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Good morning everyone! Thank you for reading my post
R and I are still on friendly terms because we are involved in a project together which ends today - the potential for us to work on a new project together is available next week and it will be his decision if he chooses to work with me again. He called time on our 6 month relationship 4 weeks ago because I said something that reminded him of the bad times with his ex wife. This was the first 'disagreement' we'd had in the relationship and we had both been through family issues, job disappointments and ill health in that period. I truly believe that his feelings towards me haven't altered and mine certainly haven't - I feel he projected his unresolved feelings towards his ex on me when I wasn't fully aware that I was on 'dangerous' territory. I am on very good terms with his elder daughter and indeed a planned outing next month is still going ahead but she is coming with me instead of him. I have continued to be my normal self around him and have employed a tactic of 'no contact' when we aren't together - when there has been contact it has been positive and nothing to do with our relationship. People who know we are no longer dating have asked me when we got back together because of the way we are together. I have a very deep connection with this man and I want to draw him back toward me on a romantic level.
Ideas please
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You can find a bunch of information on this board. It's the same thing everytime: stop telling yourself and others the old story, know that your current reality is just a reflection of your old thoughts and start to think new thoughts. Live the new reality already in your head and know that it is already there on some level. Don't doubt, have positive feelings towards your desire and know that it is on it's way.
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Thank you
I have started to say out loud to myself that R and I are in an amazing, happy and romantic relationship with each other (not in front of other people though ) because I want the vibrations to lift and I am considering writing my 'order' to the universe down in a book so I can read it every day to encourage my manifestation.
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HayleyDaly1973 wrote:
Thank you
I have started to say out loud to myself that R and I are in an amazing, happy and romantic relationship with each other (not in front of other people though ) because I want the vibrations to lift and I am considering writing my 'order' to the universe down in a book so I can read it every day to encourage my manifestation.
You are definitely on the right track! Writing your "order" is an excellent idea! Also be sure to take care of yourself and do things that make you happy with or without him, okay? That will also raise your vibes. Continue to stay positive and send love to him. If you get down or have a not so great day, let us know. We're here to encourage and uplift you! YOU CAN DO IT!!! In fact, your order has already been taking and is being worked on
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Thank you
I am having trouble visualising - any hints or tips please?
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HayleyDaly1973 wrote:
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I am having trouble visualising - any hints or tips please?
Do you like visualising? If not then drop it. If you enjoy doing it then don't worry about blured images or something like that. Know that the person is your ex even if he doesn't look like him. The feeling is what matters, not the images. Don't question your abilities. You can't do it wrong.
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I find writing it down easier - is that what's called 'scripting'? Also I am now repeating positive affirmations every time I go to the bathroom to myself in the mirror. Feels a bit strange but I'm getting 'butterflies' in my stomach in anticipation of something manifesting
Last night was the final night of the project I've been working on with R and I made him laugh just by doing something that I would have done even if he hadn't been there. And then I winked at him and blew him a kiss and he smiled. I don't HAVE to see him ever again if I choose not to but as he is involved in something this evening that I'm interested in attending (and would be interested in regardless of him being involved) I am considering going purely from the point of view of doing something I enjoy. I know he will pick up on my higher vibration which can only be a positive
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Yes, that's scripting. It doesn't matter what you do as long you enjoy it. If it's visualising go for it, if it's scripting go for it, if it's something completely unrelated to him go for it. Everything that makes you feel good supports the manifestation and often it is easier to feel good when you don't think about him. If affirmations feel good do it, great.
I think you are on the right track. It doesn't matter what he does. When you want to do something do it. Don't raise your vibration for him. Do it for you and he will follow, guaranteed.
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I saw him last night and it was as if we hadn't broken up other than there was no physical contact. I will not see him now until next Monday but I am 100% certain he will contact me before then