Sanshi wrote:

It's not about no contact or contact. It's about your vibration. The only reason to stay in NC is that it is easier for you to hold your vibe high. When you have contact with him you are back in the reality you don't want and it is harder to assume that you are together now. Why do you feel the need to have contact? Think about this. Do you believe that you need to have contact to make it happen? That's not the case. When you are in the right vibration he will call you or text you because he perceives on a subconscious level that something within you changed. Forget what happened in the past and he will too. Concentrate on what you want with emotion and it will happen.

Thank you! I feel a lot better now hearing words of confirmation from someone else. It makes me feel more confident. It's so hard to tell yourself it'll happen and believing it. I can't wait to write my success story.

I know that it can be hard sometimes but it is necessary for your success story. It will get easier with time and that means, yes, it will probably take some time even if you feel that you have already waited way too much. But this is actually a good thing because you have time to work on yourself and won't make the same mistakes again and again.

If you believe that it is an advantage then it is. I for myself came to the conclusion that it's best to completely ignore reality - the bad things and the good things. That doesn't mean you can't be happy when he is nice to you or something like this. Everything that makes you happy is good but if you make the good stuff too important you will make the bad stuff probably too important as well. That leads to being happy when something promising happens and to falling deep when he didn't call for two days afterwards. So I think it's best to just blend physical reality out for a while. When you have to see it know in every moment that it is no more real than the reality in which you two are a couple.

I haven't called or texted him since. It's been very hard, but I'm doing my best with CONSTANT visualization. He emailed me to do something so small and insignificant. He did this while he was in the same building as me! What does this mean? Is he trying to find a way to contact me? 

Sanshi wrote:

LizzieM1 wrote:

I haven't called or texted him since. It's been very hard, but I'm doing my best with CONSTANT visualization. He emailed me to do something so small and insignificant. He did this while he was in the same building as me! What does this mean? Is he trying to find a way to contact me? 

Don't overanalyse. Stick to your new story. If you were in a happy relationship with him you wouldn't disassemble every word, right? Live more in your mind than in the "real" world.

You're right. Thank you, Sanshi! You're such great support. I'm going to take a nap when I get home to clear my head and start over. Today is the first time I've seen him since Friday, so I think that's why I'm thinking too much.