the ex, not about the lost thing, not about the crappy job, or suckie life...always about you and your well being. And when your well being in catered to....the magic happens....

If you want examples of this working.. search the forums... heck... google...the proof is there.. there is no doubt to this, and the only reason its not working for you is because you're in your own way. It takes as much time as it takes to imprint your beliefs.

And the buffer of 'time' things take to manifest is such a BLESSING... gives you time to work on you, time to know exactly what you want, time for you to appreciate it more, time for you to appreciate the contrast.

Oh the beautiful thing called contrast... its soo amazing, and the more you are aware of LoA, the easier it is to look at your contrast and put yourself back into alignment.

People look on some individuals here in the forum and think... ohh they are magical, they have it all together...yes they do, they have it all together because they don't allow themselves to bounce around from here to there. And so can you.... So can you...

Appreciate this TIME it takes to materialize...and use it to get clear and don't hold back.

Again...Thank you Sanshi...