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Outside Perspective
I've been practicing LOA since November 2015, and have been using it since December to try and get back a guy I have perviously dated for a short time. I know what I desire: I want to be in a happy, healthy, and committed relationship with him that will eventually lead to marriage.
I affirm several times throughout the week ('I am in a happy, healthy committed relationship' and 'I am his fiance'). I visualize when I feel up to it, and somehow I mostly visualize when I'm in the shower (maybe thats why my showers are so long!). Anyway, I visualize as if the moment is happening right then and there, as if the scene is right before me, while I'm awake and alert. Weird, maybe. But hey, it works vibe-wise. I use PW method when I remember to, and have been doing things that make me happy. Essentially, I'm doing what any other LOA would do to get their desire.
I've been seeing his surname often, seeing 11's everywhere, and most recently have been seeing his initials in vehicle license plates. I had a good dream about him the other night, one that led me to be quite happy when I awoke. I know some people do not believe in signs, but I do. I don't let them get me down if I haven't seen them in a while - the signs come to me, I do not search for them. Therefore, they only make my vibe rise instead of going down.
But I still have resistance and attachment. I've had manifestations before so I know LOA works, but I think my issue is believing that it works with relationships. I saw another member on this board recently state that people who have had success have gotten it with people they've recently broken up with. I've had 2 years no contact, so believing that he'll come back has been my biggest hurdle. He ended things, so sometimes I think that maybe I'm just not his type, or that there is something wrong with me that made him not want to continue seeing me.
I've been doing my best to rid these thoughts - often I'll start affirming one of the above affirmations when a negative thought creeps in. I know what happens if I continue to allow these negative things in my head, so I'm reaching out to you all for some insight.
What worked best for you? I know everyone is different, and I use LOA techniques only when I'm feeling good. The second they start feeling like a 'chore', I stop for some time. I need some hard criticism for you all that could get me over this last hurdle. I'm making this harder than it should be!
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- Cyclewoman1974
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Why wouldn't you be his type??? Of course you are his type, you are lovable, adorable, and everything he wants. When you believe this, you can change things. Increase your self love and forgive him, forget the past and start writing a new script. A script that is luscious, amazing, and everything you desire! You should be using the techniques to increase your vibrations, not when you are already feeling good. Worry about you feelING better, worry about you haVing fun without him, and in time he will appear begging you back. So you are not really asking, your vibrations do the work. It is your job to feel good and everything will fall into place. Read everything in the second column about stickies with alignment. You will learn from the best there. Read it and follow it.
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If it helps, my guy and I were apart for a little less than a year. Distance is involved. He ended it and he flat out rejected me a month before he fully came back into picture. I realized it had a lot to do with being afraid. I couldn't even blame him because he was responding to my fear and lack of faith. All I did was fix my vibe and believe and he came back into the picture in 32 days. It helped me to say this or someone better. That seemed to remove the last piece of resistance I had.
Don't give a second thought to the old relationship. You were creating by default. You're a deliberate creator with a healthy vibe now and things will be different this time around. I used to think, will he change?, but in a relationship if your vibe changes, his will also. The dynamics are completely different the second time around.
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Cyclewoman1974 wrote:
Why wouldn't you be his type??? Of course you are his type, you are lovable, adorable, and everything he wants. When you believe this, you can change things. Increase your self love and forgive him, forget the past and start writing a new script. A script that is luscious, amazing, and everything you desire! You should be using the techniques to increase your vibrations, not when you are already feeling good. Worry about you feelING better, worry about you haVing fun without him, and in time he will appear begging you back. So you are not really asking, your vibrations do the work. It is your job to feel good and everything will fall into place. Read everything in the second column about stickies with alignment. You will learn from the best there. Read it and follow it.
Thank you for your kind words. I do have self worth and know I am capable of giving love not only to myself, but to others. What gets me is that I do do things for ME, to make ME happy, and yet he hasn't appeared. I know the universe delivers when the timing is right, and I trust the universe, but its more of.. 'am I doing something wrong?'. Or is it that he's on his way, and I'm being impatient therefore causing more harm..?
I realized it had a lot to do with being afraid. I couldn't even blame him because he was responding to my fear and lack of faith
This guy was the first one I dated since I ended my 6 year relationship. So yes, I did cause it and every since knowing about LOA, I've come to that conclusion. I was afraid, as I was so new to dating again and wanted it to work. We met via a dating site, so I often asked myself 'who else is he seeing? is she prettier than me, etc'. I don't think like that anymore, thankfully!
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I used Manifesting love and Veronica's book. I scripted and visualized like it was my job and I loved it. I felt like I was creating my own little world. I completely dove into it with no fear. I said to myself, if I can create all this crap with fear just imagine what I can create with love and unshakeable belief. I really believe anyone can get their love back. I don't know where your resistance lies but it's helped me a lot to evaluate my limiting beliefs and affirm new ones.
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I used Manifesting love and Veronica's book. I scripted and visualized like it was my job and I loved it. I felt like I was creating my own little world. I completely dove into it with no fear. I said to myself, if I can create all this crap with fear just imagine what I can create with love and unshakeable belief. I really believe anyone can get their love back. I don't know where your resistance lies but it's helped me a lot to evaluate my limiting beliefs and affirm new ones.
I love what you wrote.
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I scripted and visualized like it was my job and I loved it. I felt like I was creating my own little world. I completely dove into it with no fear. I said to myself, if I can create all this crap with fear just imagine what I can create with love and unshakeable belief. I really believe anyone can get their love back.
I have scripted a few times and did enjoy it. Thank you for the reminder -- I should pick it up again. I think some of my resistance lies in wondering when he'll pop back into my reality. I have this whole thing in my head of what it'll look like when we're back together, but its when "we're back together " that leaves me wondering.
I trust LOA, so now its believing that he's on his way, and how long I've got to wait for him to appear that's getting the best of me.
How have you all dealt with that?
"Believe in what you feel inside, and give your dreams the wings to fly
You have everything you need, if you just believe" - Believe, Josh Groban
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Don't figure out how it will look like, get out of the way and just know it's done. Like I have always been told, you can't watch water bgin to boil. The minute you walk away, turn your back is when the magic happens.
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