Thanks!! And you guys would not check their social media right?

Cherished wrote:

For me it was really helpful to consider that people are so much more than just their physical being. We are energetic beings, and what you see in this physical reality is only a very small portion of them. Therefore, it's actually quite easy to focus your energy instead on their "energetic" body if you will. You have the ability to communicate entirely without words, and purely with your imagination. If you can get your head around this, and you understand and believe that you create your reality- then acting "as if" becomes really simple. And powerful 😊

What Cherished said ....except not as nicely put ...

If energy is tricky for you to wrap your head around, see it this way : think about who you would be and how would you behave if they were standing right there with you? and then just do that  

So if you would check their social media if you were together - what would you checking and how would you be feeling? Would you be looking for who he liked /spoke to/ poked/commented/forwarded and all the weird social media linguo ? Probably not - if anything I find when we're in a relationship we don't check our partner's social media -that's an activity for crushes, stalkers or distrusting gf/bf.

I Like to imagine he's with me in the car when I'm driving, what would we be talking about while he's OBVIOUSLY holding my hand and checking me out... or while 'we're grabbing' a bite, or pillow talk or just every now and then while you're doing something imagine he's there with you, checking you out and smile to yourself.

What you're really doing is getting yourself in the habit of him being around you at all time because eventually ... he will

Thank you Aphrodite, cherished, safety pin, sanshi, inloveandsohappytogether, for your answers!! They are very very helpful answers!!
In fact, I had a difficult time trying to live 'as if' because thoughts of past are rampant.
This weekend, I attended bashar's events. I saw him in person. OMG Mind blowing and I feel like my life is changing. today's event 'the story tree' is about changing your so called past = future changing. I learnt the technique from bashar. But when I was trying to bring back the memories of the past and remake them, When I remember them again I could not help crying. And then I went to check his social media and I saw that current woman's recent posts with my guy. She is posting a lot more than of their pictures than ever. And, I felt more and more ok seeing things like this. And actually, I can sense her insecurity trying to hold on to my guy writing and convincing he should forget about his past with me, which just proves my guy must be still missing me. So, I take this as a positive sign. I'm sorry if this sounds confusing. I know I'm on the right path, I know I have changed my past to a completely different story already.

Seriously, I wanted to give up a while ago, because sometimes I had feelings of not freeing myself if I hold on to manifesting him. I would wonder if I could just forget about him and feel happier, if I give up on getting him back? but then I realize giving up = give up the chance of getting myself in alignment, finding my true self. 

inloveandsohappytogether, I like what you wrote in your thread that Veronica told you, 'if you don't work to manifest this one you'll never know
you can manifest him and then pick someone else if down the line you change your mind but this one is your opportunity to find out how magical things can really be. ' 
This is very very inspiring!
 
Let go, but keep going, power of paradox. How exciting!
 
Thank you everyone for supporting me and I love all of you!

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Cherished wrote:

Sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants. And Veronica is right.. If you can nail this manifesting thing, you will have found an entirely new and fabulous way of living that you otherwise wouldn't have known. Sometimes "giving up" need only be in the form of giving up resistance. Which means stopping the struggle and focussing on getting wildly happy because what you want is a SURE THING!

 
Cherished, thank you!! You said 'sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants'. This is so right! After all, I still want him in my life! And today I heard bashar said to a girl who was afraid to release her songs to the public with the fear of being disapproved,  'when you have your desire of singing means someone desires to hear you sing. Desire is a two way street.' This is so inspiring. I believe if I strongly desire my guy being in my life he also desires the same.