Dan2015 wrote:

I don't want  to be rude or give you tough love or anything, but you really need to STOP talking to her....  Give yourself a challenge... Tell yourself, you aren't gonna initiate contact with her for at least a day   and then keep going and going...    you're talking to her way too much when you're in a bad vibe, you are literally basing your vibe off of HER...   You should never allow any other person to dictate whether you have a positive or negative vibe, you need to be happy on your own.... Even if you got her back RIGHT NOW, you'd lose her with your negative mindset.

You really need to start making yourself happy, I'm not sure where you live.. but if it's almost summer by you, you really need to take advantage of this weather... go have fun... make new friends.. LIVE LIFE.... I mean life is way too short, to be sad over another person, when you should be happy about everything surrounding you....   Trust me, people ALWAYS come back... it might not be when we want it to happen, but  you really need to start focusing on yourself and less on her.... Actually, I would suggest.. not initiating ANY contact with her for the whole summer...  LET HER COME TO YOU 

Thanks guy. 

Yeah I had my last conversation with her today. Probably ever. She has n ofeelings and she's not coming back to me. She actually kind of hates me. So A+. 

I've actually never felt so hopeless, but I'm really going to go into NC now and give it my all, despite her saying she's  never coming back to me (It's not that she's mad. She actually just doesn't see me in that light anymore. Only as a friend.)

Rollingrock I don't like tough  love but I have to agree with everyone else here. Because right now  you have multiple current threads open all saying the same thing about how hopeless you think everything is with this girl. Yet at the same time you want her back. Let me ask you do you really believe you can have her back!? Because we have all given you the steps and tools to do just that. But you are not using  any of this information in your everyday life. If you want to change things you have to do the work. There is no qwick fix.

YOU have to not only start the steps you must continue them and know they are working with or without proof.You have to stop hounding/stalking/contacting her all the time. Please stop and stop with the old story. It's for your own good. You will drive yourself  mad! And it only shows that you don't believe in yourself and in the steps/tools you've been given. Because you are always looking for proof. I saw you joined Sanshi's challenge but you are not fallowing any of the rules. Loa is about belief and faith and right now you are lacking both my friend. It's time to give up the ghost of what happen in the past with her.

Start believing and living in faith of 1st a new you. 2nd a new better relationship with her. You have got to work on yourself and what you believe. Because this is about you. Not her. You! I promise once you really and truly work on yourself and change the story about not just your relationship but yourself she will come.

But you must do the work whole heartedly not this half a$$ crap you've been doing/are doing... Do you not see in retelling this same sad hopeless story that with loa that is what you keep bringing into your life? I'm sure by your post YOU are not happy with that story line. So why are you holding on so hard to it? Let it go. Let me ask do you really think/believe  you can have her back?  Really ask yourself this. And if so, why on earth aren't you sticking with any of the good advice you've been given?  Why are you continuing to wallow in your unhappy story (aka current reality )???

Let's  stick to your new story about how Amazing YOU are and how great the NEW relationship you have is.☺ I know you can do this. So no more trying. It's time to stick with it an do it all the way through to the end. Ok? ☺

PixelPie wrote:

Rollingrock I don't like tough love but I have to agree with everyone else here. Because right now you have multiple current threads open all saying the same thing about how hopeless you think everything is with this girl. Yet at the same time you want her back. Let me ask you do you really believe you can have her back!? Because we have all given you the steps and tools to do just that. But you are not using any of this information in your everyday life. If you want to change things you have to do the work. There is no qwick fix.

YOU have to not only start the steps you must continue them and know they are working with or without proof.You have to stop hounding/stalking/contacting her all the time. Please stop and stop with the old story. It's for your own good. You will drive yourself mad! And it only shows that you don't believe in yourself and in the steps/tools you've been given. Because you are always looking for proof. I saw you joined Sanshi's challenge but you are not fallowing any of the rules. Loa is about belief and faith and right now you are lacking both my friend. It's time to give up the ghost of what happen in the past with her.

Start believing and living in faith of 1st a new you. 2nd a new better relationship with her. You have got to work on yourself and what you believe. Because this is about you. Not her. You! I promise once you really and truly work on yourself and change the story about not just your relationship but yourself she will come.

But you must do the work whole heartedly not this half a$$ crap you've been doing/are doing... Do you not see in retelling this same sad hopeless story that with loa that is what you keep bringing into your life? I'm sure by your post YOU are not happy with that story line. So why are you holding on so hard to it? Let it go. Let me ask do you really think/believe you can have her back? Really ask yourself this. And if so, why on earth aren't you sticking with any of the good advice you've been given? Why are you continuing to wallow in your unhappy story (aka current reality )???

Let's stick to your new story about how Amazing YOU are and how great the NEW relationship you have is.☺ I know you can do this. So no more trying. It's time to stick with it an do it all the way through to the end. Ok? ☺

Thank you so much. I feel stuck and I feel like despite what I do, it's all hopeless and I don't feel like I can get her back. AT all.

SO I need to change that. I want her back.

