Natasha wrote:

Hi Lemon, I'm sorry you're dealing with negative family members. I'm lucky that my parents and sister are pretty positive but I do have some negative family members like my grandmother and aunt that I have to deal with sometimes. I'm living at home again for a while so I've had to spend quite a bit of time with them. I know what it's like. It has bothered me but I'm trying hard not to let it bother me anymore. Just remember that your happiness is important. You deserve to be happy. I know you're living at home so you have to spend a majority of your time with them but do you have many friends or positive family members you could spend time with? I'd try to get out and do as much with friends as possible. Or, even get out and do enjoyable things by yourself. What about talking to your parents and letting them know that some of the things they say bring you down? Let them know you've been having a hard time lately and feeling down and you'd appreciate it if they could try to be a little more positive. I'm not sure how old you are or what your situation is but is there any chance you could move out any time soon? If not just try to surround yourself with as many positive people as possible and do things you enjoy to keep you happy. Also, try seeing your father/parents in a different light. I know it's hard but if you can start to think of them as positive, understanding people, that's the reality you'll soon see. You'll notice things getting better. If you keep thinking of them as being negative you'll only get more of that. Please don't let others attitudes and opinions get you down. This is your life and you can create your reality. Don't give them the power to bring you down!

Hi Natasha! Thank you for the positive pep talk. I appreciate anyone's help or just a listening ear. They are older folk and I'm 27 trying to get fianances in check to move out soon. We don't really live together that much, they go on a lot of trips but when they are at our place (cause I help)it can sometimes be hard to not get into their web of negativity though I def bounced back after I wrote my message. Just sometimes man I just would like if my parents were more positive. They now loathe the man I was with.
I have learn to forgive him yet they hold on the anger and hatred it like Buddha said "holding onto anger doesn't do anything but poison you" i am trying to visualize that I am reunited with my love that they learn to forgive him as well. My man isn't perfect yet I unconditionally love him. Sometimes I feel more of the faith than they lol. I honestly told them I didn't want to say anything negative because it's not conducive to my happiness and they were not exactly pleased with that answer.
I do my own things and focusing on my health and career, just today was not what I was expecting so before I spiraled I wanted to come on here and realign myself.

Natasha wrote:

lemon wrote:

Natasha wrote:

Hi Lemon, I'm sorry you're dealing with negative family members. I'm lucky that my parents and sister are pretty positive but I do have some negative family members like my grandmother and aunt that I have to deal with sometimes. I'm living at home again for a while so I've had to spend quite a bit of time with them. I know what it's like. It has bothered me but I'm trying hard not to let it bother me anymore. Just remember that your happiness is important. You deserve to be happy. I know you're living at home so you have to spend a majority of your time with them but do you have many friends or positive family members you could spend time with? I'd try to get out and do as much with friends as possible. Or, even get out and do enjoyable things by yourself. What about talking to your parents and letting them know that some of the things they say bring you down? Let them know you've been having a hard time lately and feeling down and you'd appreciate it if they could try to be a little more positive. I'm not sure how old you are or what your situation is but is there any chance you could move out any time soon? If not just try to surround yourself with as many positive people as possible and do things you enjoy to keep you happy. Also, try seeing your father/parents in a different light. I know it's hard but if you can start to think of them as positive, understanding people, that's the reality you'll soon see. You'll notice things getting better. If you keep thinking of them as being negative you'll only get more of that. Please don't let others attitudes and opinions get you down. This is your life and you can create your reality. Don't give them the power to bring you down!

Hi Natasha! Thank you for the positive pep talk. I appreciate anyone's help or just a listening ear. They are older folk and I'm 27 trying to get fianances in check to move out soon. We don't really live together that much, they go on a lot of trips but when they are at our place (cause I help)it can sometimes be hard to not get into their web of negativity though I def bounced back after I wrote my message. Just sometimes man I just would like if my parents were more positive. They now loathe the man I was with.
I have learn to forgive him yet they hold on the anger and hatred it like Buddha said "holding onto anger doesn't do anything but poison you" i am trying to visualize that I am reunited with my love that they learn to forgive him as well. My man isn't perfect yet I unconditionally love him. Sometimes I feel more of the faith than they lol. I honestly told them I didn't want to say anything negative because it's not conducive to my happiness and they were not exactly pleased with that answer.
I do my own things and focusing on my health and career, just today was not what I was expecting so before I spiraled I wanted to come on here and realign myself.

Well you did the right thing in telling them you want to avoid negative talk. Even if they didn't seem pleased they may take your feelings into consideration. Just try to keep visualizing them as being more supportive and positive. Also, remind yourself that the living arrangement is only temporary. Things will get better!

Oh thank you Natasha for the kind words. Yeah today was a bit better. Kinda just went out and did my own thing I mean I appreciate they love me (in their own way) but i def am trying to visualize it as if they are more supportive and positive. Though my main focus is myself. And you are right this is only temporary oh thank heaven lol. I def had a better day and just being positive me !

Yeah for sure. I'm going back to my hometown next week on Wednesday for a few months so if you wanna hang out before hand I can always shoot you a private message lol. Yay to new friends!

swtbabygrl wrote:

lemon wrote:

However my father brought up my loved one who he deemed not very nice words and before i knew it I started to cry for a few minutes. I asked him to not bring him up and he kept saying the relationship is dead, bury it. f him, you know the way parents can be. I hope I can at least write what he said that made me feel out of alignment  without it being like 'oh she feels that way' because I feel hope still. (neutral but still hopeful for me and K)
my father and I are not close, as much as I tried in the past. He has a lot of demons and so old that it won't change. I do not believe the relationship is dead. I like my vibrational reality where he is, loving me and our relationship. However, like I said I am feeling neutral and just i really could use some positivity, advice, idk help. 

*hugs*

hi lemon,
i feel you,my dad/parents are the same way they keep telling me to move on and saying it's broken/gone/done. I have the same feedback from some friends that I have told to, only 2 friends believe things will work out but those 2 friends do not know my fiancé that left me they do not know how he is. 

i hope that we can get through this journey together! 

Hey girl hey! And that's why I decided it's best to be among like minded people who understand our desires and it's ok I accepted my family will need time to adjust their sails and be supported (I got that from Natasha and others) they will change their perspectives when I change mine basically. You can always talk to me on pm if you want since i deal w it. We're all really supportive. but remember it's all about how you perceive it that matters