The negative momentum is only strong because you view it to be. In your post alone I counted several instances where you claim "the negative momentum is so strong".

How about we change that to something more to your liking? Affirm that the negative momentum has weakened and is now shifting to positive momentum. Focus only on the positive side of things, even your contrasts. You will quickly see a shift in energy. Practicing gratitude during the "storms of life" also help you steer the ship out of troubled waters! 

Thank you so much for both of your responses.
Craig, what you wrote reminds me how Abraham is talking about going from specific negative (where I'm most of the time when it comes to that topic) to generally negative and so on. I tried very hard with much effort and sweat to think positive thoughts about him but it just didn't work and that's completely logical. You are right. I have to shift to a different place even when sloppy thinking is so much easier but I don't have to do it all at once.

Wow Cherished, I like your story a lot. I never saw it as a vibrational training camp. That's a great way to see it. I've thought all the time that he isn't even worth practicing unconditional love on him but I didn't get that I have to do it for me, not for him. Thank you for changing my view on the situation. I made such a huge vibrational shift on every topic of my life, I can do this on this topic as well.

Thank you. That's beautifully put and helps a lot.

We both don't want it anymore and we are so focused on what we don't want that we can't find someone who can move in.
I think it's to late to talk with each other. He doesn't even "see" me when I walk past him. But I'm focusing elsewhere for a while so that it gets easier to think new thoughts.

Cherished wrote:

I learnt how to do this like a ninja. I actually continued to live with my abusive husband while we were separating etc. it's TRICKY yes.. But it's also seriously awesome vibrational practice! I found that I needed to really centre myself before I walked in the door. And I had to force myself to think of him in good ways, when I actually wanted him to fall off a mountain lol. But the STRANGEST thing happens. When you significantly raise your vibe and they stay in crapville, they literally disappear. He would be late, I'd arrive as he was leaving, and then he suddenly tried to be completely amicable! I truly valued the experience- it taught me a lot. A LOT. Any time there was a huge whack of contrast between us, I held my head high, pondered "what is my path of least resistance here?!" And did that. I practiced unconditional love. Did I still want him? Er NOPE. But was I utterly grateful for what the contrast with him had brought into my life? Absolutely. See things as amicable, easy, sinple. Focus purely on YOU. Keep yourself aligned. And if you can't think nice things about him, get off the topic. Alignment is alignment. It's all you need to achieve a different, better reality.

Wow Cherished, I can see why you earned your belt as a ninja. It gives me something to ponder with a few relationships I have that are not going my way. Thanks.