Cherished wrote:

You have to understand that your discomfort is simply your misalignment. It's not actually about her. It's about your low self-worth. That's where you need to be focussing, not on attracting her back right now. If you manage to get her, your underlying insecurities will block you from maintaining the relationship. You should read through the hundreds of threads devoted entirely to raising your opinion and love for yourself. Start there.

I'm sorry, I am hijacking this thread I know, but this has happened to me recently not in a relationship but in a job. I have got the job I wanted in the place I wanted but am plagued with insecurities that I am making a pig mess of it.  I have a lot to learn and I am making mistakes as I go along, but not doing it again.  I have had very bad experiences in some jobs in the past, and even though I got the job I wanted, all that ancient fear is resurfacing.

I now know it is about me and my fear from the past, not about the work.

So the guy who started this post (who I think is rather obsessed and needs to throttle back and focus on his own life, not this woman or he will drive himself potty) needs to do something similar.

Thanks for pointing this out.  It has helped me at least. 

Craigd88 wrote:

Ok RollingRock (good beer btw) listen up. I am going to tell you things you do not WANT to hear but you NEED to hear. You may resist these teachings at first but I do ask you read them over and over again. You will soon learn the truth and it will set you free. I am in alignment and your situation was much like mine was. Here it goes:


First, you need to calm down. Put the brakes on every form of communication with your girl. Do not look at her facebook, snapchat stories, twitter, etc. Do not call her, do not text her, do not try to "run into her" in public, etc. You need to retreat back to your man cave and heal. You have been wounded. We are going to patch your wounds up, pour salt on them and give you a 5th of whiskey to drink as we perform surgery on them during this time. Also, we are going to teach you the Law. I am a man speaking to a man. You are a badass. You are a man. You dont let **** get to you like this. You certainly dont let a woman dictate your happiness or purpose in life. Now are you ready for the steps to recovery? (Yes I said RECOVERY because I could care less if you get your ex back. She is irrelevant. We are going to get YOU back first. She will follow after you are back trust me)

Right now you need to do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to reach for a happy thought. Surround yourself with hobbies, video games, good music, outdoor activities, buddies and yes other women eventually (not right away though). You need to get your focus off of your ex. This seems counter intuitive to the LOA teaching but hear me out. Right now, you are NOT in the state to attract her back. You are in a low vibration. You are full of desperation, fear, doubt, sadness, etc. Thinking about your ex in those states will only reinforce your current situation (which is her not being with you).

I want you to toss out visualization, RS, vision boards, focus wheels, etc. Those are just techniques to do one thing and one thing alone: get you feeling good. You can feel good by doing things not even related to "attracting your ex back".  I want you to focus ONLY on you and feeling good about yourself. Work out in a gym, dress differently, get a hair cut, etc. Do whatever you can to boost some confidence in yourself. As a man, we get our egos and confidence bruised when a girl dumps us. It sucks. But right now, this very moment...you are going to rise up and be a better man. You are not only going to get through this, you will look back and realize how silly your first post was! LOL

Ok so ONLY ONLY ONLY think of your ex when YOU ARE FEELING GOOD or IT FEELS GOOD TO THINK OF HER. Do NOT think of her any other time. DO NOT. If you do, you add negative energy to the outcome you are wanting and you will stall your desired outcome. You can use those LOA techniques when you feel good and confident that they will work. Just doing them will not do anything. The techniques do NOT do the work. Your vibration does the work. Let me repeat that for everyone reading: THE TECHNIQUES DO NOT DO THE WORK IN ATTRACTING SOMETHING OR SOMEONE, YOUR FAITH AND VIBRATION DOES THE WORK.

Work on yourself. Forget your ex. Im serious...mourn her loss. MOVE ON from her. (trust me on this....just please trust me). She will feel your energy and power shift and she will reach out to you once you have moved on. And moving on doesnt have to mean you wont want her again, but it does mean you dont NEED her. There is a HUGE difference.

We are going to turn you into a man. A confident, badass, sexy stud who attracts whatever he desires. But first, we gotta shed this shell of a guy you have allowed yourself to become. Yes, you allowed this to happen but its ok. Thats a good thing because if you allowed it to happen, you can reverse it. Easily actually. All the work must be done to yourself. YOU are the only thing that needs to change in all of this. Lets get to work shall we? im here for ya bud.

1. Work on you, raise vibe, stay busy
2. Forget about the girl, mourn her loss and move on
3. Become a badass manifestor and man
4. Girl comes back and not just her...several lol.

Later on once your in a better emotional state, then you can use the techniques to attract her back. Hell, by that time you may not even want her back because you will just love yourself so much! You might even meet a better one ;)

Trust me, ive walked this path. It sucks for a few months but it gets better. You will grow so much.



 

RR33, give this advice a shot and let it really sink in, take it to heart, most of what Craig said is how I was able to get out of depression and live happier.

I found this from FeelsGood2FeelGood on Law of Attraction Reddit and I think it will hep you a lot:

I want to believe without the least little shred of doubt in the LoA and I absolutely want to apply it.

"One of the most important things to understand is, you want to work with the Law of Attraction to help you learn how to be unconditionally happy and feel good.

When you focus on applying techniques to get your stuff, and make things happen, you introduce resistance to what you want, and just end up slowing the whole thing down (which will cause you to not feel good and introduce doubt).

When your focus is purely on feeling good and feeling better, and using your knowledge of how your thoughts create your emotions, you learn how to guide and control how you feel unconditionally.

And when you care about how you feel, and make feeling good your top priority, caring more about how you feel than the manifestation, then everything else you want will flow in perfect unfolding and perfect timing."

So we just talked. She said I overwhelm her, and she has NO feelings for me and at this point doesn't even like me as a person. She sees me as selfish and she wants space. She said throughout this space she won't even be thinking of me (and there's no reason to be thinking of me...), and that there's ZERO chance those feelings would return. 

.... I can't see even LoA fixing this mess... it's an impossible situation...

Well, she hates me...Kill me.

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RollingRock33 wrote:

So we just talked. She said I overwhelm her, and she has NO feelings for me and at this point doesn't even like me as a person. She sees me as selfish and she wants space. She said throughout this space she won't even be thinking of me (and there's no reason to be thinking of me...), and that there's ZERO chance those feelings would return. 

.... I can't see even LoA fixing this mess... it's an impossible situation...

Well, she hates me...Kill me.

Please! Please, please, please listen to all the advice you have been given. Stop procrastinating! You've got to be willing to actually listen and learn the advice that's been given.. Otherwise, you will be going in this circle from now on. The girl isn't going anywhere.. LEAVE HER ALONE!! PLEASE! But if you can't LEAVE HER ALONE.. she will continue to pull away. This isn't traditional dating advice, this is energy/vibration and you vibration/energy is PROVING through physical evidence that she is moving away. So CHANGE your vibration/energy so that the physical evidence will PROVE that she isn't going anywhere! PLEASE just listen

Before I posted here, I sent her a voicemail mssage saying, "I'll give you your space now. I'm sorry for all the **** I've done and that I''ve been really bad at accepting boundaries. I want to be with you someday, but I realize I can't control how you feel. If you feel that way in the future, great. If not, okay. I can't force anything and it'd be wrong of me to try.. I hopey ou have a goodnight sleep"


She replied now on facebook, typing:

"Also I don't want you feeling like you're always alone or anything so if your going through something and need to talk you can feel free to talk to me or vent  thanks for at least trying to understand a little... Hold you head up high *My name*!!! You got this"


So...
 

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