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Love is Real · 6/01/2016 12:35 am

30 year relationship with 3 kids. Serious stuff.
For a year now, we have been apart.
We see each other fairly often because we have kids.
But that's about it.

Because of all the advice I've read online (LOA and otherwise) I have completely backed off. I have not told her I miss her. I have not told her I love her. I have not told her how difficult this has been. I have been happy and positive around her. I have been working on myself. I have been doing all the visualizations and LOA stuff.

More and more, I'm finding it difficult to hold back the truth. I feel like if I stand by and don't ever tell her how much I love and miss her, and how much I've changed and learned in the last year, and how much I realize more than ever that I love her, if I never say these things to her, a part of me will feel like I should have. I mean, sometimes these "no contact" rules and the pretending I'm doing just great seem like silly games. I understand the need to back off and give her space but sometimes it seems ridiculous to never open my heart and be honest with her and tell her how I really feel. I realize this could backfire and it could make things worse. But after a year of being apart and doing LOA and minimal contact, i'm not sure how much worse it could get.

I know the LOA teachings often say to do your visualizations and wait for her to come to you. don't go after her...
I also have read in the LOA teachings that the Universe will sometimes lay something out in front of you and you have to be on the lookout and take the opportunity when it comes. So here's my question

Could the Universe ever push me to break all the no contact and "back off" rules and confess the truth to the one I love? Is the "don't go after her, wait for her to come to you" an absolute? Are there ever times where it might actually be helpful to be honest and share your feelings with the one you wish to be with?

Any thoughts on this are appreciated.
thanks

mugginess · 6/01/2016 2:13 am

So I learned first hand it's not always best to break no contact. I broke no contact because I felt a lack and I thought by contacting him I'd lose that lack but it just enforced it. However, in my case breaking it ignighted a flame towards our reconciliation so it was beneficial.

I guess in your case it's ok to break no contact if you are in a place where you are content with what will happen. This mans that you'll still be happy regardless of the outcome. Allowing the other to make contact just ensures that you don't have o worry about a lack should they not respond. Sometimes they don't respond cause they're busy but our minds just run and think the worst. The goal is to be able to detach and be ok no matter what.

Sanshi · 6/01/2016 3:44 am

Ask yourself why you want to do it in the first place. Do you think you can make something happen by saying it? Then don't do it. Do you want to say her that you love her just because you love her? Then go for it and expect nothing. But I would recommend to do it when you are in a high vibration.
Btw you shouldn't only be happy and positve around her. And you are speaking about that you don't want to make the situation worse but when you use LoA the circumstances are irrelevant. It seems you are still concentrating on what is.

Love is Real · 6/01/2016 12:36 pm

Sanshi, I hear what you are saying. I have been focusing on being happy all the time. it's easier said than done. and as far as focusing on "what is" goes. I understand the idea, but after months of visualizing and nothing changing, I do have to acknowledge what is happening on a certain level.
As to your qeustion, yes there is a part of me that thinks if I open up to her it could crack open that wall that she has put up between us. maybe not instantly. Maybe it will take some time. And there of course are no guarantees, and in fact it's a long shot. I realize it is a risk, it could push her away, and it might have no affect. I just am not getting any sign whatsoever that sitting back and just doing my LOA stuff is having any affect at all.
In my situation, I believe one of the reasons she left is because I gave her the impression that I didn't really love her and if she left I would be happy. By sitting back I think I am confirming this in her mind. This is one reason I feel a need to tell her how I really feel and reach out to her on a conscious level.

Colonel Roosevelt · 6/01/2016 6:52 pm

Try relaxing and meditating. It'll clear your mind and your feelings will be easier to access and hopefully you'll have your answer. Does contacting her feel like the best thing to do? Then do it. Don't do it out of fear, but because it just feels right. I think when you're in a state of flow or alignment as mentioned many times on this forum, you'll have so much clarity on what to do, so perhaps getting into the right state of mind is important first. When I'm on different ends of the Emotional Guidance Scale, I tend to feel a pull towards different decisions that I wouldn't do if I was on the other end of the scale, so that's why it's important to make sure you're in alignment. You mentioned that after months of visualizing, nothing has changed. Why do you think that is? Do you visualize because you think it's necessary to force the manifestation or do you do it just because it feels good or helps you feel better? And after all this time, where do you feel you are on the Emotional Guidance Scale now? Would contacting her and expressing your feelings boost you up that scale?

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