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i mean... can ne actually get a girl back who says she has no romanitc feelings in them anymore, and just sees you as a friend?
Otherwise... wouldn't it go against free willl?
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PowerOfLove wrote:
RollingRock33 wrote:
Well, day one and I caved. I asked, "So hey, would you be up for hanging out on Wednesday? Anyway, keep me updated. Hope you're having a great day!"
She just replied... "Wednesday....hmm don't believe I'll be able to sorry"
Gah. I mean, she says she has no feelings for me... I don't know how to keep my vibe up... I don't know how to feel better... please help me? It's just... my situation seems impossible and I odn't know what to do...I know NC is hard but try think of it this way, you've set your intention and now the universe is trying to sort out a way for you to be with her. It has a plan (it's done as soon as you set your intention) but every time you reach out to her, you're kinda screwing the plan up.. So the universe is like "damn now I Gotta think of another way. Damn and again. Damn this is gonna make it tougher but ok let's try this way etc" so you're actually delaying the process for yourself and also making it harder for the universe to sort out a route to get her to you. So next time you feel to reach out and you know it's not "inspired" (ie. You're acting on emotions and you're attached to the outcome, it doesn't feel like it's something you absolutely need to do in that moment and feels so right to do) then just remind yourself you're screwing up the universe's plans and delaying your end result.
Now the reason you keep getting responses that reflect hopelessness is because you feel it's a hopeless situation. When you cave in and ask her out because you miss her, you can never lie to the universe, it knows how you feel, so guess what? Her response is one that will keep you missing her (she can't meet you on Wednesday). You act on lack and lack is what you will receive.
You need to forget what it looks like now, it doesn't matter what she says or feels right now, it's a reflection of your past thoughts. You need to think about how you want her to be, how your relationship will be and live in that desired reality!! Feel those feelings! That's why NC is recommended because it's hard to live in the desired reality when you're having to see how she is in the current reality - if you're not strong enough to ignore the current reality (it is difficult!) then you need to do NC otherwise you're just wasting time and nothing will ever change. You need to believe it before you will see it - you can't do that if you're still caught up on your physical reality. It's not easy but you can do it.
Thank you so much... I just deactivated my social media. The last thing I replied to her was, "I;m glad your day went well. Anyway, I'll talk to you later..." No more stalking her news feed. I hope I can do this. She says she has no feelings for me anymore...
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RollingRock33 wrote:
i mean... can ne actually get a girl back who says she has no romanitc feelings in them anymore, and just sees you as a friend?
Otherwise... wouldn't it go against free willl?
Its possible. My ex said those things to me, got engaged to someone else and came back to me after a year saying he regrets it all. He told me he was over me and does not feel any romantic feelings at all! We never got back together but 2 years later he told me that he will always love me. I actually remember thinking wow, when he told me he was over me I was so devastated and I never in a million years thought he would be saying this to me now. I didn't even know about LOA then but this goes to show people say things in the moment but it can always change. You both have history and so there's no reason why she can't grow those romantic feelings back (if they are even lost at all).
I think you know that if you fear she will meet someone else and focus a lot of your energy on it, you're going to make it happen.. So cancel those thoughts and keep telling yourself she only has eyes for you. Make affirmations about your relationship and repeat them to yourself everyday until you believe it! That's good you deactivated social media.. Stay strong and turn the focus to you now!
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Do something that makes you happy or something you always wished to do. For example, you can dye your hair, change the hair cut, visit some courses or exhibitions, change the clothing style, go on an adventure. Ask yourself what is the best you and become that(win over insecurities and persuade yourself you are the best). Smile and laugh, help those in need. These actions uplift. YOU WILL GET HIM/HER BACK!
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Change an appearance(dye/cut the hair, change the clothing style). Do what you like and what you always wanted to do. Be the best you can, smile, laugh and help those in need. Try to relax.
YOU WILL SUCCESEED!
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YOU WILL DO IT! My suggestions is to have great activities now, things you have always wished to do. Maybe change an appearance? Help people, laugh, smile, excercise, learn to dance(salsa, tango, waltz)
Became interesting and fantastic and when he is manifested back, you will have so much to tell him and be happy from within. Relaxxxx, HE WILL COME BACK, BELIEVE IT!
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Day two, feeling... AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!
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Day 3; feeling "eh". We casually talked after running into each other at Starbucks. She spent a lot of time looking at her phone, laughing/smiling... that's worrying. She also dodged questions and remained guarded and distant.
My awesome vibe has gone WAY down. Trying SO freaking hard to stay positive, and can't shake the feeling she's seeing/texting another guy. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!
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The 25 day challenge is AMAZINGGGGG!!! You will definitely get results of some kind during or after you're finished. It gave me structure and helped me a lot. It helped me when I was thinking "what do I do?" and it helped with the obsessing I was going through.
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Sam wrote:
Try to adopt the mindset that everything is always working out for you. Meaning, even when "bad" things occur, you assume that it's just a part of a bigger plan that's going to bring you what you want.
So you ran into her at Starbucks and all you can think about what who she was texting. Uh, hello?!? You manifested bumping into her at Starbucks! That's a big deal, dude. But you're ruining it by focusing on the fact that she seemed preoccupied. The truth is that doesn't matter.
Always assume that everything is working out for you. The universe is infinite intelligence and can orchestrate things for you in ways you wouldn't even be able to fathom, which is why you need to just work on trusting.
Thanks so much Sam! Thank you for always commenting on my stuff, helping me out. I really appreciate it. I do.
Anmd you're so right! I did manifest that, didn't I?
The universe is with me. I need to remember that. Thank yo uso much!
Sorry, Ive had a few to drink, so I miay not be typing well right now, and I maynot be the most articulate.
But thank you so much!! Trying so aard to stay positive!!!!