Cherished wrote:

Hi honey, firstly the ex disappeared because one day he probably was late texting you for a legitimate reason.. And you likely began to feel that familiar fear rising.. And then you are quickly pulled into the momentum of "he's disappeared." In order to ride it out quickly, you must change your story and find faith be excitement that what has his attention right now will only serve to benefit your relationship. Trust that, and it will be what transpires. You are reacting instead of creating.

The next guy. You snooped on him. Why? Creeping on his social media is only playing out your fears and insecurities. So you saw some things you didn't like- no big deal because YOU KNOW that you attract from people exactly what you expect. To me, the mere fact you began searching him (solely for photos?) indicates that you were operating a little from fear instead of creating like a boss. Anyone can be the right one, if you have clear, strong intentions, desire, and the mindset that they are good and kind and wonderful. If you genuinely vibrate that, then you will attract those aspects of themselves to you. You won't activate the other, less wonderful qualities.

Hey beautiful, thank You so much for your response! To be quite frank, you are exactly right on both of them! There was a weekend that he didn't hang out with me & instead did a photo shoot (he's a photographer) with this one girl that I had seen left him a post on his instagram, & I felt a little insecure comparing myself to that girl for no reason at all really, & I think that's where my positive momentum went down with him. I texted him while he was out & he didn't respond until later, & I started thinking it was bc of her, when really I should have just said its bc he's busy photographing & we will talk later- I mean he's not my bf so he doesn't owe me anything lol! I did focus on that & thus his communication started becoming less & I started saying I'm not hearing from him anymore, & I know it doesn't even have any thing to do with that person anyway lol. While I was confused, you certainly shined some light on that situation bc you are correct! 

& With the other guy, I don't know him, and he wouldn't send me a proper pic of his full face, just like half his face or pics with his phone covering & I thought that was weird..so I went looking, & also bc I don't know him I did have fears about would he be what I wanted or expected or not, since he did just appear out of no where & I have a clear description of what type of guy I want. With that being said, I did speak to him about it after all. He finally told me that he wasn't sending regular selfies bc he felt like his face was too fat & he's trying to lose weight & he was embarrassed by it so he doesn't like full faced selfies, & then he sent me one. I also spoke to him about his Twitter & he was entirely embarrassed and that he felt immature & childish, & that he tries to be a funny guy but should probably work on the way he does that.

Earlier today I saw you write that same thing - reacting instead of creating - & I decided to put that towards both situations. I absolutely love my ex being around whether he is just a friend or not- it's okay I slipped up, I will go back to positively creating in regards to him bc I can do it easily being that we were together so long & he has always came back around in one way or another &our connection always was & is undeniable. I held those beliefs before knowing loa so it is easy for me to still have those beliefs & with the other guy, I think I will give him another chance & a proper date still, as he could end up being wonderful, & if he isn't, that's okay too- I'll just continue working on and tweaking my vibe & desires bc everything you said is spot on perfectly. Thanks so much sweets!!!! ❤😊

Cherished wrote:

Wonderful, you have no idea how proud I am of u- you have come SO far in your journey. To look at your old posts compared to now- wow. You truly understand, and understanding is absolute empowerment. 😘

That means soooo much to me, especially from you!!!! I truly am trying, & it's getting easier & easier to understand & put to use everything I have been taught. Now certain things are just engrained in me, & I remind myself often of them, & that even if I mess up I can get back on track & recreate again, even if I have to allow myself a little while to do so. That helps me the most bc I know I always have opportunity to fix myself and whatever I desire. I go much easier on myself & even on others now. Thank you for acknowledging that, I'm so appreciative.😍😙

Cherished, what do you mean by contrast exactly?  I've never really "got" it!

Okay, so hey again!! To update, if I was not an awesome manifester boss on this second guy I was telling you about, I don't know what is. The more I talk to him, the more I realize he is an EXACT carbon copy, a lot copy & paste, of both of my exes, as I requested & guess put in my vortex. I was laughing to myself all night last night on the phone with him, as he would tell me about himself & randomly state very specific things about himself that were the same very specific things in both my exes on different subjects. Even the same exact lesser positive qualities that my exes had he has. Ones that I must've put strong emphasis on with my exes before lol. It's sooo odd, like for example, if my last ex really liked hmm Idk, let's say red skittles for example, & he ate them every day at 4o'clock, this kid would be like "oh btw, did I mention to you that I reealllllyyyy like red skittles & I eat them every day at 4 o'clock?!" lol for no reason at lol. Just a very random example; but he has the same exact interests as both of them and their mannerisms and personality traits. Like he has the shyness & quietness of one, and likes to cook like the one, and does photography & fashion like the other. One ex is a mama's boy & so is this guy as he self proclaimed of himself, while at the same exact time the other ex says his mom is a "helicopter mom" &  this guy says the same also lol. Its so comical how he's exactly the same as the both of them, mixed & matched!! His mom is even friends with my ex's mom apparently as I saw on fb, & they live in completely different areas. The only thing different is that I put in my vortex that all the guys I date are Libras, bc they have been and so am I lol. But this guy is not. But he is on the Libra cusp I think, bc his bday is right after the Libras date. So he was actually born in the same month as both my exes too lol!!

Anyway, so I have to say that the reason why I am writing to begin with is bc he does seem to be a little immature though. Without going into details, I don't know how I attracted that, bc neither of my exes were like that & in fact were very smart & mature, so Idk how I attracted the immature part of this guy. It is kinda like the things I wrote about before. Like making fun of people, or being judgemental. Other things too, and I don't like the immature part of him, so I wanted to ask if there is anyway to change that? Make it so if I want to explore a relationship with this guy that the immaturity wouldn't be there. Sometimes I was getting annoyed on the phone at certain comments bc I don't act like that or others acting like that. So is there anything that can be done about that or do I say okay universe, this is cool but is there even better? I haven't given him the proper chance yet as we haven't hung out, so I do want to give him a chance. He'd actually be really cool if his maturity level was just a little tiny bit higher lol!


And to say on further why I was such a boss manifester yesterday, I kept saying yesterday to my coworker how I hadn't seen my exes sister playing outside in months (she is a young and lives across the street from me) and we were talking about if she is still friends with her best friend bc I hadn't seen her anywhere with her. Well I guess I spoke about both enough bc the same night I get the answer that they're not friends & I see her outside with her boyfriend! I hadn't seen her in sooo long & she comes out the day I talk about her being outside lol. She also in the same day asked someone else how I was doing, & they told me. And other ppl I was around were responding along to my thoughts as well lol. All silly things, but enough to make me feel like I was manifesting really awesomely yesterday!!

Also, the same person that told me she asked about me told me that my ex & his gf are going on a trip to a specific place in florida together. This upset me bc I always told him how much I wanted to go with him bc he's never been there. Well, his gf went there before, so I wondered if they were gonna end up going together & honestly since she just went within the past year and it's an expensive place I wouldn't think she'd be going again so soon after just going. But you know since I did recently put the thoughts randomly out there that they might go there together & how much I wanted to go with him first, I'm not surprised they're going at all lol! So oh well, I know then that I'm still vibing on a him & her type vibe, instead of me & him, and that gives room to tweak my vibe still, plus decide about this other guy!!