PixelPie wrote:

RollingRock33 wrote:

PixelPie wrote:

Rollingrock I don't like tough love but I have to agree with everyone else here. Because right now you have multiple current threads open all saying the same thing about how hopeless you think everything is with this girl. Yet at the same time you want her back. Let me ask you do you really believe you can have her back!? Because we have all given you the steps and tools to do just that. But you are not using any of this information in your everyday life. If you want to change things you have to do the work. There is no qwick fix.

YOU have to not only start the steps you must continue them and know they are working with or without proof.You have to stop hounding/stalking/contacting her all the time. Please stop and stop with the old story. It's for your own good. You will drive yourself mad! And it only shows that you don't believe in yourself and in the steps/tools you've been given. Because you are always looking for proof. I saw you joined Sanshi's challenge but you are not fallowing any of the rules. Loa is about belief and faith and right now you are lacking both my friend. It's time to give up the ghost of what happen in the past with her.

Start believing and living in faith of 1st a new you. 2nd a new better relationship with her. You have got to work on yourself and what you believe. Because this is about you. Not her. You! I promise once you really and truly work on yourself and change the story about not just your relationship but yourself she will come.

But you must do the work whole heartedly not this half a$$ crap you've been doing/are doing... Do you not see in retelling this same sad hopeless story that with loa that is what you keep bringing into your life? I'm sure by your post YOU are not happy with that story line. So why are you holding on so hard to it? Let it go. Let me ask do you really think/believe you can have her back? Really ask yourself this. And if so, why on earth aren't you sticking with any of the good advice you've been given? Why are you continuing to wallow in your unhappy story (aka current reality )???

Let's stick to your new story about how Amazing YOU are and how great the NEW relationship you have is.☺ I know you can do this. So no more trying. It's time to stick with it an do it all the way through to the end. Ok? ☺

Thank you so much. I feel stuck and I feel like despite what I do, it's all hopeless and I don't feel like I can get her back. AT all.

SO I need to change that. I want her back.

I'm happy that you are brave enough to admit that. That really is a big step in the right direction ☺ Now let's work on your belief about you. We are going to kill two birds with one stone. What are all the amazing things about you? You've already showed us what isn't and why you think it won't work. Now tell us all why it will. What makes you such an amazing person. Ask yourself this. And don't rush yourself on the answers
Then come back and tell us too. Make a list if you have to. I know you must have some great qualities ☺ what makes you such a great guy to be in a relationship with? What about you is amazing, fun, etc.?

Thank you so much! I'm trying so hard to be more honest with myself. it can be hard though, if you're trying to deny something, you know?

OKAY. All the amazing things about me (and this is why I say I'm even now, really happy with who I am and am super confident. - Which is why I don't understand why I get so scared and stuff with this girl; but here it goes!)

A few awesome things about me:
-hard worker
-very attractive guy, get hit on all the time
-manager KEEPS hearing great things about me, get compliments from management, coworkers, and customers on a daily basis (whether its about my looks or my performance.) - I literally heard a guy say, "Man, you are seriously the best Walmart associate ever. Like I'm actually freaking blown away man! Thank you SO much!". All just because of how I was haha!
- I have awesome white streaks in my hair. It's unique and it's awesome!
- I'm artistic, creative, motivated, and I'm SO freaking good at playing guitar (hah!)
- Right now, about 7-ish girls are constantly flirting with me (I know, this isn't about me, but I love that fact. It makes me feel good about myself haha)
- I'm smart (always test REALLY well, got my IQ tested, officially, above average, and not just by a little)
- I love how I'm interested in learning, and how I love studying. 
- I'm saving up my money for my future, and I LOVE how I'm thinking ahead
- people always want to spend time with me
- I'm hilarious, in real life. MANY people tell me, all the time


As far as a relationship goes:
- I dont' just "jump in". I'm even INCREDIBLY picky about my ideal mate. I've had to turn down SO many people because I'm so picky. I've only been interested in one other person besides this girl (didn't turn out well, lol), but it was just a "crushy" thing. Infatuation. 
- I'm incredibly loyal. I would NEVER cheat
- I'm SO kind, and (this might borderline on the bad side, come to think of it) I often put others before me. Their happiness makes me happy
- I'd climb mountains and swim oceans (I mean this LITERALLY. If I had to for someone I love. I know I likely wouldn't make it but I'd still go for it) for someone I love. Whether it's family or a girl (again though, might borderline on the bad side). 
- I NEVER give up on someone I love and ALWAYS show/tell them just how appreciative I am.
- I'm apparently REALLY fun to hangout with
- I'm super witty and have been told COUNTLESS TIMES that I'm "INCREDIBLY charming" and "one of a kind"

I'll try to think of more But that's my list for now haha!
 

Oops. Guess I should reply to you on my own thread;

"I guess I just can't find faith in the LoA. It's hard to believe in it. How can I believe in something I can't fully believe in? That's where I'm tripping up... and likewise, that's where my sense of hopelessness comes from, via a hopeless situation.  "