Cherished wrote:

Mage wrote:

(I hope it's okay that I post again.)

Is it enough to not think about someone and purely focus on feeling good?

 
In my experience, if you can think about them and feel joy and love, then absolutely think of them.. If it creates some resistance to think of the person, then instead go general and think of anything at all that makes you happy. The universe knows your desires, and all you need to do is become a vibrational match to them.. ie find joy and appreciation in whatever you are doing. Even if it creates some resistance now to think of a specific person, you'll soon find that as your vibration raises by going general, eventually  you will have access to better and better thoughts about that specific person 😘

Thank you for this lovely message, it's very helpful and appreciated! What a supportive community, hugs to all.

I haven't visited here for a few days, and I stopped thinking of this desire until my visualisation session before sleep, where I call to my friend, we embrace and some words are exchanged. Lovingly and appreciatively, from both of us. I don't time this but it's likely for only a few minutes. I've done this session daily for about two weeks if not more, and it always brings a loving warmth to my heart and I enjoy it, but the feeling/s is not sustained beyond this session.

When I do think of my friend, which I limit during the day, I do my best to affirm I am grateful for our friendship, and I consider appreciatively our connection. However, I have been concentrating on being general and of focusing on uplifting myself as much as I can. I will not pretend this is easy, because it isn't.

Since a few days ago, my friend has started to randomly appear in my mind with a strong presence, and it is often accompanied with a feeling of sadness. My mind will then start to loop back into the old story and the disappointment I had felt. It has sometimes brought me to tears because I do not deliberately seek to do this, and I know that it is not helpful to wallow or return to those thoughts. I am not choosing to do this, and considering that I had done a lot of shifting to clear any hurt on my behalf (including an absolute recognition it's all my creation and "letting others off the hook"), this is strange. You have all encouraged me it's entirely possible to heal any rift - distance and (as of this moment) no contact makes no difference... does it?

In order to get some relief from the old story, I took an action that I thought would help soothe. It was a "prayer of release" that is intended to release your mind from people who "are no longer intended to be on your path" (essentially to help you to release "negative obsession") and... to be short, the "mental visitations" do still occur. This is unlike anything I have ever experienced with anyone before.

I'm still quite fresh to this and with my history of people vanishing from my life, I am probably not nearly as confident in my ability. Most of my tears had been from the inability to just forget, at least in the more challenging moments. This connection is not imagined on my behalf only, is it? Like so many people can relate to, I have had many instances of feeling and knowing when this friend was just about to contact me, or had contacted me (when I was not there to receive/notice). Often I recognised this with the classic: "I was just thinking about you!" So I am suspecting it's to do with an interplay of us both thinking of each other? Or am I in denial?

I was wondering if it would help if I:
Made a specific timeframe in the day while I focus at a picture of my friend and affirm loving things.
Write in a book of positive aspects regarding my friend and our friendship every day.
Conduct longer and more intense visualisation sessions.

Thank you everyone for your time and interest. There are very few I can discuss this with and being able to converse about it greatly helps.

Thank you Cherished!
I think that's very true. That is probably still a theme in my energy, and I appreciate that you think I'm doing well. I feel I could be doing better, and it's certainly a truth those aspects and feelings for myself could do with care, attention and growth.
It's a good idea to devote the most time on myself? Exactly. I have to be doing this, that's something I think we all would flourish from (attention, care and respect towards ourselves). What a beautiful story that is.
That's a great comfort, and I think it's the determining factor, how you feel about self. I think the largest resistance I have is what you have mentioned, in the fact I've probably been too outward-focused (on other people), neglecting the self in favour. Perhaps I should make up for this by solely focusing on me for a long while. A book of positive aspects on myself... what a brilliant idea. That feels like a fun thing to do! Thank you, I'm ready to be that version of me, it's time. Lol!

I had felt inspired to reach out to my friend, and nothing (yet), but I'll be focusing on me foremost from now. I have to, it's the key...

Thank you again!

I just managed to attract a old friend I hadnt seen in years!! Whilst I was driving to his uncles garage to drop off my car, I was just thinking about him and how maybe I should ask his uncle how hes doing as I havnt seen him in ages! It was only when I drove past the garage, I saw my friend standing there! So I parked my car up and went to speak tp him and have a catchup! Its all the mind! I did not have any expectations of bumping into him!