I think you have to eliminate her from the equation for as long as she's not really in your ideal reality. Like, live as if she loves you and feel that, so living that way would mean you'd be focused on building your life and future, you'd be looking at stuff to do that's exciting and ways to progress your career or hobbies or goals I think you have to really mentally kick her out of your life the way she is now and just not pay her attention mentally as she is right now

Didn't you start another thread hours earlier saying you had a gut feeling/intuition she's coming back? Now, you're wavering again? Your emotions and vibrations are so scattered. If you're unsure of how you feel at any given moment, how can you be certain you won't act and think the same when things do change? Not trying to take a dig at you. It's obvious to everyone you want her but the needing part is over all the place. The worst thing you can do for yourself is depend or have your worth wrapped around another person.

The fact that you're slipping back into the things she said shows that you're not over it. If you were and wanted to move on to a more positive present and future, you would only focus on what's in front of you — the coffee meet up, how she said if you needed anything, let her know when you weren't feeling well, etc. There's countless reasons for you to stay on track but you keep falling back to old words hoping to write a new chapter.

More than enough people on both forums have told you not to contact her but you didn't listen. You can't keep asking, "Will this bring her back?," "What do you think? A 'friend' wouldn't say that!" ... so on and so forth. Take control of your life and stop looking for reassurance from her or anyone else. If you're as confident as you say you are, enjoy your life without her. Confident and happy people are so because they know how to respect themselves. You can't love anyone unless you understand what it means to love yourself.

You're going to be more than fine. All of us are rooting for you but you really need to step far, far, far away from her and learn to be your own man again. Guarantee the moment you do, everything will improve.