Cherished wrote:

But see, you don't have to start over! You're not weeks away, it's only VIBRATIONS! Have you read "Wishes fulfilled" by Wayne Dyer? I recently revisited that book and it is SO powerful. It helped me to persevere.. And really persevering is simply a habit. It's turning your thoughts around again and again until it becomes a neurological pathway.. And EVERY thought can become one when practices consistently. You have come SOOOOOOO far, I'm so proud of you. You don't quit the whole game if you drop the ball- you just have a chuckle and pick it back up. 💜

I love you cherished! I really do. I look forward to the day that I send you a message that says " cherished! I did it!! He's back! "

There might be.

Anyway, I know I'm not really one to give advice as I almost gave up faith.

But in the past few days, I have restored my belief and faith. You need to fully let go. From your posts I can tell you haven't. Honestly, I haven't fully as well and until I let go I won't get my desire.

Have you ever considered dating other people? Most dating coaches recommend doing that even if you still want your ex. The reason why I say this is because it can help raise your vibration and can be fun. You may even find someone better. If not, you could restore the confidence you need to raise your vibration. It can help with letting go too.

Have faith. Things can change.

Btw the first time I attracted my guy, I hadn't spoke to him in a year. One day I had the desire to contact him and I did. I new that if I did we would start dating and we did start dating lol. This was before I consciously used LOA. So it can be done.

Actually it can do the opposite. Imagine going on a date with another person you're picking out clothes and places to go. You have to do that for your ex anyways. Not only that, I try to visualize the stories I'd tell my ex. I would say something like I met this guy and we did this. In fact, when I go on dates I am visualizing what I'd tell my ex when I see him.

The experts could correct me if I'm wrong but does acting as if actually have a literal meaning? Because clearly, you are not acting as if you're with him when you pine for him.however, if you start doing things like shopping for dates etc aren't you acting as if. This is just another perspective...

iinikkii wrote:

I'm not real sure what you are trying to convey?? I don't NEED a man just to have a man. I want one. And not just anyone. If I just wanted to have another guy then that's what I would do, but I don't have the WANT TO for another guy. I left traditional dating advice behind a while ago when I come across learning about the law.

You don't have to do anything if it's going to create more resistance. I'm just enjoying my time cause I'm living as if I have my man and hey It makes me enjoy Myself even more which in turn raises my confidence. And yeah it takes a bit but I can tell you I never enjoyed my own time or focused on myself before in my life and ong I would not give up this feeling for being depressed or anxious (which I used to have badly)

I have my man in my vortex and I'm happy and I'm focusing on my desire while aligning myself and it feels freeing. I'm getting me back.

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