RollingRock33 wrote:

Cyclewoman1974 wrote:

Like others have suggested, you just really need to get yourself feeling better/good. Don't even worry about her or whether she is coming back or not. If you think it's impossible, then it is impossible. If you think it's easy, then it is easy. You are not going through anything that anyone else on here has gone through. You just need to worry about you, improve your self love and confidence and you build faith with that momentum.

That's the thing I don't get. I'm feeling confident and I do love myself. I feel great. But then when she comes to mind, with the current situation, my stomach turns to knots... So I'm just confused how to work on myself if I'm already, to me, feeling awesome.
 

I have anxiety too, trust me I was also very up and down. So I focused on me more. Try looking at different forms of relaxation therapy. Anxiety is something that needs to be calm, eventually when you are calm, you have a more clear mind about the situation and see your possibility of getting back together.

I still sticks to trying to relax because I hate the feeling you describe. It makes it hard to breathe and my chest will hurt too. Please, from an anxiety perspective, look into relaxation therapy. It will help a ton.

Cyclewoman1974 wrote:

If you truly loved yourself and were confident, then you wouldn't need her to fill that void. You wouldn't care. You have to show that you love yourself, put yourself on a pedestal, feel your worth, and your vibration will change. It's a constant all day feeling like you are on top of the world. You are happy, peaceful, joyful, and in a state of bliss. You enjoy spending time with yourself, you keep yourself busy, and you are grateful for exactly where you are at. Then things slowly begin to turn around.

It's odd because like, I'm spending time playing a video game online with a friend and I feel great. I feel fulfilled. I feel fulfilled when she's not on my mind, and I feel on the top of the world. I feel confident and awesome and my vibration is super high! (Orientation is tomorrow for my new job! :D) - but the second she enters my mind, I get that knot in my stomach...

@Holistic, thank you so much for the recommendation! I really appreciate it! Anxiety does suck, and I hate the feeling that comes with it. >.< I'll definitely check that out though, thank you so much for that

@Cherished, When I posted that, I felt like that at that time... I don't know. It's weird. When she's not on my mind, I feel AMAZING! I feel confident and like I can accomplish anything But the second she creeps into my mind, and the situation pops up, boom. I get a knot in my gut. I don't understand it either...
 

Cherished wrote:

RollingRock33 wrote:

Cyclewoman1974 wrote:

If you truly loved yourself and were confident, then you wouldn't need her to fill that void. You wouldn't care. You have to show that you love yourself, put yourself on a pedestal, feel your worth, and your vibration will change. It's a constant all day feeling like you are on top of the world. You are happy, peaceful, joyful, and in a state of bliss. You enjoy spending time with yourself, you keep yourself busy, and you are grateful for exactly where you are at. Then things slowly begin to turn around.

It's odd because like, I'm spending time playing a video game online with a friend and I feel great. I feel fulfilled. I feel fulfilled when she's not on my mind, and I feel on the top of the world. I feel confident and awesome and my vibration is super high! (Orientation is tomorrow for my new job! :D) - but the second she enters my mind, I get that knot in my stomach...

@Holistic, thank you so much for the recommendation! I really appreciate it! Anxiety does suck, and I hate the feeling that comes with it. >.< I'll definitely check that out though, thank you so much for that

@Cherished, When I posted that, I felt like that at that time... I don't know. It's weird. When she's not on my mind, I feel AMAZING! I feel confident and like I can accomplish anything But the second she creeps into my mind, and the situation pops up, boom. I get a knot in my gut. I don't understand it either...
 

 That was only 2 days ago. So to go from wanting to kill yourself to feeling incredible in 2 days is seriously out of whack. I'm not raising this to have a stab at you, I'm genuinely trying to help you stabilise a little. There is a vast difference between those 2 emotional set points, and swinging between them must be exhausting you. I really encourage you to take a look at other threads on the board, and increase your knowledge and understanding of the principles we live by here. I think you could truly benefit.

I think it was just because it JUST happened that I felt like that. I'm just saying how I feel now. I just don't understand why I'm so OK when I'm not thinking of her. But it's only when she shoves into my memory... I'm trying to stay alligned...

Thanks Pixel!

You know, when I used to think about her, I was SO sure she was the love of my life and I always sensed her in my existance... right now though, it's like I can't sense her at all... it's scary. It really feels like she's out of my life. 

Trying to maintain that high vibration though

I remember the last time we talked too, I said, "So anything new or awesome happening in life for you?" - She said, "Yeah a few things"

So of course I'm going to jump from 1-100, assuming it's a new guy...

That's just a stupidly large assumption, right? Trying to stay positive