Inloveandsohappytogether wrote:

Oooooorrrr...

What if this was the fight that changed everything? What if this was the moment where he realizes that you mean everything to him? What if this was actually THE moment that turns everything around and it had to be this uncomfortable for him to have a huge epiphany? 

Sometimes things like they're falling apart but they're actually falling together - part of your challenge as a deliberate creator is to not pay attention to what seems to be happening. You're assuming a huge fight is a bad thing, but sometimes a huge fight leads to confessions, heartfelt apologies, declarations and of course reconciliation and doin' the naaaaasssttyyy in the love shack 

Don't be hard on yourself and don't let one event drag all your work down because you're assuming it's a bad thing - for all you know, it's the best thing that could happen and this is when your desire is about to be delivered but your lower vibration as a result of the argument will make it harder to find your address to drop off the Luuuuurrrvveee package...

If I were you I would repeat to myself : what if this is a good thing ?  Because really...what if? 

You know there is a reason in movies they have that anti climatic moment where everything goes ape-****.. That is actually the beginning of the unfolding.

I don't know how this is a good thing. I mean have any of you been down right disrespected by your love and was told to get Realigned because he loves you.  It's bogus.

I'll try to get me back but I'm crushed here.

SydneysMommy wrote:

Inloveandsohappytogether wrote:

SydneysMommy wrote:

I am TRYING!! I immediately went from crushed to pissed off especially since it affects my baby girl.

No contact is all I can come up with. And I know that's not out of live for him...but it's out if love for me because no one will make me cry around my kid again. But I can't figure out this one towards him because this was not in the picture.

Any advice on what to do...I mean meditate? Scripting? No contact? How to realign...this was a bad one...like the fight before the break up. I even said to him he was the problem he is trying to break me because he us broken. He has created every fight since HE came back... why cone back to to fight if I'm not worth your time...why call if I'm haggling you.. I don't call, HE calls. I pull him every which way...I NEVER ASK HIM TO DO ANYTHING... it's nuts. I'm being blamed for things I'm not part I f. I'm realistically confused where this has anything to do with me and how I can fix it if I'm blamed for things I'm not part of. Serious I'm at a lost!

 
Some really awesome advice here ... I'm sorry you feel like you're set back.

Right now you're upset and it's obvious and maybe even justified . It will be difficult to shift from where you are. In my case when I'm there, I go back to basics  I take a nap. Reset for while, sleep it over. If when I wake up I still feel icky I do some thing to continue the reset : light movie comedy ( not romantic thought that will turn me into Godzilla- something silly ), I cook or eat something I really like to eat - just anything to disconnect and when it comes up : Decide to figure it out later.

If the hurts too much I give myself a specific amount of time to go through the emotion fully : cry, scream, hit something, write a letter I won't send,  whatever it is I allow it there it fades or exhausts me.  thennnnn I take a nap.

Whatever happens you can't decide now, it's too raw. So take a break from it, and come back later - we'll be here, he might not appreciate you right now- but we do ... And we got you. 😘

I definitely needed to here that. Made me smile. I totally just want to be appreciated. I'm still expected to go over there and drop my baby off in the arms of a man who hates her mom...not hardly cool. And then go back and it her because I refuse to stay. I hope I get over this quickly but NIW my fears are totally bothering me. Like he did this to avoid me coming so he can have his new girlfriend or something...idk just completely crushed.

We have had such progress and he threw it all away.

It has been great advice.i just need to be silent a while and regain my sanity.

Sometimes it's cool to say I'm pissed off and I'm allowed to be ... 'Put some respeck on my name' 😂
Most people on this forum  are here because somebody they love turned on them but for some reason they love them anyway...  You know there's a reason you love him... It's just that right now it's hard to remember because of what happened.

And you don't have to remember right now or at all --- it's entirely up to you... Just do yourself a favor and don't feed the anger by rehashing and re imagining what you should have said or what you will say when you see that man again and Tell'im'bout'himself ...that won't help you with that reset strategy

The good thing about being in this forum is we re all in different time zones so there's always someone who will be on the lookout for you.
 

Last edited by Inloveandsohappytogether (6/19/2016 9:30 am)

I didn't realize until now but sorry I've been an inspiration that lost her faith.

I am sorry guys. I am!

There's no reason to doubt it in other aspects of my life. It works so easily. But when it came to my kid and him lashing out, it dropped the walls on me and crushed me. I can vividly see this man kissing all over me and begging me not to leave. Niw he is a huge towering god of anger and could care less if I lived or died and laughed or cried.

I know bashar circumstances speech was gospel. But I did react. I don't wish I didn't...I totally didn't. But now my react is to cut him out and cut him off. Loa or not who deserves to be treated without regard?

I have cried all morning. All I want us our family back in order and harmony. It's hard guys and I wish I could get that hug.

I'm so afraid I'll never gain a man again.and the one I want will never appreciate me enough to build a home together. That's frustrating and scary. I'm terrified I'll always be alone. No one new deserves me hurting from someone else but that's where I am...crushed and afraid.


Maybe it is the peak if something huge but I cannot see it.

I'm here now and he acted like nothing happened. All his brother's and their wives are here and guess where he is. Upstairs in his old room watching movies. Whether it's because of me or not it's rude when the company is here for the men.

When I think of it.. I deserve love and I love me I doooo but the man I love obviously doesn't love me back. Suitors are always after me but my heart's his.

There's loads if work to do yes there is but not all on me. There's some he should be responsible for!

I don't have a clue where to start guys. I had him locked in my head. Dating and holding hands and kissing. So to hear I never meant nothing...him bring up the entire past..him avoid me...him say he never sees us as a couple again because of me is a huge blow to my soul!

He just let me have it again people. I asked him for silence just time away from him and he said it was emotionally bull **** and I was the reason why all things go wrong. I replied I appreciated the growth but tired of the insults. I once helped him piece together his broken heart and now he is breaking mine.


I know he is sitting there like I am a joke right now. That's him...closing me and laughing. He said take all the time you need I'm not convincing you to talk to me.. SERIOUSLY...this is not working. All the time he was "realigning" it wasn't real. His last message said he has too much going on in his left. He is cutting toes indefinitely and I need to go and be happy.


I'm so heart broken right now...I'm in the worst place ever. And I have no one to talk to about it.. no one! Just you all.eveeything going on he feels cutting me out will fix it....you guys said I could talk to you...please someone tell me how it hot better for them. I'm dying over here.. literally dying!